An Australian woman has exposed the shocking details of living with a sex addiction that she developed after her divorce.
Nadia Bokody, global editor of She Said, had six different men on rotation because she was ‘addicted’ to them.
‘It came to a point where it was really affecting my ability to go about my day… I was finding it very difficult to focus at work and at one point I left on my lunch break to have a casual encounter with someone I had just met online,’ she told The Morning Show.
‘Having that encounter was very lonely and very empty and I realised it wasn’t filling me at all.’
Nadia Bokody, global editor of She Said, had six different men on rotation and was ‘addicted to men’
‘We are quite comfortable with thinking of addiction as something that’s tied to something quite tangible, like an illicit substance or alcohol, but we have a very hard time as a society accepting that people can be addicted to something less tangible, like love or sex,’ she explained.
‘But addiction is a cerebral process, it’s got very little to do with the substance of choice and so much more to do with chasing that high, that dopamine hit that we all get when we engage in something pleasurable.’
Nadia told the program that for many people addiction is about masking a personal issue, which it was for her.
She explained that there were a lot of low points she experienced but her rock bottom is hard to pinpoint
‘One point I left on my lunch break to have a casual encounter with someone I had just met online,’ she told Sunrise
Now Nadia is in a happy and healthy monogamous relationship, but it wasn’t always that way
‘Growing up I never had a stable male role model in my life, so when I became a young adult I was looking to romantic relationships for that,’ she said.
Although Nadia understands that constant sex may sound like a dream for some, it was far from it.
Although we all have our own indulgences and vices, her vice was an addiction that wasn’t healthy.
Although Nadia understands that constantly wanting sex may sound like a dream for some, it was far from it
‘It can be quite toxic for a relationship because it is like a bottomless pit and it was impacting my life to the point I wasn’t able to function,’ she said.
‘When it comes to the point where it’s impacting your ability to go about your life is when it’s really an issue.’
Now Nadia is in a happy and healthy monogamous relationship, but it wasn’t always that way.
At the beginning she found herself overly dependent on her boyfriend Kynan.
‘It can be quite toxic for a relationship because it is like a bottomless pit and I think for me [it reached a point where] it was impacting my life to the point I wasn’t able to function,’ she said
‘Only a few weeks into us dating he would leave to go to work trips for the weekend and sometimes even leave for the night and the emotional reaction I would have was so incredibly disproportionate,’ she said.
‘We were both starting to sense then that there was an over-dependence on his attention.’
Although Nadia doesn’t think sex addiction is necessarily something you want to be bringing up on the first date, you need to find yourself a partner who you feel comfortable being open with.
‘It’s a mental health issue, it’s not something to be ashamed of, and you should be able to be very honest with a partner about that,’ she said.
‘Once Kynan and I became quite committed and close a couple of months into the relationship I felt comfortable to open up to him about it.’