Anthony Bourdain and his girlfriend Asia Argento did not have a traditional relationship according to Rose McGowan.
The actress has released an open letter after travelling to Italy to be by Argento’s side, in which she writes: ‘Anthony and Asia had a free relationship, they loved without borders of traditional relationships, and they established the parameters of their relationship early on.’
McGowan goes on to say: ‘Asia is a free bird, and so was Anthony.’
The letter then goes on to reveal that after Bourdain met Argento he told a mutual friend that he had ‘never met anyone who wanted to die more than him.’
McGowan then explains that while both Bourdain and Argento had suicidal thoughts, Argento got help ‘so she could stay alive and live another day for her and her children.’
‘Anthony’s depression didn’t let him, he put down his armor, and that was very much his choice,’ claims McGowan.
Free birds: Anthony Bourdain and Asia Argento agreed to have a ‘free relationship’ after they began dating says actress Rose McGowan in an open letter (Argento and Bourdain in November)
Non-traditional: ‘They loved without borders of traditional relationships, and they established the parameters of their relationship early on,’ claims the actress (part of letter above)
Pals: McGowan wrote the letter after travelling to Italy to be by Argento’s side, and was with her on a film set as she wrote the remarks (McGowan and Argento in March)
This letter comes just one week after photos emerged of Argento strolling the streets of Rome with journalist and close friend Hugo Clement.
The joyful and jubilant pair were photographed smiling as they strolled through the Italian capital, just weeks after Clement, 28, posted Argento’s powerful speech at the closing ceremony of the Cannes Film Festival in which she attacked Harvey Weinstein and called the annual event his ‘hunting ground.’
Photos show the friends embracing and smiling just days before Weinstein’s indictment on two counts of rape and one count of criminal sexual act.
Clement is a journalist with Konbini news, and has done a number of well respected pieces for the agency, most recently on the famine in Congo, the livestock industry in France and the threats facing gay men in Tunisia.
Argento’s happiness was gone however by Friday with the news of Bourdain’s death.
‘Sitting across from me is the remarkable human and brave survivor, Asia Argento, who has been through more than most could stand, and yet stand she does,’ writes McGowan at the start of the letter.
‘She stood up to her monster rapist and now she has to stand up to yet another monster, suicide. The suicide of her beloved lover and ally, Anthony Bourdain. I write these truths because I have been asked to.’
That person appears to have been Argento, whose name is signed alongside McGowan at the end of the note.
McGowan also claims that Bourdain did seek some help prior to his death, but then chose to ignore the recommendations of a medical professional.
‘I know before Anthony died he reached out for help, and yet he did not take the doctor’s advice. And that has led us here, to this tragedy, to this loss, to this world of hurt,’ states McGowan.
‘Do NOT do the sexist thing and burn a woman on the pyre of misplaced blame. Anthony’s internal war was his war, but now she’s been left on the battlefield to take the bullets. It is in no way fair or acceptable to blame her or anyone else, not even Anthony.’
Celebratory mood: Argento spent the weekend before Boudain’s death in Rome with reporter Hugo Clement, with the two seen smiling as they walked through the streets (Argento and Clement above on Sunday)
Back on the scene: Bourdain’s Rome episode of ‘Parts Unknown’ was a remarkable feat, and one that was inspired by Argento’s father (Argento and Clement on Monday)
The chef and self-proclaimed film fanatic first met Argento in 2016 when she appeared on the Rome episode of his Emmy-winning show Parts Unknown.
Bourdain and Argento’s relationship then became public after the two were seen in Rome together early last year.
The lovebirds could be seen walking around the city hand-in-hand and then sharing a kiss after enjoying dinner at Pommidoro.
The two then returned to their hotel room.
Argento, 42, first met Bourdain, 61, just around the time that it was revealed that he and his wife Ottavia were separating after nine years of marriage.
The actress and Bourdain’s ex-wife are near look-alikes and both hail from Italy.
Bourdain’s Rome episode of ‘Parts Unknown’ was a remarkable feat, and one that was inspired in some ways by Argento’s father.
Dario Argento is considered by many to be one of the great horror directors, and is known for his highly stylized films, among them the 1977 classic Suspiria.
The episode was shot entirely in widescreen and featured no imagery of classic Rome, choosing instead to show only ‘the architecture of Mussolini and post-Mussolini era.’
Argento helped Bourdain with this by showing him some of her favorite spots and having her sister cook for him.
She even took Bourdain to what he described as a ‘bats*** crazy boxing club where we ate pasta ringside as gladiators pounded one another and the crowd hooted and roared.’
Argento has two children, an 8-year-old son Nicola with her ex-husband Michele Civetta and a 16-year-old daughter Anna from her relationship with musician Marco Castoldi.
She shot to fame as a teenager due to her famous father and roles in a number of Italian movies, receiving the Italian equivalent of the Academy Award twice before the age of 20.
Argento then found fame in America with her role opposite Vin Diesel in XXX, and two years later was back with her English language directorial debut, having adapted J. T Leroy’s controversial novel ‘The Heart is Deceitful Above All Things.’
She has appeared in a number of films over the past decade, most notably Marie Antoinette, Boarding Gate, The Last Mistress and Mother of Tears.
In 2014 she premiered her film Misunderstood at the Cannes Film Festival, which she wrote and directed, telling the press that she was done with acting.
Bourdain was a fan of the film, which he called ‘remarkable and beautiful.’
After the two met, he posted a pic of Dario with his young daughter on Twitter, writing: ‘Happy Birthday to the master.’
Argento shared a photo of the pair last month in Florence that showed them embracing after wrapping a new episode of Bourdain’s show.
It would be the last public photo of the two together
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