Bride is called a ‘terrible human being’ after admitting she doesn’t want her wheelchair-bound father to take her down the aisle because his chair would ‘add complications’ to the wedding
- The 24-year-old’s father was left a paraplegic in a car accident three years ago
- She is getting married in November and doesn’t want him to walk her down the aisle because ‘accommodations’ will have to be made for his wheelchair
- She said it will also remind her of what her wedding could have been
- When the woman, who is thought to be British, told her mother she’d like her uncle to step in, her mother called her an ‘ableist POS’
- Redditors are calling her selfish and a terrible human being
A bride-to-be is being called ‘an awful daughter,’ ‘selfish,’ ‘a terrible human being,’ and ‘one of the biggest f***ing a**holes’ ever for admitting that she didn’t want her dad to walk her down the aisle at her wedding because he is in a wheelchair.
The 24-year-old bride, who is thought to be British, explained that her dad was paralyzed in a car accident three years ago — and she has avoided seeing him too much since because ‘seeing him in pain’ makes her ‘uncomfortable.’
Now that she’s set to wed in November, she wants to exclude her father and have her uncle accompany her down the aisle, because her dad’s wheelchair would ‘add complications’ and she ‘doesn’t want to be reminded of what could’ve been her wedding.’
Terrible: A bride-to-be is being called ‘an awful daughter’ for admitting that she didn’t want her dad to walk her down the aisle at her wedding because he is in a wheelchair (stock image)
The bride explained in a Reddit that that her dad was injured in a ‘really bad’ hit-and-run car accident three years ago, which left him with nearly every bone in his body broken and permanent paralysis from the waist down.
‘Our relationship has always been really good, but I hate seeing him in pain and admittedly try to avoid seeing him because it just makes me uncomfortable,’ she said.
Her wedding to her partner of four years is scheduled for November, and it’s come time to make some decisions about the ceremony.
‘Naturally the discussion of who was going to give me away came up in the family group chat, and I kept silent after I realised my dad would be in a wheelchair,’ she said.
‘We always talked about him giving me away and having a dance at my wedding and I don’t want to be reminded of what could’ve been at my wedding.’
Not wanting him to be involved because it would spoil the day for her, she told her mom that she wanted her uncle to walk her down the aisle instead.
‘I told her that my dad being in a wheelchair would add complications to the wedding,’ she said. ‘The walkway would have to be widened to accommodate his wheelchair and he wouldn’t be able to hold my arm or give me a proper hug.’
Her mom was ‘outraged,’ calling her ‘an ableist POS’ and even removing her from the family group chat.
Back story: The 24-year-old’s father was left a paraplegic in a car accident three years ago
She learned from her aunt that her dad found out and is ‘absolutely devastated’.
The post has garnered over a thousand comments from horrified Redditors who can’t believe someone could be so cold.
‘What an awful daughter,’ wrote one. ‘You avoid him because it is hard on you? What about him? Now you don’t want to accommodate him to walk you down the aisle?God, you should be ashamed of yourself. Your fiancé should take a long look at who he is marrying.’
‘Excluding him from this moment would be an incredibly hurtful and selfish thing to do. And it’s a level of hurt that a family may never recover from,’ said another.
Some are wondering how seriously she is taking her vows to love her husband ‘in sickness and in health,’ noting that he should be worried about whether she’d stay with him if there were any struggles.
‘You’re one of the biggest f***ing a**holes I’ve seen in this sub,’ wrote another. ‘If I was related to you, I’d be so ashamed. And if I was your fiancé, I’d take this as a sign that our wedding vows would only be good until I had an accident and got disabled – then I could bet on you abandoning me because of your shallowness.
Several commenters also pointed out that there are countless brides that would give anything to have their fathers at their weddings, but they are either dead or don’t care enough to be involved.