A super-bright career woman who studied Japanese at university but quit work to become a fully-fledged 1950s-style housewife has rebutted critics who call her ‘anti-feminist, ‘saying she is ‘happier than ever.’
Part of a growing movement of so-called ‘tradwives’ – short for traditional wives – Jayne Hall, 45, of Blyth, Northumberland, chooses to be a homemaker, adhering to old-fashioned gender stereotypes which cast men as ‘breadwinners’ and charged women with creating domestic bliss for their partners.
A retail manager before studying Japanese at university and eventually becoming a swimming teacher, Jayne’s ambitions did a U-turn as she went from working full-time to part-time to focus on cooking and cleaning for her partner, Allan, who works in engineering, and their sons from previous relationships.
Still earning what she calls ‘pin money’ for the family, Jayne had hoped to one day opening her own swimming school, but lockdown has given her the chance to become a full-time housewife – even dressing in 1950s gear and using vintage appliances – and she no longer wants to return to work again.
Jayne Hall, 45, from Blyth, Northumberland, revealed she quit her job in order to become a full- time housewife before lockdown, and has hit back at critics who say her actions are anti-feminist
Jayne used to work as a swinning instructor and had hopes of opening her own school down the line, but is now more interest in being the ‘perfect’ 1950s stay-at-home mother
Responding to critics who say tradwives’ attitudes are ‘outdated,’ she said: ‘I am very grateful to women who have fought for equal rights and know that sexism still exists in the world, but that’s not what is happening here.
‘Being a tradwife, making my family home lovely and having my partner’s dinner on the table when he gets home from work is my choice – not his. Living this way makes me happy.
‘I’m not being held back, and I’m certainly not disrespecting feminism by being a tradwife.
‘As women, we should understand that it’s about choice. There is no one set way to be a woman and, just as I don’t belittle women who go to work, they shouldn’t belittle me.’
The mother of two has adopted 1950s fashion and sleeps with rollers and a scarf in order to shape her sophisticated curls
Jayne said people loved her 1950s look, especially members of the elderly who could appreciate her sense of style
Leaving school with no qualifications, Jayne threw herself into work, eventually becoming a retail manager – a demanding role which often meant her working such long hours she did not get home until 10pm.
But, after having her son, who is now 12, with her ex-husband, she decided to become a mature student – returning to college, sitting A levels and landing a place at university, studying Japanese language and culture.
Always taking on new challenges, next she pursued her love of swimming and retrained so she could teach the sport, saying: ‘I’ve done lots of different things in my life.
‘Previously, I lived a very feminist, independent life. But, looking back, I can see I wasn’t happy then. I was going through life in a haze and was always painfully shy.
‘As a bigger girl, I never wanted to draw attention to myself. I’d see women sometimes in beautiful, glamorous dresses and think, “I wish I was brave enough to wear that”.’
A single mother for some time, after her marriage ended, her independence gave her more confidence and she met Allan online seven years ago.
Jayne said she used to live a very independent life as a feminist, but said she did not think she was happy
Not only has Jayne preferred the 1950s dress style, she also uses old-time applying like this mixer
She continued: ‘I wanted somebody who would cherish me and give as much as they took from the relationship.
‘That’s exactly what I found in Allan. We’re very similar, and grow together.’
As they built a life together, Jayne and Allan’s relationship went from strength to strength.
But, often coming home from work mentally exhausted, she said there was scant opportunity for quality family time.
‘I’d be completely drained after each day, and then come home to more work like lesson plans, as well as seeing to the house and kids,’ she said.
‘Eventually, I went down to working part-time hours and I loved being at home more.
‘Allan is not a man who thinks the woman should do the housework. Of course, he would help out, too, but he worked full time. Practically, I was at home more and so it made sense for me to take on the bulk of it.’
Jayne went from working part time to being a full-time mother and now spends her time cleaning the house, cooking and baking
Jayne, pictured before adopting her 1950s look, said becoming the ‘perfect’ 1950s homemaker has been beneficial to her mental health
Then, at the beginning of 2020, Jayne handed in her notice at work, hoping to focus instead on opening her own swim school.
But her mind changed again, after she enjoyed being a full-time housewife during lockdown so much that she’s decided not to resume her career.
‘I feel mentally much better and on top of things more. The house is tidy, the garden looks lovely, the kids are happy and I’m more able to support Allan, who has a stressful job,’ she said.
Now, not only is Jayne living as a 1950s housewife – she is looking like one too.
For years, confidence issues, with her worrying about getting nasty reactions from strangers to her wearing vintage clothes, stopped her from donning flamboyant 1950s frocks.
But, after buying a red lipstick in a vintage shop last year, everything changed, with Jayne saying: ‘When I decided to go for it and put it on, I got so many compliments.
Jayne’s teasmade and cups which date back to 1955. The stay-at-home mother said she loved vintage appliances
‘I’d been so shy for so long that I almost had to learn to say thank you and accept them, rather than feeling anxious that I had drawn attention to myself.’
Since then, she has ditched all her modern clothing in favour of 1950s styles, which will either be retro-look copycats, or genuinely vintage, mostly bought online from stores like Miss Candyfloss, Love Your Look and Popsy.
‘Size-wise, truly vintage outfits are difficult, as women in the 1950s were smaller than I am,’ she laughed.
‘Rationing was still in place until 1954. I remember my grandma telling me that, on her wedding day in 1949, only one layer of her cake was real and the rest was cardboard just for show. There wasn’t enough food to make a proper one.
The homenaker even uses a vintage vacuum cleaner. She explained she had all her appliances checked to avoid accidents
Everything in Jayne’s home is decorated to the style of the 1950s, down to her choice of bed linen
A look at Jayne’s kitchen. She joked the only two things that are not vintage in her home are her sons
What is a ‘tradwife’
Short for ‘traditional wife,’ the term describe a female home-maker who abides by traditional gender roles.
The term was born in 2018, after the movement spread on social media, including Instagram and Youtube.
A tradwife refers to a homemaker who loves nothing more than to clean, fix meals, tidy the house for her family while her husband is the sole bread earner of the household.
It goes one step further than being a stay-at-home mother, with the woman being responsible with the more traditional aspects of housework and childcare.
The term is controversial as it has been associated with far right rhetoric since some white supremacist tradwives came out as Trump supporters in 2018
Source: Urban dictionary and The New York Times
‘So, some of my outfits are from modern labels, but look retro. All of my jewellery is real vintage, though.’
In addition, Jayne also wears vintage-inspired makeup and sets her hair in rollers to ape the styles of yesteryear.
She continued: ‘I often sleep in rollers and setting lotion. It’s not very glamourous – I even have to wear a silk bonnet to keep it all in place.
‘It’s also very uncomfortable, so sometimes I’ll just use heated rollers in the morning instead.
‘I know some women of the 1950s would get up before their husbands to do their hair and make-up, but I haven’t gone quite that far. Besides, Allan gets up at 6am – I’m not that committed to the cause.’
As a plus-size woman, Jayne said she either wore modern brand with a retro flair or genuine vintage pieces to fit her 1950s aesthetic
Now, after years of dreading being stared at in public, Jayne has actually found reactions to her look to be overwhelmingly positive.
‘People will tell me they love the way I dress, and ask if I do it every day,’ she explained. ‘Men are more gentlemanly – they’ll hold doors open and so on.
‘Older people in particular really like it. They tell me it’s nice to see somebody dressed so beautifully, and that it reminds them of when they were growing up.’
Day-to-day, Jayne’s routine varies, but mostly, she will get up to make breakfast for the rest of the family, before airing the beds, which are made up with vintage bedding, including wool blankets and feather eiderdown.
Next, she gets herself ready then works through laundry, washing up and various other household chores.
Jayne uses an olive oil setting lotion for her hair which she applies overnight to fix her curlers with a silk connet
The mother-of-two’s kitchen is full of retro objects, down to the pans and kitchen utensils she uses
She may then decide to spend the afternoon baking, or gardening, before starting the evening dinner – which often includes some of the fruit and vegetables she grows herself, or a recipe from a vintage cookbook.
‘It’s never set in stone, and that’s not to say the rest of the family don’t sometimes cook and clean, too,’ she added.
Living in a true timewarp, Jayne’s house is decorated in a 1940s and 50s style, and all her furniture is vintage.
She even has some retro appliances, including a vacuum cleaner from 1952, vintage kitchen wear like a Sunbeam electric pan, mixer and coffee pot, and a Teasmade from 1955.
Jayne said she would start the day by tidying out the house before spending the afternoon baking or gardening
Jayne said she now had the confidence to rock her red lipstick and 1950s clubs after years of feeling shy about her appearance
‘I absolutely love vintage appliances, but I always get them checked out by an electrician – I don’t want to burn the house down,’ she said.
‘People say coming to my house is like stepping back in time. I always joke to Allan that the only two things in our house that aren’t vintage are our sons!’
Joining a Facebook group full of like-minded women, Jayne was thrilled to find a whole community of fellow tradwives, who share homemaking tips and tricks online – also supporting each other when their lifestyle attracts negative judgements.
She hopes that speaking out will show that she can be a tradwife and a feminist, as she believe feminism means respecting women’s choices as individuals, no matter what they may be.
The retro homemaker, who even draws her eyebrows 1950s-style, is part of a Facebook community of like-minded ‘tradwives’ who love nothing more but to clean and cook for their family
Jayne said she did not think being a 1950s housewife was anti-feminist and said it ‘did not hurt anybody’
Inside Jayne’s retro kitchen, with a paper towels distributor and vintage see-through cupboards
She said: ‘I wish I had started living this way years ago. I’ve never been happier.
‘Being a kept woman is seen as lazy, or old-fashioned, but I have had the opportunity to be whatever I want, and I choose this.
‘I feel lucky to be able to be at home to care for my family, and know women today have much more choice and freedom than they did in the 1950s.
‘People may not agree with me, but having a different opinion doesn’t mean either of us are wrong. There’s more than one way of doing things.
‘I’m not hurting anybody, and I’m not saying I’m better than women who do things differently and do go out to work.
‘It’s about weighing up what makes you happy, and what will make you look back at the end of your life and say, “What a wild ride”.’
The mother-of-two puts on her 1950s-inspired make-up with a vintage makeup brush from the era.
The mother-of-two even owns a vintage suitcase set
Evening glamour. Jayne now only wear items of clothes either from the 1950s or inspired-by-the-era but she draws the line at waking up before her husband