Young Australian woman says moving in with your boyfriend is a ‘scam’

A young woman has decreed moving in with a boyfriend to be the ‘biggest scam’ because of the unreasonable amount of expectations – and says she demands a ring on her finger before taking the step.

Jessica, from Sydney, shared a video detailing the aftermath of the ‘worst decision’ she has ‘ever’ made.

‘Moving in with a guy when you aren’t engaged is the biggest scam,’ she said. ‘Especially if you’re a very traditional and gender role-abiding feminine girl.’

The woman revealed that she ended up performing ‘wife duties’ on a ‘girlfriend salary’ because of her new living arrangement.

‘You end up acting like a wife but you haven’t had that commitment yet,’ she said.

The reason a disparity in the commitment level mattered is because Jess believes that men pick the past of least resistance.

‘If they don’t have to take the next step, why would they do it?’ she asked. ‘That’s extra work.

‘Men get away with so much by society normalising moving in before there is commitment. They have it so easy – all they have to do is just be like ‘oh, let’s just try moving in together’.’

Women then think that ‘moving in’ is just the step that comes before marriage, but men then believe they can ‘put off’ marriage because they are living with their partners anyway.

‘Men think getting married and living together is pretty much the same thing,’ Jess said. 

‘They won’t take that next step, and before you know it you end up being a forever girlfriend.’

Jess then revealed that she has set a hard boundary with her boyfriends. 

‘If I’m dating someone and we’re at the point where we’re spending more than two or three nights at each other’s house a week – I need a ring on my finger or I’m not moving in with you.’

‘This is the hill I will die on,’ she captioned the video. 

Jessica, from Sydney, shared a video detailing the aftermath of why moving in with her boyfriend was the ‘worst decision’ she has ‘ever’ made

Thousands of women agreed with Jess’s theory and shared their own stories.

‘I agree!’ another woman said. ‘Moving in with a boyfriend is a huge risk decision, which I’d rather do together when married or engaged.’

‘Definitely, I’m not down to be test driven like a car and then returned,’ said another. ‘I learned that the hard way.’

‘Maturing is realising doing things the traditional old fashioned way is best because it protects you.’

Thousands of women agreed with Jess’s theory and shared their own stories about moving in with a partner without receiving a solid commitment

But others simply could not see eye to eye.

‘You do not truly know someone until you live with them,’ one woman said. ‘I want to live with him first to see if I’d even want to accept a proposal.’

‘It’s only a scam if you move in with someone who isn’t 110% committed to you. People can have different timelines – you just have to be honest.’