Divorce lawyer reveals top five professions women should avoid when looking for a husband

A divorce lawyer has revealed the top five professions that a woman should avoid when looking for a husband – and many people on the internet are surprised by her revelations.

Katherine Leonard from Atlanta, Georgia, has been practicing law for more than a decade now.

Over the years, she said she noticed a trend in what the men that her clients were divorcing do for work, and she decided to use her expertise to warn other women.

According to Katherine, ladies who are on the hunt for a potential suitor shouldn’t marry men who have jobs that make them feel like ‘gods’ – like a police officer, surgeon, or military personnel – because those guys ‘tend to be more narcissistic.’ 

She shared her advice to TikTok, and the video quickly went viral – gaining more than 1.5 million views in a matter of days and sparking a major debate between commenters.

According to attorney Katherine Leonard, ladies shouldn’t marry men who have jobs that make them feel like ‘gods’ – like a police officer, surgeon, fireman, surgeon, or military personnel

‘When I first started practicing law 13 years ago, a woman attorney gave me a statistic about the professions of men that women should avoid marrying,’ the attorney began in the clip.

‘I thought, that’s a really random thing to think about [and I wondered] how would you even get that kind of statistic? But it stuck in my head.

‘Over the course of my career, I’ve watched my most difficult cases and shockingly, many of them involve men in these professions.’

Katherine said she wanted to ‘be really clear’ that not all men in these professions are bad, stating that she is ‘generally speaking’ from things ‘she’s observed’ over her years as a lawyer.

She added: ‘If you’re married to someone in these professions, it doesn’t mean it’s your doom to failure or that your husband is a bad person – I’m sure there’s outliers to any statistic.

‘This is just for fun, it’s something generally speaking that I’ve observed as being pretty common.’

Katherine claimed that the top five jobs that women should avoid in men when getting married are: fireman, police officer, military, surgeon, and pilot.

‘What I noticed about these five professions is they tend to be more narcissistic and they tend to be more controlling,’ she continued.

‘They tend to be far more difficult when dealing with a divorce. They have kind of a nuke the Earth, how dare you challenge me, type of approach to litigation.  

‘The men in these professions, they’re Gods in these professions. If you’re a police man, you’re walking around with a gun, you’re walking around with authority. 

Katherine claimed that lawyers didn’t make the list because ‘lawyers are too general of a category to just categorically say “Don’t marry lawyers”‘

Katherine also spilled on the job she thought men should avoid – claiming that the top profession she’s seen in her divorce cases with women is a stay-at-home mom

‘If you’re a surgeon, you’re walking around the hospital and everyone looks up to you, you’re in charge, everyone treats you with respect.

‘You come home and someone’s asking you to take out the trash, I think that’s kind of a difficult transition to make.’

Katherine pointed out that people in the military are often ‘in control of 150-200 people’s lives at a time.’  

‘They are treated with a tremendous amount of respect and they have a lot of responsibility. They tend to be very narcissistic and very controlling,’ she explained, adding, ‘I’m sure there are great ones in these professions it just tends to be a theme that I see.’

Many people agreed with Katherine’s assertions and took to the comment section to back her up, sharing their own nightmare stories from dating people in those professions.

‘I’ve dated two firefighters and when I say never again… Never again,’ wrote one person. 

‘All the pilots that my friends dated cheated,’ a different user added person. 

Another revealed: ‘Divorced a surgeon and confirm this is true.’ 

‘My brother was a fireman and was married and divorced five times,’ said someone else.

She said stay-at-home moms ‘tend to focus so much’ on their kids while their husbands are focused on working, which leads to them feeling like they’re not ‘appreciated by one another’

‘My dad is a world class surgeon in his specialty and dragged my mom through a 12-year divorce so this is spot on,’ agreed another viewer.

‘Been married to an MD. He sold me a fantasy and delivered a complete nightmare,’ read another comment. 

Others shared some more jobs that they thought were ‘red flags,’ with one person asking, ‘Can we add finance/financial advisor to the list? Controls the money, lots of financial abuse.’

‘I would add personal trainers lol,’ added another user.

‘Athletes!’ read a different comment. ‘They are especially bad once their sport career is over.’

‘Don’t forget lawyers and chefs,’ someone else commented.

‘I’m shocked professional athletes and actors/musicians aren’t on there lol,’ said another TikToker. ‘Some of the most narcissistic men I’ve met.’ 

Some people, on the other hand, commented with the professions that they thought were good for potential husbands. 

‘Ladies, get yourself a construction worker. Low maintenance, doesn’t mind to do laundry, and builds the desk as a hobby,’ wrote one person.

Many people agreed with Katherine’s assertions and took to the comment section to back her up, sharing their own nightmare stories from dating people in those professions

Others shared some more jobs that they thought were ‘red flags’ like athletes, financial advisors, and chefs

‘Girl, if you’re wondering what profession has the best men… Engineers. They’re always the sweetest,’ added another.

Someone else said: ‘Girls get y’all a farmer, 10/10.’

‘My husband is great and he’s a teacher,’ gushed a different user. ‘Caring for kids, organized, does everything.’

‘Y’all want a good man?’ asked someone else. ‘Find a funeral director. Very empathetic and a great sense of humor.’ 

In a follow-up video, Katherine explained why lawyers didn’t make the list. 

‘First of all, lawyers are too general of a category to just categorically say, “Don’t marry lawyers,”‘ she said.

‘There’s definitely some bad ones and definitely some good ones. … But generally speaking, lawyers know how bad litigation is.

‘Lawyers do it for a living, we’re not the ones spending 100 or 80 grand to get divorced because we’re trying to look for the fastest route to get it over with, so that’s why lawyers aren’t on the list.’

Some people, on the other hand, commented with the professions that they thought were good for potential husbands

In one more TikTok, which has racked up more than three million views, Katherine spilled on the job that she thought men should avoid when looking for a woman.

She claimed that the number one profession that she has seen throughout her divorce cases in women is a stay-at-home mom. 

‘When you’re divorcing a stay-at-home mom, they are paralyzed with fear – and rightfully so – because their whole life is going to change,’ she said in the viral video. 

‘They’re going to have to go back to the work force, they’re going to have to possibly move, their finances are going to be very different.

‘There’s lots of things that they don’t know, financially, about what’s going on so they tend to stick their head in the sand and stall. 

‘So the cases become very contested and very expensive.’

She added that stay-at-home moms ‘tend to focus so much’ on their kids while their husbands are focused on their careers, which can lead to them both feeling like they’re not ‘appreciated by one another.’

‘The husband starts feeling like an ATM and the wife becomes completely focused on the children and they tend to grow apart,’ she said. ‘That’s not hate, just an observation.’