A Christian YouTuber has revealed what it was really like to lose her virginity on her wedding night after people claimed the experience would be ‘painful and awkward.’
Emily Wilson, 28, a YouTuber from California who often posts about her religion and life as a wife, has opened up about what her wedding night was like after someone emailed her a question about being a virgin.
In a new video entitled ‘Was Wedding Night Awkward As A Virgin?’, Emily said: ‘Awkward is never and never will be a word that I would use to describe my wedding night.’
Candid: Emily Wilson, a Christian YouTuber from California, revealed what it was like to lose her virginity on her wedding night to her followers
Special: She candidly explained how both she and her husband, Daniel, where virgins when they got married in December 2015
Common misconceptions: Emily admitted people sometimes think waiting will make the first time ‘awkward and painful’ for a married couple, but she said that isn’t true
Her response to this question came after a woman, who Emily nicknamed ‘Nadia’, emailed in because she was waiting until marriage.
‘I’ve decided to save sex for marriage. As a college student, this has been difficult to stay the least but so far I’ve managed to stay true to my promise,’ Nadia wrote.
‘However, I have talked to some of my friends who have had sex and their stories have scared me. They have talked about their first time as awkward and painful.’
Emily married her husband, Daniel, in December 2015 and said the pair were both virgins until their wedding night.
‘The only person who can speak to what it will be like to be a virgin on your wedding night is someone who was a virgin on their wedding night,’ Emily said in response to the email.
The YouTuber went on to describe why this decision was so important within her own relationship with her husband.
‘There is a huge, huge difference in sharing something so personal, so private, and so intimate with a man who has promised nothing to you, and a man who has promised his entire life to you,’ she said.
‘The entire scenario is different. Physically, the act is the same. But mentally, spiritually and emotionally, it is a whole different story.
Cute: The YouTuber went onto say that she would never describe her wedding night as ‘awkward’ because she was with someone she committed to
Love: ‘I had no questions, I had no qualms, I had no reservations about what was going to take place,’ Emily said
Revealing: Although she admitted the act could be physically painful the first couple of times, Emily said it was not awkward or weird
‘When Daniel and I said our vows to each other… everything changed.
‘We laid down our lives for one another. We vowed to love one another ’til death do us part. That is no small thing. That changes everything.’
She went on to explain that being with her husband meant she had ‘absolutely no reservations’ about having sex with him.
In the email, the woman said her friends claimed that if she waited until her wedding night she would be in pain for the rest of the honeymoon.
One friend even said she couldn’t walk easily for a week after she first had sex.
‘Is there truth to that your wedding night physically may be uncomfortable if you have never had sex before? Yeah, probably,’ Emily said in response to the suggestion that there was pain involved in losing your virginity.
‘That is natural, that is normal, that is 100 per cent OK.’
But she quickly shut down any notions that the experience will be awkward just because it is someone’s first time.
Why some people experience awkwardness with their first times, in Emily’s opinion, could be due to them worrying about the guy, if they are doing it right, the fear of getting pregnant, and the potential to contract STDs.
Committed: The couple got married in December 2015 and are expecting their first child together in October
Breaking it down: ‘It is a good and beautiful thing in the right context, in the context of marriage,’ Emily said
She explained she didn’t experience those same doubts because she had committed herself to Daniel.
‘I was at peace, I felt really, really comfortable, as a woman,’ Emily noted. ‘The thing that I could focus on was loving my husband. And that was it.’
‘I had no questions, I had no qualms, I had no reservations about what was going to take place,’ she added.
‘I was with a man who loved me. A man whose utmost concern for the night was that I would feel comfortable.’
One issue Emily has found in regards to sex and waiting till marriage is that some people are taught it is a ‘dirty act’ in order to encourage them to abstain.
Her message for her viewers is that sex shouldn’t be viewed as a ‘dirty act’ if it is in the right context.
‘It is a good and beautiful thing in the right context, in the context of marriage,’ Emily said. ‘That is what it was designed for.’
Emily has been with her husband for more than two years and the couple is expecting their first child in October.