‘She sent me articles on polyamory’: Single mother is shocked after her best friend asks her to have sex with her HUSBAND
- A single mum has revealed she was asked by a friend to sleep with her husband
- She said the situation is tricky because she spends a lot of time with the family
- The friend regularly sends her articles on polyamory in a bid to spark her interest
- Sexologist Dr Nikki Goldstein explains how to tell if polyamory is right for you
A single mum has revealed her shock at being asked by her best friend if she would consider having sex with her husband.
Sharing details with Australian sexologist Dr Nikki Goldstein, the woman named Sally said her friend is on medication and has a ‘non-existent sex drive’.
While she said hadn’t ruled out the idea entirely, things are complicated by the fact she and her friend do ‘a lot of family stuff together’ as their kids are the same age.
Signing off, Sally told Dr Goldstein her friend regularly sends her articles on polyamory as a way of potentially sparking her interest.
A single woman said she was shocked after her best friend asked her if she would consider having sex with her husband (stock image)
Dr Nikki Goldstein (pictured) said it is important to take a non-judgmental position toward sexual desire
In response to the woman’s request for ‘helpful advice’, Dr Goldstein said not knowing her feelings about the proposal made things tricky.
However, she said she hoped she was thinking about things with an open mind, one that takes into account the ‘unique’ nature of sexual desire.
‘This might sound a bit odd to you Sally, but don’t ever judge somebody for what their sexual desires are.’
‘We all have a unique and different way of constructing a relationship,’ she wrote on her blog.
Dr Goldstein said it was a positive sign her friend trusted her enough to speak openly about the proposal which she said she may see as a legitimate way to help save her marriage.
‘If she doesn’t have a sex drive towards her partner any more and her partner still desires sex, then maybe being able to form some sort of relationship with you might be a great idea,’ she said.
The relationship expert told Sally the most important thing she needed to consider was how she honestly felt about the situation.
Dr Goldstein it was positive her friend had trusted her enough to broach the subject with her, however, she said several things needed to be considered before proceeding (stock image)
This meant asking herself if she was attracted to her friend’s husband along with being secure in the knowledge this was ‘something’ she could do.
‘How would you feel about being in a polyamorous relationship and having her as a friend but having a relationship with her husband?’ Dr Goldstein asked.
Shining a light on the reality of polyamory, the expert said it was worth thinking about what might happen if things ‘go wrong’.
She said if the partnership didn’t work out it might spell the end of her friendship, something that would impact her as well as her family.
Dr Goldstein added it was important to carefully weigh up the risks as well as the possible benefits before making a decision.
She said above all else to be very clear there is a real desire and this is ‘something you could see yourself doing’.
Dr Goldstein said to pay attention to which direction the scales tip when the value of the friendship – and its potential loss – is added.