A man has issued a grovelling apology after telling a drama teacher he met on the dating app Bumble that he’d only date her if she ‘made an effort’ at the gym.
Samantha Drain, a dance teacher from Kent, was chatting to Michael on the app when he sent her a photo of another woman and said she should aspire to look like her.
He also described her as being a ‘five or six out of 10’ while boasting that he was a ‘ten out of ten’.
Speaking today Michael apologised for the messages which he said he ‘found appalling’.
He claimed one of his friends had taken his phone and sent the messages when they were all extremely drunk.
Dance teacher Samantha Drain was devastated when she received the upsetting message from the man named Michael
Michael told the 23-year-old he thought she was a ‘five or six out of 10’ while he was a ‘ten out of ten’
He told The Tab: ‘Me and my friends were highly intoxicated and decided to take each other’s phones and write messages to matches on each other’s bumble.
‘They were mostly funny and harmless but in this case it was extremely rude, belittling and insulting.
‘I had no control over those messages that were sent through my account and had I seen what was written, would absolutely have stopped them from being sent.
‘That being said, it was an irresponsible position to put myself into and what we were doing was completely stupid and has resulted in a really sweet girl being disrespected by dumb actions.
‘I’ve tried to imagine how she must’ve felt reading that and it’s sickening that someone should have to read something like that in the first place. Unfortunately, it’s happened and cannot be taken back.
‘I have apologised to Sam personally and I will not be taking part in anything remotely as stupid as this again.’
Miss Drain, who posted the screenshots on social media, had only spoken briefly to Michael when he had sent the message
During the exchange Michael said Miss Drain seemed the ‘desperate waiting type’ and he would only consider having sex with her if she improved her physique.
Miss Drain, who is newly single, said the exchange had knocked her already fragile confidence.
She had received the message at a Christmas party which ‘ruined’ her night.
Michael posted a picture of another woman and wrote: ‘Hey Sam, I can call you Sam right???
‘So you see the girl in the pic? That’s what you could look like if you put a tiny bit of effort out in the gym, thank me later.
‘So when you look even the tiniest bit like her I’ll consider meeting up with you but at the moment it’s no way hosay, anyways sorry, YES of course I can make it [sic].’
Samantha responded in shock: ‘I’m sorry but how f*****g dare you.’
But Michael then followed her reply with several spelling and grammatical errors, saying: ‘How f*****g dare I?
‘Well SAM! I’ll tell you how… So I’m not gunna lie I’m a 10/10 and your clearly a 5 at a push 6 so with my advice I could push you to a 7 which would make me want to smash your back doors in. But at the moment it’s a no, sorry babe but mike pumper has to move on!
‘When your looking tip top I’ll let you know, you look like the desperate waiting type so I’ll hold you to that, Thanks, Love Mike [sic].’
The inappropriate messages knocked Miss Drain’s confidence and she admits she doesn’t know if she will continue to use the app
Miss Drain, who posted the screenshots on social media, said: ‘I have only recently become single and I am not the most confident person. It takes a lot for me to get the courage to just say hello to someone.
‘It is just really upsetting for anyone to be spoken to like that.
‘I let him add me on Facebook and he started following me on Instagram, which is how he saw all my photos. We did have conversations about meeting up but I still didn’t know him well enough. We all have our own insecurities and he was just throwing them in face.’
Miss Drain reported Michael to Bumble and has blocked him on all social media.