A relationship expert known for his controversial opinions on dating says it is time to ban ‘nights out with the boys’ and says it isn’t controlling, it is just common sense.
Jake Maddock, Australia’s self-described ‘tough love relationship coach’, believes it is impossible to have a healthy relationship if you are going out with your mates ‘acting single’.
‘Acting single while in a relationship is no good,’ he told FEMAIL.
‘Don’t go out by yourself. Don’t do boys and girls holidays by yourself. Don’t do boys or girls’ nights out – none of that rubbish.’
Self-described ‘tough love’ relationship coach Jake Maddock (pictured) says coupled men and women need to stop ‘acting single’ by heading to events on their own
Jake says ‘people do it all the time’ but it doesn’t mean it is a good idea, and the same goes for women craving a ‘girls night’.
‘Going out clubbing by yourself, you are going out and doing shots by yourself at midnight, having a mad time dancing around.
‘What is your partner doing? Sitting at home being sad, being lonely and wondering what you are up to,’ he said.
He then slammed the idea that banning your partner from going out is ‘controlling’.
‘Everyone out here trying to have these PC relationships, it doesn’t work,’ he said.
‘To have a ten out of ten relationship you have got to be in a relationship.’
He suggests people ‘go out and have fun’ but bring their partner along.
Jake has been dubbed the ‘most derisive’ relationship coach on TikTok by both men and women because of his controversial opinions.
He believes men should pay for every date, women should lean in to their feminine energy and that people should have sex on their first date.
Jake rebranded as a relationship coach after ‘discovering’ how to achieve a good relationship.
But the former soldier’s ‘man’s man’ view appears to have had a polarising impact on some of his audience – with many women claiming his advice stretches the void between offensive and dangerous.
One such piece of advice is that couples should be intimate between two and three times per week, minimum, throughout their whole relationship.
‘There is no **qualified** sex or relationship therapist who would give such blanket advice… from a sexologist in training,’ one woman said.
Clementine Ford commented: ‘You have no qualifications to present yourself as a “relationship coach”. Not only is advice like this really dangerous and predatory, but you don’t even offer a reason why? These are just your personal opinions,’ she said.
In the controversial video he said there are ‘no excuses’ for letting intimacy slide.
‘Of course there’s no excuses. Because you don’t need an excuse to not have sex. A simple no is enough. Please learn what consent is,’ one woman said.
In another video Jake says women shouldn’t ask men out – but can make suggestions about dates.
Jake believes going out with your mates is akin to ‘acting single’ and that your partner should always be with you on nights out (stock image)
‘You want to say things like I love talking to you, when are you going to ask me on a date,’ he said.
But his followers argued this advice goes against his masculine, feminine rule.
‘If you are trying to be feminine you wouldn’t ask him for a date backwards or forwards, that’s being masculine in my opinion,’ one woman said.
‘This is kind of passive aggressive and not very attractive to me,’ said another.
While others slammed the tactic for ‘rewarding lazy, low effort men’.
‘I normally agree with you, but not on this one. Does a masculine man need prompting about taking you out on a date? I don’t think so.’
The polarising relationship coach became popular on TikTok for his controversial opinions which include having men pay for every date
Jake continues to defend his career move and now speaks to an audience of over 70,000 followers on Instagram.
‘There was a good ten-year period in my life that was pure hell because I didn’t understand relationships at all,’ he said.
‘So, I decided to learn about and become a master at them. After years of studying under mentors and reading books and putting information into practice, I achieved a 10/10 relationship,’ he added.
Jake believes men struggle in relationships because they ‘aren’t good at verbalising their wants and needs, or even understanding them’.
‘The greatest mistakes people make are not being intimate enough, not communicating effectively, ignoring masculine and feminine energy, not going on enough dates and disrespecting each other,’ he said.