A concerned mum is torn between her head and her heart after finding a worrying collection of items in her teenage daughter’s drawer.
The shocked mum found a stash of vapes, one of which contained marijuana, and vape refill pods hidden in her teen’s room.
She said she confronted her daughter about the discovery but was told she is keeping the items for a friend.
While the mum wants to believe the teenager, she cant help suspect she is lying to her.
The woman turned to the internet for advice and very few were convinced about the teen’s excuse saying the paraphernalia ‘obviously’ belonged to her but cautioned the mum about getting too angry.
A concerned mum has asked for advice after she found a stash of apes and vape flavour pods in her teenage daughter’s bedroom drawer
‘Found this hidden in my teen’s drawer and she claims she’s keeping it for her friend. I want to believe her but there are so many empty containers at the top left,’ the mum wrote in a Reddit post with an image of the drawer.
Inside the drawer were two vapes and eight packs of flavour pods.
‘What do you think? And what is the best way to approach it if you were a teen caught by your parent?’ she asked.
Thousands were quick to answer the mum’s concerns with most saying the vapes ‘most definitely’ belonged to her daughter.
‘It obviously is hers and she is most definitely addicted,’ one user replied.
‘Please be aware there is also a weed pen in that drawer so you are dealing with marijuana use as well as nicotine. It is 100000 per cent hers, don’t fall for that,’ a added.
‘Don’t bury your head in the sand. It’s true, she vapes. Call her on her lie, do not start a fight and be very matter-of-fact about it,’ said a third.
The woman confronted her daughter who said she was holding the items for a friend however many online weren’t convinced she was telling the truth
‘If I actually was keeping anything like that for a friend the first thing I’d do is tell my mum: ‘Hey, just so you know these aren’t mine, I was told to hold on to them for [name]’ just so I don’t get my a** kicked if she came across them,’ a fourth explained.
Many warned the mum against punishing her child harshly as it could encourage her to keep more secrets from her.
‘They are asking if we were a teen how to approach it? As a teen I would lie and lie some more,’ someone said.
‘See the expiration dates for the pods. If they’re similar that indicates she’s been doing this for a short amount of time and if they’re not that indicates she’s been doing this for a long time,’ another recommended.
Some slammed the mum for ‘invading’ her daughter’s privacy.
‘The only reason I got in that drawer was because the drawer next to it was open and I saw old mouldy food (don’t ask, that’s another issue) in there that I had to get rid of and I decided to check the other drawers!’ she explained in response.
Others came through with helpful advice on how to deal with the situation using their own stories about getting caught as a child and sharing how their parents dealt with their rebellious behaviour.
One woman shared what her dad, who smoked her whole life, told her about the addictive habit.
‘What he told me and my brother: ‘I have no standing to forbid you to smoke. This is s***, and I honestly recommend you not to smoke. I know I shouldn’t, but I’m addicted to it,’ she said.
”I wish you wouldn’t smoke, but if you do, there’s no need to do it in hiding. You can tell us you smoke, you can smoke at home (outside, like I do), it’s fine’.’
She recommended the mum give her daughter ‘advice, guidance and support’ like her father did.
‘If your daughter smokes, she already has one problem. If you punish and repress that, she’ll have two problems. You won’t make her stop smoking, you’ll make her hide better,’ the woman added.
‘You’ll make her learn she needs to keep things from you. Just be honest about how you feel, give her the best advice you can, but tell her she never needs to lie or hide from you if she doesn’t take it.’
The mum was thankful for the suggestions.
‘I’m not a dumb parent who is asking advice and will just follow blindly (like others have implied in their comments) . I am looking for stories like this , because I want a better relationship with my teen,’ she said.
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