An author from Melbourne says it’s ‘women’s fault’ that they are being played by men for sex.
Intimacy Behaviourist and former ‘elite’ escort, Gwyneth Montenegro, who first made headlines after she claimed to have slept with more than 10,000 men, is teaching women how to avoid being played for sex and urging them to ‘love with their brains’.
‘Like it or not, we women get played by men because we let them. We switch off our brains and cling to our comfort zone, our emotions,’ Ms Montenegro told FEMAIL.
‘If you go back a few generations, a partner choice was made with a conscious decision on who is capable of protecting us the most. Nowadays we aren’t so worried about such things and we are seeking the fairy tale.’
An author from Melbourne has claimed it is ‘women’s fault’ that they are being played by men for sex
Former escort, Gwyneth Montenegro, who first made headlines after she claimed to have slept with more than 10,000 men, is teaching women how to avoid being played for sex
So what does ‘being played’ look like on the modern dating scene?
‘A conscious attempt to treat you as a convenience and not an equal. An entity to be be manipulated in order to attain his purpose,’ Ms Montenegro said.
‘It’s happening so often as women are way too often giving up their control and entering into a relationship from a position of “need”.
‘It’s happening so often as women are way too often giving up their control and entering into a relationship from a position of ‘need’,’ she said
‘There’s intense pressure from society for a woman to be in a relationship and as such often puts her in a position to show that she’s capable of “getting a man” without the inward desire to have one in the first place.
‘There’s still a lot of stigma to being single.’
Ms Montenegro said women are making it ‘harder for themselves’ when dating.
‘The dating scene is difficult for both sexes, but I do feel that women are making it unnecessarily hard for themselves,’ she said.
‘The easier that women are to get, the less men appreciate her. Play a little hard to get, let him earn your love.’
She also said that women ‘seeking emotional validation, choosing to have a partner based on societal expectations alone and loving purely with her heart and disengaging her brain’ are all common issues.
‘There’s intense pressure from society for a woman to be in a relationship and as such often puts her in a position to show that she’s capable of ‘getting a man’ without the inward desire to have one in the first place,’ she said
‘The dating scene is difficult for both sexes, but I do feel that women are making it unnecessarily hard for themselves,’ she said
Ms Montenegro said ‘one in every 10 dating men are career players’ and that ‘they’ll just do it exponentially’.
‘Then there’s other men who use the false premise of love to seek sex. They represent another two in every 10 men,’ she said.
‘So before you even sit down across the table with the potential Mr Right you already have a 30 per cent change of teaming up with Mr Wrong.
‘Women can take back their power today and never let another guy outplay her for sex and do her out of the true connection that she craves. It’s as simple as grasping the game from his perspective and looking for the tell-tale signs.’
Ms Montenegro said ‘one in every ten dating men are career players’ and that ‘they’ll just do it exponentially’
The book is based rather heavily on a methodology known as Intimate Profiling which breaks men down to one of ten intimate profiles
Gwyneth’s own life went awry when, as a young Christian girl, the was drugged, taken away and gang raped.
The resulting self-hatred and feelings of unworthiness set her headlong into the sex trade before she got her life back on track and made a career of empowering women globally.
Determined that other women don’t go through what she went through, Ms Montenegro’s new book, MEN OUTPLAYED – The Explosive Guide That Reveals Why Men Play Women and What To Do About It, seeks to ’empower women with a deep level of skills to potentially outplay predatory men at their own game’.
The book is based heavily on a methodology known as Intimate Profiling which breaks men down to one of ten intimate profiles.
What are the different kinds of men?
The below is based on Gwyneth Montenegro’s popular intimacy based solution ‘Intimate Profiling’.
‘The Conqueror’ is a career player and represents up to 15 per cent of society based on their research.
The Internal Man
Very goal orientated and absorbed in his world. Fairly loyal and hardworking but can live a little bit too much in his head.
Primal Man
The Primal Man is very instinctual. He does rate low on the intimacy scale. He is by nature patriarchal and dominating.
The Puppy
The Puppy is a very excitable and adventurous man. He loves to explore and can be rather hard to keep up with.
The Wimpy Kid
The Wimpy Kid craves equality. He is very open to change and is surprisingly intimate. He can be a very loyal and loving partner.
The Pleaser
The Pleaser is the ultimate equal soulmate. He knows who he is and is a great team player. He boasts the highest score on the intimacy scale.
The Stroker
The Stroker is not afraid of a long-term relationship, in fact he craves the security. Your opinion of him means the world to him.
The Conqueror
The Conqueror is confident, charming and charismatic. He definitely knows how to woo a woman.
The Non-Conformist
The Non-Conformist is the ultimate in freedom. He’s not afraid of what anyone thinks, and a wild ride is assured.
The Disillusioned
Ok, he’s slightly damaged goods but with a little loving he’s all yours.
The Toxic and Emotionless Man
Danger. Buyer beware. Not for the faint hearted.