A top boss at an engineering company has allegedly been verbally abusing women he meets on dating apps – labelling them ‘stupid b****es’ and ‘fat pigs’ after they turn down his invitations to meet up.
Several women have shared messages with Daily Mail Australia showing the disturbing spray of insults they claim to have received from Anton Smolin, 42 – an associate director of Erbas engineering consultants in Sydney.
Each of the interactions, which all took place in the past 12 months, follow a similar pattern: Smolin seemingly erupts with rage when the women politely cancel dates.
A fourth woman claims he abruptly cancelled their date hours before they were scheduled to meet after he learned she did not intend to drink alcohol.
Renee* said she met Smolin on Hinge on Monday and the pair exchanged numbers before making plans over WhatsApp to meet up the following night in Parramatta.
However, she said over the following hours, as they continued to chat, the conversation seemed to run dry.
Anton Smolin (pictured) has allegedly been verbally abusing women he meets on dating apps
He messaged her on Tuesday morning checking whether she was still up for meeting that night, but sensing there was no connection, she told him she had changed her mind.
‘Hey there, I am actually going to pass I think, as I don’t think there’d be much of a connection there. All the best with your search and enjoy France,’ she wrote.
But Smolin seemingly felt slighted.
‘Why? I did nothing wrong. You’re such a weirdo time-wasting idiot,’ he said.
‘Just f**k off, you stupid fat pig. That’s the reason you’re single: because you’re an annoying fat piece of s**t. Nothing to do with not enough intelligent men being available.
‘Go eat some more takeaway… Men love fat pigs.’
Renee said she was shocked by the unsettling exchange.
‘We probably exchanged about ten messages each back and forth, maximum 15 across the space of about two hours, so I didn’t know him at all,’ she said.
‘[Then] when I declined a date with him, he went crazy!’
Miranda* said she went on one date with Smolin last month after the pair matched on Hinge.
Pictured: WhatsApp messages between Renee and Smolin earlier this week
They met at Opera Bar, in the city’s CBD, where they spent a few hours chatting and enjoying some drinks.
But Miranda said the date was a bit odd and she felt put off after noticing Smolin make derogatory comments about women.
When he reached out to ask for a second date, she declined, explaining she did not think they clicked and did not want to waste her time.
Smolin then resorted to name-calling.
‘Too late for that. You have already wasted so much of my time,’ he began.
‘I cannot believe what a rude, annoying, inconsiderate idiot you are. If you did not want to meet, you could have just said so. There was no need to waste so much of my time. You’re such a stupid, lying b***h.’
He then unmatched from her moments later.
Sharon* also met Smolin on Hinge back in May, and the pair arranged to meet up at Opera Bar.
But the morning of their date, she asked to reschedule because she’d had a big week of work.
Smolin is an associate director for engineering consulting company Erbas
Two other women alleged they had similar interactions with Smolin after turning down dates
‘It is so rude and inconsiderate to cancel last minute, after confirming, especially for a Saturday evening,’ he wrote.
‘It is too late for me to make other plans. You would effectively ruin my Saturday night.
‘Also I am going overseas next weekend for two weeks and next week will be really busy for me. So there are not a lot of options for postponement.’
Sharon explained she was exhausted and not feeling great mentally after her friend died during the week, but Smolin showed no sympathy.
‘Date cancelled. I am blocking you,’ he wrote.
Danielle* said she matched with Smolin more than a year ago on a dating app and they made plans to meet up for drinks at the same bar.
However, when she mentioned she would be driving to the bar, he told her she shouldn’t because ‘then you won’t be able to drink’.
‘Anton Smolin’ is named as the author of a self-published 2014 eBook titled ‘Seduction Chronicles’. Mr Smolin did not respond to enquiries about the book, which is described in its blurb as an ‘explicit’ account of a man’s sexual escapades
Danielle claimed Smolin sent the above messages to her after they had planned a date
‘It’s Monday night so I won’t be able to drink alcohol anyway. But non-alcoholic beverages and conversation are just as good,’ she said.
Smolin replied: ‘No. Date cancelled.’
According to the Erbas website, Smolin has ‘over 10 years of industry experience in project management and electrical engineering’ and has managed ‘numeral small and large service contracts’.
Those jobs have included several government projects, including consulting for schools and hospitals.
When contacted by phone about the allegations on Thursday, Smolin abruptly hung up. His profile was deleted from the Erbas company website shortly after Daily Mail made enquiries
A Google search for Mr Smolin’s name returns a result from the website GoodReads.com listing ‘Anton Smolin’ as the author of a self-published 2014 eBook titled ‘Seduction Chronicles’.
The book is described in its synopsis as an ‘explicit’ account of a man’s sexual escapades.
Mr Smolin did not provide a response when asked about the book bearing his name.
When contacted by phone about the allegations on Thursday, Smolin abruptly hung up. His profile was also deleted from the Erbas company website shortly after Daily Mail Australia made enquiries via email.
*Names have been changed to protect the women’s identity.