A certified dating coach has revealed the ‘golden ratio’ that he insisted is ‘scientifically’ proven to be ‘the most sexy’ body type – and why men find it so attractive.
Author and professional matchmaker Paul Brunson, who is originally from Washington, D.C., but is now living in London, sat down with Steven Bartlett on his Diary of a CEO podcast to discuss some of the things that he learned from his years of working as a relationship guru.
During their chat, Paul opened up about the body proportion that men find most appealing in women – something known as the ‘golden mean’ – and dished on the science-driven reason why.
He explained that it focuses on the size of a woman’s waist compared to their hips, and that the ‘perfect’ ratio is 70 to 30.
A certified dating coach has revealed the ‘golden ratio’ that he insisted is ‘scientifically’ proven to be ‘the most sexy’ body type – and why men find it so attractive
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Author and professional matchmaker Paul Brunson discussed some of the things that he learned from his years of working as a relationship guru on the Diary of a CEO podcast
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Paul opened up about the body proportion that men find most appealing in women – something known as the ‘golden mean’ – and dished on the science-driven reason why
As for why men are most turned on by that type of physique, he explained that they subconsciously view women with the ‘golden mean’ as ‘most fertile.’
‘The golden mean is the optimal measure of what we just consider to be fertile, therefore sexy, on average,’ explained the expert.
‘[Scientifically], that’s considered to be most fertile. You’re considered to be optimal for fertilization [if you have the 70 to 30 ratio].
‘You could see that ratio tested throughout time. And it stands through time. Look at [supermodel] Twiggy in the 1970s, she was so thin but she still had a 70/30 golden mean.’
Paul added, however, that the most sought-after shape can be ‘impacted by culture,’ pointing out that Kim Kardashian has more of a 50/50 ratio, which has caused others to want a similar frame.
But he insisted that ‘on average,’ the 70/30 ratio has rung true ‘throughout hundreds of thousands of years of history.’
‘Many men ask, “What are you a breast man? A leg man?” Those could be characteristics and features that you find sexy and attractive, but on average, this is what will light up most men,’ he said.
When it comes to the male body type that women find most attractive, he said the same ratio applies to the size of guys’ shoulders compared to their waists.
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He said it has ‘stood the test of time,’ explaining, ‘Look at [supermodel] Twiggy in the 1970s, she was so thin but she still had a 70/30 golden mean.’ Twiggy is seen in 1967
![Paul added that the most sought-after shape can be 'impacted by culture,' pointing out that Kim Kardashian has more of a 50/50 ratio, which has lead to others wanting a similar frame](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2024/02/05/13/80794211-13039451-Paul_added_that_the_most_sought_after_shape_can_be_impacted_by_c-a-79_1707140610960.jpg)
Paul added that the most sought-after shape can be ‘impacted by culture,’ pointing out that Kim Kardashian has more of a 50/50 ratio, which has lead to others wanting a similar frame
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But he insisted that ‘on average,’ the 70/30 ratio has rang true ‘throughout hundreds of thousands of years of history’
He explained that women are drawn to men with broad shoulders because they feel like they can ‘protect’ them.
‘The reason why [bold shoulders] looks sexy is because ultimately, back in the day, he could have been a protector,’ he continued. ‘That’s where that comes from.’
Paul revealed that he’s even used this knowledge on the 70/30 ratio to help some of his clients find love.
‘What I used to do all the time is, if I had a male client and he didn’t really represent the golden mean I’d say put on this blazer with wide shoulder pads,’ he revealed.
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Paul revealed that he’s even used this knowledge on the 70/30 ratio to help some of his clients find love. He’s seen with his wife
Also during the appearance, Paul – who has built up a following of more than 264,000 followers on Instagram by regularly sharing his insights – shared the ultimate relationship red flag that means you are ’99 per cent likely to break up’ – contempt.
‘If you have a partner who shows you contempt… there’s a 99 per cent likelihood you’ll break up as a couple,’ he revealed.
‘The reason why is because real contempt suggests that you are on a whole another level than your partner.
‘It’s a level of disrespect. You’re saying to your partner you’re no longer on my level. I see it all the time.
‘I see couples arguing and you see the eye roll, the look away the look back – in just those moments one partner is saying, “You’re not even on my level, you shouldn’t even be my presence.”
‘When you see that level of disrespect coming from your partner, you know they don’t respect you, they don’t value you.’
Other qualities that he warned could ruin a relationship were ‘criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling.’
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