Expectant mom reveals her husband wants to take a BATH in her birthing tub while she’s in labor – or at the very least be in it with her when she gives birth
- Reddit user FloralAlpaca revealed in a post that her husband has a ‘bit of a bath obsession’ and took a liking to the tubs in the hospital where she is to give birth
- The woman explained that he got ‘upset’ when she told him the tub for was for her to give birth in, not for him to bathe in while she is in labor
- She said she can’t get him to understand ‘they’re not for the father’ and he refuses to believe the doctors won’t let him in the tub when she’s delivering
- Many commenters insisted there is something wrong with her husband for wanting to take a bath when she is in labor
An expectant mom whose husband has a ‘bit of a bath obsession’ has revealed that he wants to take a bath at the hospital when she’s in labor — or at the very least be in the tub with her when she gives birth.
Reddit user FloralAlpaca took to the ‘AmItheA**hole’ forum on Thursday to ask if she is in the wrong for being against her husband being in the water with her when she gives birth to their child.
The woman stressed that his desire to be in the tub has nothing to do with supporting her when she is in labor; he just really likes to take baths.
Say what? An expectant mom has revealed her bath-obsessed husband wants to take a bath in the hospital while she’s in labor, or at least be in the water with her when she gives birth
‘My husband has a bit of a bath obsession,’ she wrote, explaining that he will ‘come home from work and disappear into the tub’ for up to two hours.
In addition to being heavily pregnant, she and her partner also have a one-year-old whom she stays home with all day.
She has ‘repeatedly told him’ that his bath schedule doesn’t work because they are about to have a second child, but things came to a head when they toured the hospital she is going to deliver in this past week.
‘I asked him at the end of the tour what he thought of the tour and the only thing he thought of to say was that the tubs were nice… he couldn’t wait to get into them,’ she explained. ‘When I informed him the tub was for me to labor in and not for him to [bathe] in he was upset.
Say what? Many commenters insisted there is something wrong with her husband for wanting to take a bath when she is in labor
‘I can’t seem to get the idea out of his head that he can’t take a bath in the tubs and they’re not for the father,’ she admitted. ‘He also refuses to believe that they won’t let him in the tub as well when I’m delivering.’
The woman noted that there are various health reasons why they wouldn’t, but she also admitted she wouldn’t like him ‘all over’ her anyway.
Though rare, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists has reported that potential risks in a water delivery include a higher risk of maternal and neonatal infections.
‘Am I in the wrong for being so against it?’ she asked at the end of her post. ‘He’s acting like I’m being unreasonable on this one but even my family seem to agree with me.’
Yuck: Others noted that the tub will be filled with blood, fecal matter, and other bodily fluids
Not only did commenters agree with the woman, but many also insisted that there is something wrong with her husband for wanting to take a bath when she is in labor.
‘Your husband needs to be spoken to by a professional, although it’s concerning he won’t believe you,’ one person wrote. ‘Do you know where the obsession comes from? I have to say this is a first for me, hearing this…’
‘I wish I knew,’ the woman responded. ‘I’m assuming he just never grew up with a tub and that’s why he liked it so much but it’s gotten a little out of hand…’
‘Show your husband some birthing tub videos if you haven’t yet. He might just see why he shouldn’t be in the tub during it,’ one Reddit user advised.
‘I’ve heard of plenty of fathers being in the birthing tub while the mother gives birth. I still think it’s disgusting,’ another commented. ‘There are all kinds of fluids happening in that tub, so why would anyone volunteer to sit in someone else’s bodily fluid? Just no.’