BLIND DATE: She ‘didn’t leave the date feeling good about herself’. Read on to find out what he did wrong…

Every week, FEMAIL asks two singletons to report back from their blind date.

This time it’s the turn of Miriam, a 38-year-old PHD student, and NHS administrator Chris, 42.

Read on to find out exactly why Cupid’s arrow failed to strike…

Miriam, 38


Single for nine months, never married and no children.CU


PhD student in electrical engineering.


Someone kind and supportive, family-orientated, who is open to trying new things. A big no to smokers

PHD student Miriam, 38, felt Chris was ‘undermining my intellectual achievements’

Dating Past

My most recent relationships were both long-term — one for over six years and another for five. I took on a lot of the heavy lifting with my last partner. Men now seem to look for adoption rather than a partner.

Pre-Date Nerves?

Yes, I’m a bit shy and was meeting someone who sounded way cooler than me on his profile. He’s in a band. Mum was keen to go through her dresses. She’s 74, but looks young for her age and buys beautiful clothes, whereas I tend to go for charity shops. For once, I wore one of my own dresses.

First Impressions?

Chris had a red shirt on, and it struck me he’d made an effort. I didn’t find him attractive immediately. We did that awkward British thing of not knowing whether to hug or shake hands so bumped into one another. Chris said he’d signed up for a blind date ‘because why not’, which didn’t make me feel very special.

Easy To Talk To?

I told Chris my PHD was on AI and he replied, ‘Oh that’s topical, isn’t it?’ Er – yes. I had already told him I was studying for a PHD, but he ‘forgot’ and referred to it as a Masters. He also made a reference to me ‘learning’ Welsh rather than ‘speaking’ it. I felt that he was undermining my intellectual achievements, which I didn’t like. I was amazed he had also started a Masters in Psychotherapy, because he isn’t very self-aware. It made sense when he admitted he didn’t finish the course.

Embarrassing Moments?

I don’t think so, which is good because I’m normally clumsy.

Did Sparks Fly?

No, if I like someone I get nervous and giggly, and there was no chance of that with Chris. There was no flirting on either side.

'There was no flirting on either side,' said Miriam

‘There was no flirting on either side,’ said Miriam

See him again?

No, we were together for two hours and we left when I said I had to catch my train back to Wales. We didn’t swap numbers.

What do you think he thought of you?

Chris didn’t engage with me at all, so I didn’t leave the date feeling good about myself.

Would your parents like him?

NO I don’t think so. My parents want to see me with someone supportive of my goals.


LIKED? We shared food.

REGRETS? No, it’s good to go outside my comfort zone.



Chris, 42


Single for five years, divorced, no children.


NHS administrator.


Someone curious about the world, positive, outgoing, quick to laugh. I can’t do those materialistic types.

Chris says of his date: 'While it felt like we were on the same wavelength, there was no physical attraction.'

Chris says of his date: ‘While it felt like we were on the same wavelength, there was no physical attraction.’

Dating Past

I split from my wife of four years just over ten years ago. Since then, I’ve been involved in a couple of shorter relationships but nothing recently. I’m the youngest of three boys and it’s just me who is single now. I am keen to settle down.

Pre-Date Nerves?

A little bit but nothing to worry about. I know I have good people skills.

First Impressions?

Positive – I got a good friendly vibe from Miriam. She’s got dark hair and is fairly slim. I found her attractive, although there wasn’t any immediate ‘electricity’. I gave her a hug and pulled her chair out for her to sit down. She struck me as a very engaging woman.

Easy To Talk To?

I’m the youngest of three boys and it’s just me who is single now,' says Chris. 'I am keen to settle down.'

I’m the youngest of three boys and it’s just me who is single now,’ says Chris. ‘I am keen to settle down.’

The small talk was unusual. We covered Miriam learning the Welsh language, which I found fascinating. I was impressed with her studies, too. I think it’s something to do with AI? It’s beyond my level of understanding. She did live in Mexico in between all those years studying with her nose in a book. Miriam asked me about my band, and I explained that I play keyboard and sing backing vocals.

Embarrassing Moments?

No. Miriam did drop her cutlery at one point, but that wasn’t embarrassing.

Did Sparks Fly?

I would say no, not in the sense of romance. While it felt like we were on the same wavelength, there was no physical attraction. Afterwards I realised I should have complimented her on her looks. But I didn’t, and I put that down to Miriam being so talkative.

See her again?

No, you need a spark. If there had been obvious signs she liked me, then perhaps I would have pursued things, but they weren’t there. We didn’t swap numbers and just had a friendly hug.

What do you think she thought of you?

I’d guess she would say that I was easy to talk to because we spent two hours together and the conversation didn’t stop.

Would your friends like her?

Yes, Miriam is very grounded with her head screwed on. She’s got good values, too.


LIKED? Miriam is talkative.

REGRETS? Not really, no.