A former escort has revealed why she stopped having sex with clients in order to become a ‘tantric’ sex worker instead.
Lily Eros, 24, now charges men upwards of AUD $400 an hour to perform what she calls an ‘erotic body massage’ – which generally begins with a 20-second hug.
The Melbourne woman told Daily Mail Australia there is no sexual penetration involved and stays fully clothed for the entire experience.
‘I don’t have intercourse with clients because I don’t want to. For me it’s really important to genuinely enjoy what we do together and to listen to my own body,’ she said.
Lily Eros, 24, (pictured) charges men upwards from AUD $400 a session to perform what she calls an ‘erotic body massage’
Lily was 18 when she first became an escort – after curiosity led to a desire to find out more about what it entailed.
But six months later, she was paid for intercourse for the last time.
‘I started exploring tantra and kink and more alternative sexuality because my desires didn’t fit in with what most people thought “normal” sex was supposed to be like,’ Lilly told Daily Mail Australia.
‘I knew there was way more to sex and I wanted to explore it.’
As a result, Lily embraced a new career as a ‘tantric sex worker’ – which involves creating pleasure through physical contact but not sex itself.
‘We have a different kind of sex to what most people think sex is, and I can get turned on and find it very pleasurable, but I don’t want them [clients] to have physical contact with my vagina – it’s just my boundary,’ she said.
‘I don’t need to be touched at all to be in an orgasmic state.’
Lily (pictured) explained that there is no sexual penetration involved and stays fully clothed for the entire experience
Although tantric sex can include intercourse, Lily doesn’t offer it as part of her sessions as she believes it’s not necessary to receive the benefits.
‘My sessions now are about helping people step into their full sexual power and exploring eroticism as a form of personal development and as a way to deepen intimate connection,’ she said.
When she first meets a client she wants to form a deep bond, so they will often do something that will help them develop intimacy.
Normally she gives them a hug that lasts at least 20 seconds, or longer if they want it to.
When Lily (pictured) first meets a client she wants to form a deep connection, so they will often do something that will help them develop intimacy
‘It could go for a couple of minutes, if they haven’t been touched in that long but we could even just hug for a whole session and they could be completely satisfied,’ she said.
Lily’s clients are allowed to touch her but the areas are limited to her arms, shoulders and her side, and they aren’t allowed to touch her breasts or genitalia.
To ensure this, she has her clients sign an etiquette form which explains why they’re not touching her and are instead ‘receiving’ her.
Lily said tantric sex is about a deeper and stronger connection within your sexual experience.
Lily’s clients are allowed to touch her but the areas are limited to her arms, shoulders and her side and they aren’t allowed to touch her breasts or genitalia
‘Although we live in a society that can be very sexually overt, there is still a lot of shame around sexuality,’ she said.
‘Most people can’t have honest, open conversations about it. With mindfulness and presence, we can unravel the shame and conditioning so we can feel free in our sexual expression and have more fulfilling experiences.
‘Through thousands of years of sexual shaming and repression, sex and love have been severed. They are seen as separate when they aren’t.’
Lily charges AUD $400 for a one hour session, but that price increases the longer the session, with a one and a half session costing AUD $550 and AUD $700 for two hours.
Lily charges AUD $400 for a one hour session, but that price increases the longer the session
Although she believes these sessions need to be experienced to be fully understood, she said they can vary from client to client.
‘Pleasure is a vast landscape and a lot of people explore a small area of it out of habit so the rest of the session is about opening their body up to feeling more through awareness and touch… And we can explore different areas of eroticism, tantra and kink.’
Occasionally the sessions include massages or simply lying in a bed together – Lily likened these to an ‘experiential sex education’.
‘A lot of people got very brief sex ed and it probably didn’t include how to feel more pleasure, getting to know your own desires or how to connect with another person intimately,’ she told Daily Mail Australia.
‘Although we live in a society that can be very sexually overt, there is still a lot of shame around sexuality,’ Lily (pictured) said
‘What we do together re-wires the neural network in their brains to create new pleasure pathways in their body.
‘Intercourse is not necessary to do this, and they can take what they learn with me into their life and experiment with their lovers.’
Her clients don’t fit into a particular mould and are a diverse range of ages, ethnicities, lifestyles and personalities.
She explained that what they all have in common is that they are ready to explore their sexuality and how it can empower them.
Her clients don’t fit into a particular mould and are a diverse range of ages, ethnicities, lifestyles and personalities (stock image)
‘Our sexuality is such an integral part of ourselves, we are literally alive on this planet because of sex, so its effects on us are huge,’ she said.
Lily reiterated the fact that a lot of people define sex too narrowly.
‘To me this restricts sex a lot. It’s not just penetration. It’s not just about genitals connecting. There is so so so much more available to those who are willing to explore and open their minds to different possibilities.’