A transsexual man has revealed what it’s like to have sex as a man with a vagina.
Jake Miller, 45, who is better known by his stage name Buck Angel, sat down with YouTuber Arielle Scarcella, to detail his experience of learning how to have sex after he transitioned from a woman to a man.
Arielle who describes herself as ‘a lesbian who loves LGBT culture’, shared that she and Buck, a motivational speaker, sex toy entrepreneur, sex worker and pornographer, were making their video to reveal ‘how to finger a trans guy’.
Speaking out: Buck Angel, who is a transsexual man with a vagina, sat down for a very candid video interview about sexual intimacy
More specifically, ‘how to please a trans guy because there are some women out there and some men out there that are dating a trans guy and they’re not exactly sure.’
‘But you have to understand that everyone is different,’ Buck said, starting off the conversation.
‘This is only from my experience. As a pornographer, and as someone who has interviewed over 200 trans men, I have a lot of experience,’ he added.
Revealing that the most important thing about ‘fingering’ a transgender man is first finding out if he is taking testosterone, Arielle and Buck also shared that it’s important to have a conversation about whether or not any surgeries have taken place.
‘You have to let the guy guide you because not all trans men are okay with their vaginas. I’d say a lot of guys are not comfortable that way,’ Buck shared.
Buck also revealed that his clitoris has grown three to four inches from testosterone.
‘They can do a surgery where they release the top of the clitoris so it comes even longer, but naturally from testosterone it’ll grow three to four inches,’ he added. ‘It’s pretty big!’
Buck also detailed that when he’s walking around naked at the gym, he thinks men see his clitoris as a ‘little penis’, but his genitals don’t work the same way.
‘It doesn’t look like a vagina, it looks like something else,’ he explained.
His next tip during the ‘how to’ was to get tested before embarking on any sort of sexual act.
Opening up: Buck, whose real name is Jake Miller, sat down with YouTuber Arielle Scarcella to have a very frank discussion how to ‘finger a man with a vagina’
Making waves: The duo noted that their video is the first of its kind, explaining that nothing similar has really ever been done
Buck, who has also crafted his own brand of libido enhancer, also shared that a lot of trans guys are scared to experiment with their bodies, but ‘if you’re feeling horny, you’ll want to explore your body’, so recommended his product in place of Viagra.
Arielle then suggested that maybe this is the only time, trans men can experience a similar shame to the one felt by ‘cis’ women as heterosexual ‘cis’ men ‘don’t feel that kind of shame’.
‘For me to connect with my vagina was the best thing I’ve ever done, transition wise,’ Buck admitted.
‘Connect with your genitals my friends.’
Moving onto their last tip, Arielle advised trans men to not be ‘lube shy’.
Buck added a more detailed explanation, sharing that when trans men go on testosterone, the vagina gets dry and irritated, and lubricant is essential.
‘It’s just like menopause because testosterone removes estrogen.’
He added: ‘A vagina needs estrogen in order to function properly. We aren’t talking about that as trans men. Honestly nobody talks about it.’
Controversy: ‘There’s a lot of controversy in the trans community about touching your vagina or even calling it your vagina,’ Buck explained
Help: Buck owns a sex toy company that specializes in products for the LGBTQ community
Transition: When a trans man decides to undergo sex change surgery, there are different options for him to choose from, however some opt not to have a surgical procedure
Arielle then directed her next point towards gay men who may be unfamiliar with vaginas, and shared that starting slow was key.
‘Don’t just stick it in,’ she told the camera. ‘Treat it the same way you would treat a butt.
‘Slow, ask questions, make sure you’re both comfortable, make sure you’re both enjoying it, make sure you’re using condoms.’
Next up, Buck discussed how trans often find it difficult to masturbate, before adding that ‘masturbation is the best thing in the world’.
‘There’s a lot of controversy in the trans community about touching your vagina or even calling it your vagina, or even wanting to have your vagina, that you should have a penis and that’s it.
‘But I’ve proven that’s totally wrong. You can have a penis if you want to, I applaud you, go get it. But stop making it as if you have to have a make penis. It’s not fair to say that, everyone has an individual choice.’
Buck then finished up his tips by revealing he has also created a strap on that trans men can attach to their vaginas so they can masturbate while mimicking the act of stroking a penis.