A mother-of-six has lashed out for being judged for telling off her children in public.
Krechelle Carter, 27, of Adelaide, has penned her frustrations on her blog Eight At Home saying she is ‘sick of being shamed’ for reprimanding her kids, Sylus 7, Noah 6, twins Paige and Olivia, 4, Bailey, 2, and one-year-old Emerson.
The mother claims that every time she tells them off she is met by an audience of people judging her.
Fed up! Krechelle Carter, 27, has penned her frustrations in her blog Eight At Home saying she is ‘sick of being shamed’ for reprimanding her six kids
‘I’m met with an audience of other parents or relatives, sometimes random strangers judging the way that I’m handling things,’ says Krechelle.
She says she tries to be diplomatic and calm but she feels that others see her as a ‘terrible parent’.
Krechelle, who has been married to her husband David for 11 years, says they share similar views and frustrations.
‘We have very similar ideas on rules for children and believe that by using the right tools to tell them off were raising our children to be respectful people with good morals,’ she tells FEMAIL.
‘My husband had to have stern words with our then five-year-old on the side of a road infringement of a crowd because he went to run across the road after the Christmas pageant. My husband grabbed his arm.
‘And two young women behind us laughed and said, ”I hope I’m never like that as a parent”. It was hurtful. They had no idea what trouble he was about to get himself into.
‘There is only so many times you can say; “sweetheart can you please not hit your sister with a rock because when you do your entering her personal space and it hurts and how do you think that makes her feel?” adds Krechelle.
She says she tries to be diplomatic and calm but she feels that others see her as a ‘terrible parent’.
‘By the third time it kinda comes out like: “if you touch your sister one more damn time I’m putting your iPad in the rubbish bin”.’
Krechelle admits she feels guilty for the way she speaks to her children and for not handling the situation perfectly.
‘I have six children and whether we’re out places or at home, I have to make sure my children are reminded that we have rules because they always seem to get amnesia once we leave the front door.’
‘We’ll be walking along a road and my children will start play fighting like they’ve just entered a WWE arena and I’ll have to say, “HEY; focus guys” in a loud stern enough voice so all six can hear me.’
‘And then it begins again. The judgmental stares, the head shakes,’ admits Krechelle.
Guilty: Krechelle admits she feels guilty for the way she speaks to her children and for not handling the situation perfectly
Unlike other parents who prefer not to ‘shame’ their children in public, the mummy blogger believes that if her children aren’t reprimanded on the spot then the moment is lost.
Krechelle cites three reasons why: ‘Number one: I won’t remember!
‘Number two: I don’t have time to sit down and pee let alone to lecture them later.
‘And number three: They were most probably being an a**hole; so maybe they should not be an a**hole and I wouldn’t have to pull them up on it?’
Krechelle says she would appreciate more support from the public and ‘less glaring.’
Support: Krechelle says she would appreciate more support from the public and ‘less glaring.’
‘You know what would be awesome; a high five, a smile. A thumbs up. I’d appreciate a “your mum’s right”. Or a “listen to your mum”,’ she asserts.
Krechelle says she’s doing ‘the best she can’ in raising her six children.
She admits she has rules and that she chooses to stick with them – especially during times such as school pick ups where roads are involved.
‘My rules may not be the same as other’s rules, but can’t we just support each other in our parenting choices?’ Krechelle says.
She also claims that mothers should not judge each other for being less of a parent, when they are really being more of a parent.
Krechelle says she’s doing ‘the best she can’ in raising her six children under the age of six
Happy family: Krechelle with her husband David who share similar values and frustrations
‘I’m sorry people are such judgmental b**tards.’
‘We all feel bad telling of our children, we all don’t know if we’re doing it right or doing our best. But I promise there are mother’s with you.
‘There are mothers looking on saying ‘you go girl’. You are the mother you have the right to tell your child off when you need to,’ says Krechelle.