What is praise kink? Jana Hocking on the sexual fetish she loves the most

So there’s a sexual fetish doing the rounds at the moment and I for one am very much on board with it. 

It’s horrendously self-centred, slightly narcissistic, and probably a bit shameless to admit to… but it’s called ‘Praise kink’ and it has had a whopping 60 million views on TikTok so clearly I’m not the only one lapping it up.

The kink involves people who get off on hearing how wonderful they are (especially in the bedroom). So if you are like me and you go a bit wild when your fella calls you a ‘good girl’ while getting it on between the sheets… welcome, you are part of the ‘praise kink’ tribe.

Other popular praises that people in this tribe like to hear include: ‘You’re doing such a great job’, ‘Your boobs look amazing from this angle’, ‘You’re so good at that’ and ‘Baby, you feel amazing.’ Okay, full disclosure… that’s what I get off on, but others do too.

And it’s not just in the bedroom that we fellow ‘praise kink-ers’ like to hear words of affirmation, oh no. Discussing it with a friend the other day, she told me that she got all hot and bothered when a guy she was going on a second date with literally stood up and gave her a clapping standing ovation when she rocked up to their date in a killer outfit. The praise was real, and the pay-off was certainly worth the standing O.

I’m lucky enough to enjoy this serotonin rush every time my interstate lover calls me beautiful. (Side note: eww ‘lover’ is such a gross word but that’s basically what he is). Sometimes he will simply answer the phone with ‘Hello beautiful’ in this deep sexy voice that drives my wild. I turn into this big swooning mess. Why? Because I’m on a praise kink high.

Those small moments of praise prove that your person is solely focused on you in that moment, and who doesn’t love that? I mean come on, it’s basically like they’re worshipping you.

And I would go so far as saying I think it’s a kink everyone needs to embrace. No longer are we going gaga for the blokes who don’t text us back or play hard to get, nope we’re getting horny for the guys who adore us. The ones who call us baby and make us feel a million dollars. See you later bad boys, you’re so 2022. This year is all about the praise boys. Actually let’s clarify that… praise men.

The best thing about this kink is that it doesn’t come with a consent-clause, which we all know is super important when it comes to trying new kinky things in the bedroom. Nope, your only job is to show praise.

I was talking to another friend about it this week, and she said whenever she’s talking to her boyfriend about her day and he drops a casual ‘good girl’ into the conversation, she literally wants to rip off all his clothes and jump him right there and then. I pondered it for a hot second and agreed, there is nothing hotter than a guy inserting a bit of praise kink into a casual conversation. I remember a male friend did it to me once, and I looked at him in a whole new saucy way.

Those small moments of praise prove that your person is solely focused on you in that moment, and who doesn’t love that? I mean come on, it’s basically like they’re worshipping you 

I’ve also discovered that it’s ridiculously sexy to offer praise out, not just accept it. For example, if you’re getting all hot and heavy, why not throw out a compliment yourself. Watch how your partner lights up as you tell him he’s amazing in bed. Not only do they feel special, but they also put in more effort. Win win I say.

So if you want to try it for yourself, why not start slow. Start calling them baby, tell them how good it feels when they do a move you like, or surprise them with a loving text. Or do as my friends date did, give them a damn standing ovation next time you think they look good.

Unlike other kinks, this is a super easy one to do and doesn’t require any skills or special trips to an adult store. You just need a good vocabulary and the right attitude. Extra points if you’re a bloke with a deep sexy voice. Va Va Voom!