A therapist has revealed the five questions you should ask yourself at the beginning of a relationship to know if you are ready for true love.
Jeff Guenther, from Portland, Oregon, has become a viral sensation on TikTok for often sharing his expertise in the love and romance departments.
Most recently, he shared a video to his 2.5 million followers detailing the things you should be thinking about before you start a romance.
According to the love specialist, you should decipher whether you are being your ‘authentic self’ with your crush and ensure there isn’t a ‘red flag’ you’re overlooking.
Jeff Guenther, from Portland, Oregon, has revealed the five questions you should ask yourself at the beginning of a relationship to know if you are ready for true love
He has become a viral sensation on TikTok for often sharing his expertise in the love and romance departments
Most recently, he shared a video to his 2.5 million followers detailing the things you should be thinking about before entering a love affair, beginning with, ‘Am I being my authentic self?’
Captioning the clip, ‘Five questions to ask yourself at the beginning of a relationship,’ the love expert detailed the things you shouldn’t forget when crushing.
He explained that you should first think about how you feel around the person.
‘Number one, am I being my authentic self?’ he said.
The therapist explained that if you can’t be yourself around your crush it may be because you know in your heart they aren’t the one, or because you are too scared to open up.
He said: ‘If not, is it because my partner doesn’t make me feel safe enough to be me, or am I holding myself back due to insecurity or fears?’
Next, you should make sure you have thought about any red flags that you may have ignored.
‘Is there a flaming red flag that I’m not taking seriously?
‘If so, is it because there are huge green flags in other areas, or am I feeling kind of desperate and lonely?’ he said.
Jeff explained that people in lust often ignore warning signs of trouble because they are so focused on the thought of being in a relationship.
The third question the love expert revealed you should be asking was: ‘Am I holding myself back from really connecting with them? Can I allow myself to get closer or does more trust need to be built, and if so how can we strengthen it?’
Next, you should make sure you have thought about any red flags that you may have ignored
You should then make sure you can allow yourself to be vulnerable with them and that you are honest about your expectations
Lastly, the therapist noted that while a strong bond is important, it’s crucial that both you and your partner are willing to grow as individuals as well
Jeff explained that people in lust often ignore warning signs of trouble because they are so focused on the thought of being in a relationship.
The third question the love expert revealed you should be asking was: ‘Am I holding myself back from really connecting with them? Can I allow myself to get closer or does more trust need to be built, and if so how can we strengthen it?’
While being vulnerable with someone can be a daunting task, Jeff noted that it’s okay to let your guard down, and can lead to deeper love.
‘Number four, am I being honest with myself about what my expectations are for the relationship, and do they match the expectations that my partner has?’ he revealed.
Lastly, the therapist noted that while a strong bond is important, it’s crucial that both you and your partner are willing to grow as individuals as well.
He explained: ‘Number five, are me and my partner open to growing and evolving as individuals within the context of this relationship?
‘If not, what do we need to do in order to shift that mindset?’
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