I’m a therapist – here are four relationship red flags during the honeymoon stage

A therapist has revealed the four red flags that could indicate murky waters ahead if they appear during the honeymoon stage of a relationship. 

Jeff Guenther, from Portland, Oregon, has become a viral sensation on TikTok by regularly sharing his relationship expertise. 

Most recently, he posted a video to his 2.6 million followers detailing four warning signs you and your beau won’t last.

The love specialist explained that constant fighting, jealousy, lying, and not being able to take criticism all foreshadow an unhealthy partnership. 

The therapist has become a viral sensation on TikTok for often sharing his expertise in the love and romance departments

The first two red flags he detailed in the video, which has so far amassed over 130,000 views, were jealousy and lying

Jeff captioned the clip, which has so far amassed more than 130,000 views, ‘Four honeymoon red flags to keep an eye out for.’

At the beginning of the video, he said: ‘While the honeymoon stage is generally defined by excitement and positivity, certain red flags that might indicate future potential problems or unhealthy dynamics may start to emerge. 

‘And while the euphoria of it all can make it hard to be honest with yourself, keep an eye out for the big ones.’ 

The first red flag he said you should be on the lookout for is when your partner is jealous or possessive. 

Jeff said that if your partner is ‘creepy obsessed’ with you and needs to know where you are every second of the day, then they aren’t in a place to date anyone because they are too ‘insecure.’ 

‘The relationship might suffer from a lack of trust,’ he added. 

‘Number two, dishonestly or a lack of transparency. If your babe is consistently lying or evasive, especially in the earliest days of your committed partnership, that’s not a great sign,’ the love specialist said. 

He noted that their evasiveness could indicate that they will ‘manipulate’ you in the future. 

The expert said that you should never mistake intensity for intimacy and said if you get into a bunch of fights now, it won’t get easier

The last red flag Jeff detailed was ‘an inability to handle conflict or criticism’ which he claims indicates communication issues

And since it’s the honeymoon stage, Jeff noted that you shouldn’t be having frequent arguments so early on. 

‘Healthy conflict is a part of every relationship, if you’re getting into a ton of fights during the honeymoon phase however, that is something to pay attention to,’ he explained. 

The expert said that you should never mistake intensity for intimacy and said if you get into a bunch of fights now, it won’t get easier. 

The last red flag Jeff detailed was ‘an inability to handle conflict or criticism.’ 

He explained that if you are kindly giving your partner feedback and they are responding with anger, it may mean they have communication issues. 

‘If your sweetie can’t take reasonable feedback and they become overly defensive or aggressive, it could signal poor communication skills and an inability to handle normal conflict in a healthy way. 

‘No relationship is perfect, even in the honeymoon stage occasional disagreements or issues are normal, however, if you consistently notice any of these red flags, it’s important to address the concerns and assess whether the relationship is right for you,’ the love specialist said.