A cuddle therapist has revealed exactly what is and isn’t included as part of her $2000-per-night service, confirming the occupation has nothing to do with sex.
Missy Robinson, 43, from the Gold Coast, has been a part-time cuddle therapist since the beginning of the year.
Armed with her ‘cuddle sutra’ book which shows 99 different embraces the mental health worker goes between her clients’ homes sharing the love.
Missy Robinson, 43, pictured, from the Gold Coast is a part time cuddle therapist – she has revealed exactly what the job entails
She often ‘has a meal’ with clients before or after sharing a cuddle on their couch or in their bed
‘We all need hugs every day, it’s key to our survival,’ Missy told FEMAIL.
‘They say you need four hugs per day to survive, six to maintain our happiness levels and eight to flourish,’ she said.
She went on to explain her job description raises a lot of eyebrows, because people assume cuddles will lead to something sexual, especially between men and women.
‘I am not a sex worker and I have never had any clients attempt to do anything like that with me,’ she said.
In fact, she explained there’s many rules.
‘They sign an agreement before we meet which explains the rules. This includes information on what’s called the swimsuit area,’ she said.
‘There is not to be any touching in that area, and it must be covered at all times.’
She will often wear a baggy t-shirt and leggings to her cuddle appointments, but it all depends on the client.
While she admits it is a very intimate job – there is nothing sexual about it – all cuddles are done ‘fully clothed’ and don’t include ‘touching in the swimsuit areas’
‘While there is nothing sexual about it sometimes people do become aroused and get embarrassed but we just deal with it in a mature way,’ she said.
‘Touch can elicit these responses, it’s only natural, but we leave it there,’ she said.
The session can be held on the couch or in bed, with every possible cuddle combination highlighted in her hugging guide.
‘Clients can look through the book and ask to try different things, there are some I like personally but wouldn’t do with clients as they are too intimate.
There are others most people really like, one involves us lying side to side with our legs intertwined, another one sees them in the foetal position with their head on my stomach.
Missy has been involved in the mental health sector for eight years, working with SANE Australia.
Missy battled her own mental health demons for 20 years after developing PTSD and bipolar when she was raped whilst serving in the army – she put on 60 kilograms when she tried medication but has recently lost it all
Cuddle therapy is just part of her work in the industry, she also helps people rebuild their self confidence and shares her own mental health story.
For twenty years Missy has struggled with bipolar and PTSD.
It took her years to seek help for her mental health and when she did she almost died, after claiming to get lithium poisoning from the psychotropic medication.
Missy ‘almost died’ trying to get her mental health on track and had to focus on non-medical therapies to improve – which is why she is so passionate about mental health treatments
‘I knew the risks but decided to choose my mental health over my physical health at that time,’ she said.
She quickly stacked on 60 kilograms before becoming critically unwell.
‘I went to hospital and went off the medication and haven’t been on anything since. I had to gain skills to improve my mental health without the help of medications.
She worked to lose the weight and for the last five years she has felt ‘completely on top of it’.
Missy recently shot a sexy calendar to raise money for SANE, her chosen mental health charity, and says it was about finding her confidence.
‘I guess for me it was about being able to make my own choice for my body, no one was forcing me,’ she said.
Whilst making the calendar she also shot extra photos and videos which she hides behind a pay wall on Only Fans.
Missy shot a sexy calendar to celebrate her newfound confidence, raise money for SANE and to take back ownership of her body and sexual identity
‘This helps supplement the calendar, the money goes toward helping people. None of it is X-rated content, it is just another income source.’
Missy says each piece of work she does is separate – but helps her work toward the greater good – a world where mental health is treated with respect and kindness.
The 43-year-old has only been doing cuddle therapy for a short time but already feels the positive impact she has on her clients’ lives.
Most of her clients are regular and will book a week in advance.
These people need help with everything from PTSD to being able to find human connection after a relationship breakdown.
Most of them are men, but Missy says she doesn’t feel triggered or threatened when she works with them.
‘I know that men are often the ones who need services like this because they can be overlooked when it comes to mental health support,’ she said.
‘One girl called me after her boyfriend of two and a half years walked out on her without an explanation.
She is currently on her way to Jakarta where she will be working for SANE in developing mental health projects between Australia and Indonesia
‘She was devastated and just needed a mummy cuddle but she had no friends or family in the area.
‘So I went to her,’ she said.
While the $2000 package is the most attention grabbing, it is by no-means the most popular. Packages start at $150 for one hour but are cheaper for veterans and pension card holders.
‘People usually go for the two hour meal package, which involves having a cuddle and a meal,’ she said.
Missy says while each of her entities is separate all her efforts are centered around improving mental health outcomes for everyone
Missy likens her services to that of a psychologist, as everything she talks about with her clients is confidential.
She says it can also be akin to having a massage.
‘The skin is the biggest organ and the gateway to our emotional capacity. Some people hate the idea of being touched but we are all programmed to need it.’
‘I work like a massage therapist in some ways, using touch as a way help relieve people of their pain.’
Missy says she can only do the cuddle therapy job part time as it is draining and she needs to protect her own energy so she can continue to help others.
She is currently working toward becoming accredited with the DVA and NDIS so she can help more people in need.