A plus size fashion and beauty blogger has made an emotional video detailing the ‘truth about being fat’.
Alexandra Thomas, from Boston, Massachusetts, took to her YouTube channel to share how she was blindsided when her dermatologist told her she needed to do something about her weight.
Filming the vlog from her car straight after the appointment, Alexandra emotionally recounted that she had gone to the dermatologist for advice on her skin and hadn’t requested any help or information about losing weight.
Honest: Alexandra Thomas, a plus size fashion and beauty vlogger from Boston, Massachusetts has taken to YouTube to reveal what it’s really like ‘being fat’
Blindsided: Alexandra emotionally recounted that she had gone to a dermatologist for advice on her skin but the doctor told her she should get help losing weight
Outspoken: Alexandra tearfully told the camera that people think they can say anything to an overweight person about their size
However, as she was leaving her appointment, the dermatologist commented that she should ask her primary care doctor about her weight.
‘Being overweight is interesting, because people think they can say anything to you all of the time like you don’t know you’re overweight,’ Alexandra tearfully told the camera.
She added: ‘We had a great appointment, we found a remedy, and then at the end you just had to go and ruin it and say “and she can help you with your weight”‘.
Acknowledging that some people might think she was overreacting, Alexandra shared that ‘it never gets old how people can just think they can say something about your weight. Like it’s not something that I’m working on. Like it’s not something that I’m aware of. It’s such a weird thing to me. I just felt so overwhelmed.’
She also revealed that being overweight is something she’s had to deal with ‘constantly’.
‘I’ve always been bigger. I’m extremely aware of my body. I’m aware of my weight. I’m aware of my health. Believe it or not, I actually have pretty good health for my weight because that’s a whole other conversation, a whole other misconception,’ she added.
Alexandra also shared that she often wondered if people were as willing to vocalized their concern towards people suffering from other kinds of eating disorders like anorexia.
‘I just don’t think so. I think it’s a fat thing. And I’m okay with reclaiming the word fat. Skinny, fat, whatever, they’re adjectives.’
She also revealed that she had recently been offered a huge opportunity to take part in a weight loss transformation but turned it down because it revolved around her weight and not around her talents.
‘Sometimes it just feels like people only see you as fat. That’s what gets so frustrating. You look at me and that’s the first thing you see. Then that’s what you start to label me as. I’m so much more than that,’ she said.
Healthy: Alexandra shared that she tries to eat healthily and also works out because she is conscious of her health
Owning it: She also shared how a lot of people only see her as ‘fat’ and label her as a result
Shake it off: Alexandra shared that she has enough self love and confidence to shake comments off but sometimes they do get her down
Letting go: She also shared on Instagram that she is letting go of her body insecurities for 2018 and embracing her shape with pride
‘I’m not just my weight’.
Explaining why she felt so emotional, Alexandra concluded that ‘sometimes these little things will happen and trigger you. I left and it was the last thing she said and it hit me the wrong way’.
But she didn’t feel apologetic either.
‘We’re not dumb, we’re not ignorant to it. We’re not blind. But other people think like “maybe if I tell her to lose weight she’ll do it”. It’s really not that simple. It just gets so old,’ she said.
‘I have enough self love and self confidence in myself to just shake it off because I always do and I know I’m worth more than that.’
She also added that she works out and eats healthily and does ‘the best’ she can.
And just days after posting her impassioned plea, took to Instagram to reaffirm her self-confidence and her desire to face her insecurities head on.
‘One fear I’m letting go of in 2018 is hiding my lower tummy,’ she captioned a picture of her wearing jeans and a logo t-shirt.
‘Bottom line – it exists, it’s there, it’s a part of me no matter what size I fluctuate between. I love high waisted pants and cropped tops, so I’m going to wear them with pride.’
She added: ‘Let’s make 2018 the year of fearlessness, letting go of insecurities and learning to love them.’