Women reveal when they first felt ‘unrecognisable’ due to ageing

Finding grey hair, fine lines and thinking your ‘looks are fading’, can leave the very best of women concerned.

And one person, approaching 30, started a debate on the UK-based forum Mumsnet after she shared her worries over when a woman’s appearance starts to seem unrecognisable due to ageing.

She asked: ‘At what age do your looks fade?’, adding: ‘I am coming up to 30 and really worried about this.’

Responses varied, with some older women insisting they still looked just as stunning as they did when they were younger, while others admitted they felt they’d lost their looks in their mid-30s, and a few said it was after having children.

Responses came flowing in from women of all ages sharing their own personal experiences with their appearance. 

Many said they still remained confident about their looks, with one woman saying: ‘I must say I still have a stunning face and I am slightly over 40.

‘Never heavy with the make up – natural beauty.’

Meanwhile another said: ‘I’m 59 and still stunning.’ 

The woman posted on the site to say she was coming up to 30 and was ‘really worried’ about her appearance changing  

One added: ‘I’m 53. I think I’m looking my best now. I’ve kind of grown into my face if that makes sense. However I know that people usually assume I’m mid 40s.’ 

However others said they felt their looks had deteriorated – with one writing:  ‘Mine went around 38/39.’

Another admitted: ‘For me probably early 40s. Now 51 and I things have really gone bad but I guess that’s the way of things.’  

A third posted ‘I’d say personally for me it was about 43/44 but I had also gained a lot of weight then. 

‘I’m now 50 now and I try not to look in the mirror because I look so so old and ugly now. Makes me really sad.’ 

 

Many of the women on the site immediately responded with the age they thought they were when their looks changed  

Another woman commented: ’38 for me – my skin texture has deteriorated so much and now I have pigmentation.’ 

A third person said: ‘My looks faded at 45. On my birthday. I looked in the mirror and could barely make out my nose. Faded clean away.’ 

And a fourth commented: ‘I’m definitely less attractive now at 29 than I was at 19. I think women tend to peak early 20s. Also whether or not you have kids definitely makes a difference.’

Someone else posted: ’28 here and I feel as though they’re fading fast.’ 

Other mothers explained that it was when they had children that they noticed their looks changing

Some women explained that it was when they had children that they noticed their looks changing. 

One posted: ‘Second child at 36 finished me off.’

And another women said: ‘For me it was when I had my 3rd child! I barely recognise myself in the mirror these days! Am 39.’

However others found the question shallow and unfair, with one saying it is insulting to all women out there. 

 

Some woman found the question shallow and unfair on women, with one saying it is insulting to all women out there

One woman said: ‘I am 53 and happy with the way I look and feel, it is insulting to all those who cruelly lost their lives young to be so shallow about ageing. There is a lovely poem “Let me age” by Donna Ashworth.’

And a second explained: ‘I’ve had over 30 people heavily compliment me more in the last 12 months than in the last 15 years purely because of losing two stone and living a more active life. 

‘I look better now (37) than I did as a fat 29 year old. So it’s not just about age but how much you take care of yourself. Look at Jennifer Lopez? Disclaimer – I am absolutely not in the same league as Jennifer Lopez!’