A woman who was ‘tired of getting ghosted’ created an exit interview for dates who stop responding to her texts so that she could figure out what really went wrong between them.
Shanna from Nashville, Tennessee, said she was determined to get to the bottom of why a man she had matched with on Bumble suddenly stopped talking to her out of the blue.
She decided to create a survey for him to fill out, which contained questions like ‘Why did you ghost Shanna?’ and ‘What could Shanna do to stop getting ghosted?’
She shared it on TikTok, where it quickly went viral, gaining more than three million views and 190,000 likes.
A woman who was ‘tired of getting ghosted’ created an exit interview for dates who stop responding to her texts so that she could figure out what really went wrong between them
Shanna decided to create a survey for him to fill out, which contained questions like ‘Why did you ghost Shanna?’ and ‘What could Shanna do to stop getting ghosted?’
In the questionnaire, she asked the guy to rate her personality and looks, as well as various other questions about what she could have done to fix their relationship
Shanna texted a link to the survey to the man that ghosted her
‘I got tired of getting ghosted so I created an exit interview to see where things went wrong,’ Shanna wrote in the video, before showing some screenshots of the survey.
In the questionnaire, she asked the guy to rate her personality, her looks, and her hokes.
She also asked: ‘Why did you ghost Shanna?’ and ‘What could Shanna do to stop getting ghosted?’
She included another open-ended question that read: ‘If you could tell Shanna one thing before she forgets who you are, what would it be?
In a follow-up clip, Shanna explained that she started talking to the man after they connected on a dating app, and right away, they hit it off.
She said they ‘vibed so hard’ and were ‘non-stop texting.’ But suddenly, the day before they had plans to meet up, he began ignoring her.
‘The last conversation we had was about my work truck, so there it wasn’t like, “Oh, red flag, I’m going to stop talking to her,”‘ she explained.
According to the TikToker, she has always wanted to make a survey like this and decided it was a perfect time for her to finally do it
In another video, Shanna shared some of his answers. When asked why he ghosted her, the man wrote, ‘I caught feelings too fast and don’t know what feelings are’
As for what she could do in the future to avoid being ghosted again, the man wrote: ‘Date women because men are dumb’
‘Keep being a bada** b**ch. Sorry I was a d**k,’ he said, in response to a question that read, ‘If you could tell Shanna one thing before she forgets who you are, what would it be?’
He also gave her personality the highest rating possible, and said she was ‘smoking hot’
‘I had zero intention of getting anything out of this survey, it was just for pure comedy,’ she added.
‘This was purely to call out the fact that guys don’t have backbones or balls to be like, “Hey, you’re not it.” It’s not that hard. Believe me, I know I am not everyone’s cup of tea.’
In one final video, Shanna revealed that the guy ended up filling out the entire survey, and she shared his answers with viewers.
When asked why he ghosted her, the man wrote, ‘I caught feelings too fast and don’t know what feelings are.’
As for what she could do in the future to avoid it happening again, he advised her: ‘Date women because men are dumb.’
‘Keep being a bada** b**ch. Sorry I was a d**k,’ he said.
He also gave her personality the highest rating possible, and said she was ‘smoking hot.’
Some people were not here for the survey, with one claiming it ‘screamed low self-esteem’ and another calling it ’embarrassing’
However, others thought it was great and said they were going to do the same if they got ghosted in the future
Other commenters explained that being ghosted most likely didn’t even have to do with Shanna at all
The hilarious scheme sparked a firestorm of responses, with some commenters gushing over the ‘genius’ idea and others claiming it was a little over the top.
‘Omg I’m embarrassed by this,’ one person wrote.
Another added: ‘I would never. This screams low self-esteem to me ’cause why would you care about the opinion [of] somebody who can cut you off?’
‘Honestly, I need this,’ someone else said. A fourth comment read, ‘Wait, this is 100 per cent my energy, I need a link.’
Other commenters explained that being ghosted most likely didn’t have anything do with Shanna.
‘Why are you assuming you’re the problem?’ one viewer asked. ‘Why aren’t they the problem?’
‘I think most ghosting has nothing to do with you,’ someone else added. ‘It has to do with the other person just finding someone else.’
Another person wrote: ‘Being ghosted isn’t about you. It’s about the other person’s inability to communicate their feelings/needs/expectations.’