A woman was left flabbergasted after being hit with a bill for £20 per person after enjoying a dinner party at a friend’s house.
Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet, she explained her friend texted her after the meal looking for compensation.
The woman said that prior to receiving the text she’d already invited her friend and her partner over top return the favour, and had brought a good bottle of wine.
She said that the steaks from the butchers they ate must have been expensive, but added that she herself still wouldn’t dream of charging someone after the event.
Commenters were on the woman’s side and branded her friend’s behaviour ‘outrageous’ and ‘incredibly rude’.
A women revealed on Mumsnet that her friend invited her over for a dinner party then texted her asking her to pay £20 for her meal (stock image)
She explained: ‘Paying for our own food – dinner party! We were invited to a friends house for dinner. Took a bottle of good wine with us, we wouldn’t ever go empty handed.
‘Had a good meal, but they sent us a message after asking for money for each person! I thought this was crazy and I would never ask anyone to pay for their food if I invited them over!
‘Am I being unreasonable to be a bit annoyed? We’ve already arranged to have them to ours in a few weeks time and I’m not asking them for anything!’
Many rushed to the comments saying her friend is ‘incredibly rude’ and her behaviour is ‘unacceptable.’
One person wrote: ‘That’s awful behaviour!!! What is wrong with some people?!’
Another said: ‘Outrageous behaviour and incredibly rude.’
While another agreed saying: ‘That’s incredibly rude. If they couldn’t afford to host then they should have asked everyone over and to bring a plate of food.
‘Or say come over and we will get a takeaway, but would everyone mind paying for their own share. But to ask for money afterward is just crazy.’
While a fourth said: ‘That’s unbelievably rude. I would be absolutely mortified to know someone that tight.’
Taking to British parenting platform, she explained her friend texted her after the meal looking for compensation
Many rushed to the comments saying her friend is ‘incredibly rude’ and her behaviour is ‘unacceptable’
Explained further the woman wrote in a follow up post: ‘My thoughts precisely!
‘They’d got nice steaks from the butcher etc which I can imagine was expensive. But still – I was pretty miffed!
‘I wouldn’t dream of ever doing that. I’ve had friends over in the past when I was a student and broke and I would just do a big stew and tell everyone to bring a bottle! But it wouldn’t cross my mind to text someone after!!’
In yet another follow up post she revealed: ‘We were very much invited! They’d just moved so wanted to host at their new apartment.
‘Asked for just over £20 each. I’m assuming that was all the food they cooked divided by all of us. we really enjoy their company, they’re great friends. It’s just this I can’t get over…’
Many rushed to give the woman advice although some suggested she should cut her friend off completely.
Many rushed to give the woman advice although some suggested she should cut her friend off completely
One person wrote: ‘I’d be tempted to reply something cheeky, but for the sake of keeping things cordial and preserving your friendship (if you want to), maybe reply something along those lines?:
‘Thanks for having us over for dinner, we had a great time! We brought the wine as a gift, but we didn’t realise it was BYOF (bring your own food) event and weren’t expecting to have to pay towards our food. How about you come for dinner to mine on the x, instead?’
‘Did they invite you or did you kind of invite yourself without meaning to? If that’s the case and it has happened multiple times in the past, maybe they’re hinting towards something.’
Another suggested: ‘Just message back and say the wine cost x so I will take that off and don’t bother coming to ours as you are not the type of people we wish to be friends with.’
Other suggested they had a similar thing happen to them with friends asking for money for weddings and birthdays
While another said: ‘I think I’d reply with ‘please tell me you’re having a laugh. Tell you what, I won’t send you the bill after dinner at ours and then we’ll be quits.’
Other suggested they had a similar thing happen to them with friends asking for money for weddings and birthdays.
One person said: ‘Wtf? I wouldn’t have the audacity! It’s just weird! My parents just received an invitation to a wedding where they are asked to pay to attend! If you can’t afford a wedding with a sit down meal then plan a cheaper wedding! I have no idea how some people function.’
Another said: ‘I got invited to a 50th birthday party recently but it said on the invitation it was £17.50 per head.
‘I declined, as did most of my friends who were invited. It wasn’t in a restaurant, the party was at their own home, and the brash request for cash was quite astonishing. To ask for money after the event is even more ridiculous.’
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