If you’re one of those lucky women who IS able to orgasm purely from intercourse then I’m very pleased for you.
You can now go back to whatever else it was you were doing (like moving your house two feet to the left).
This is for the rest of us: the 80-85 per cent of women who have the majority of our orgasm quota through oral sex or using our vibrator.
Not that we’re not complaining or jealous, mind you… OK we are.
Because as much as orgasms are delicious any way you can get them, it would be rather nice to have one during intercourse, when he’s having one too.
Sex and relationships expert Tracy Cox reveals how you can reinvent your favourite sex positions to increase the chance of orgasm (file photo)
The point of this article is to shamelessly up your orgasm quota by reinventing your favourite positions so they are way more female orgasm friendly.
But none of it will work unless he’s also aware of what you’re up to – you MUST be honest.
If you can only climax during intercourse if he’s stimulating your clitoris as well, tell him. After all, it’s not his fault or anything to do with his technique – it’s biology.
He’s clued up? Great, let’s get started on reinventing some old favourites!
Lying positions
Go head to toe
Start by zapping life into the world’s favourite position, missionary or him on top, by going head to toe.
This one’s dead simple. He lies on his back. Facing his feet, straddle his hips and lower yourself onto him.
Then extend your legs backward and lower your torso down until your feet are next to his head and you’re lying on top of him.
You’re facing one way, he’s facing the other; his feet are near your head, your feet are near his.
Now, try slow thrusting, it’s far more effective at pulling the area around the clitoris for indirect stimulation and the angle of this position hits the spot far more effectively.
Use his penis in a different way
For a different type of clitoral stimulation when you’re in the traditional pose (him on top, both facing the same way), slide off him for a second and use your hand to slide the head of his penis up and down to stroke your clitoris.
It’s as soft as velvet and a turn on for him to watch you climax via his penis (albeit in an unusual way!)
Tracey (pictured) advises squatting instead of resting on your knees to take charge of thrusting when on top
Use the bridge method
Use your hand (or his) or a vibrator to continue to manually stimulate your clitoris while his penis is inside you – but stop just short of orgasm to let his thrusting trigger off the orgasm itself.
This is officially called the ‘bridge manoeuvre’: you’ve formed a ‘bridge’ between clitoral stimulation and a penetrative orgasm.
Girls on top
Ask him to sit up on the bed, legs extended straight in front of him, climb on top, cowgirl style, and let him penetrate.
Now let yourself fall back as far as is comfortable.
This angles everything nicely so he’s hitting the front vaginal wall (more on that later) and increases pressure on the vulva.
Squat don’t straddle
Instead of straddling him and resting on your knees, squat instead so your feet are on the bed.
Stay leaning forward then you take charge of the thrusting by lifting your heels and using your thigh muscles.
Instead of using a fast up-and-down action like most men do, go for wide, circular motions that are more of a grinding than thrusting motion.
This helps to maintain pressure on the clitoris via his pelvis.
Turn your back on him
The front wall of the vagina is incredibly sensitive – which is why rear-entry feels great for women.
To activate a G-sport orgasm
Him from behind positions alter the angle of the vagina and give him a direct shot at the area where the G-spot lives (well, it seems to in some women).
‘The Swivel’ works well.
He lies flat, you face his head and climb on top. After a few minutes, using your hands to steady yourself, lift one leg over your body and begin to turn sideways.
Tracey claims the sensation of needing to wee will pass and turn into an orgasm when in the correct position on top (file image)
Carry on rotating, stopping at intervals for a few thrusts, until you’re facing away from him.
Once there, arch your back as far as you can, widening your legs so he has perfect access.
If he’s hitting the right spot and continues to thrust, the first reaction you’ll have may well be a need to wee.
This is because the G-spot is near the urethra (which urine passes through).
Hang on (in all senses) and the sensation will pass and (hopefully) turn into an orgasmic wave of contractions.
To cop a feel
Him-behind positions leave your hands free to stimulate his testicles and perineum (the smooth area between testicles and his anus).
Meanwhile, he can stroke your back, bottom and lower tummy and – critically – you get to set the pace and rhythm, to regulate the depth of penetration and to generally be the dominant one.
It’s also a great position to give yourself a helping hand at crucial points because it’s easy to reach down and stimulate your clitoris.
For fantasy heaven
Him behind means there’s no eye contact, so both of you are free to fantasise about anyone and anything you like (without feeling guilty when opening one eye to see your partner gazing lovingly into yours).
The rear-entry position is wonderfully primitive, so perfect for those slightly dodgy, don’t-even-admit-to-your-best-friend type fantasies that suit ‘dirty’ sex.
OTHER GREAT TIPS TO INCREASE INTERCOURSE ORGASMS
- Put one or two hard pillows under your bottom.
- Pull your knees up to your chest or wrap them around his back for deeper penetration.
- Lift your legs high and rest one or both feet on his shoulders.
- Keep your pelvises pressed closely during thrusting and get him to ride higher when he’s on top to put pressure on the internal part of the clitoris.
- Try rocking instead of thrusting, using your legs as leverage to maintain a steady rhythm.
- And if all else fails, go for the one sure thing. Hold a vibrator on the clitoris during penetration.
For more of Tracey’s advice on sex and relationships, visit traceycox.com. For her product range visit lovehoney.co.uk