When you find out someone is cheating it’s difficult to figure out what to do, but it’s even harder if you find out it’s your own father being unfaithful.
A New Zealand woman’s parents have been together for 20 years, but she has recently uncovered an online profile of her father’s other life as a ‘submissive cross-dresser for his mistress’.
The daughter wrote in anonymously to Mrs Salisbury to figure out whether she should confront him and tell her mother.
‘My parents seem relatively happy right now and maybe this is something they are both on the same page about, OR my mum has no idea and this will destroy her,’ she said.
A New Zealand woman’s parents have been together for 20 years, but she has recently uncovered an online profile of her father’s other life as a ‘submissive cross-dresser for his mistress’
‘She is not well at the moment and does not have the money or means to leave him, but I hate that I know and I feel like I am keeping this from her,’ the woman added.
The daughter also explained that her father had already once been unfaithful 10 years ago when she was a child, which resulted in him leaving them briefly before getting back together.
Mrs Salisbury encouraged the woman to let her dad know that she had stumbled upon the profile to open up a dialogue about his actions.
She agreed that there is a chance that her parents have decided to allow the dalliance, especially if her mother can’t accept this aspect of him.
The daughter also explained that her father had already once been unfaithful 10 years ago when she was a child, which resulted in him leaving them briefly before getting back together
But she added that the only way the woman will be able to find out is by talking with him.
If this is the case, Mrs Salisbury believes the daughter only needs to figure out a way to come to terms with this part of him.
‘It is his responsibility to make wise decisions about the consequences of his behaviour,’ she said.
Although Mrs Salisbury’s response was succinct, the question resulted in a multitude of opinions from commenters.
‘It is his responsibility to make wise decisions about the consequences of his behaviour,’ Mrs Salisbury said
One person said that they found out from a friend that their father was having an affair and they never told their mum, but they wish they had.
‘TELL your mother straight away – when she finds out in time she’ll be hurt and betrayed that you didn’t bother to let her know. TELL HER. End the secrets, they come back to haunt you,’ they said.
Another commenter disagreed, saying ‘I would say it’s none of your business and stay out of it’.
‘Tell him you know, point out the consequences of mum finding out before he tells her and leave it with him. Tell him you love him,’ said another.