A groom told his brother he can’t bring his girlfriend of seven years to his wedding because they aren’t engaged or married — and then had a ‘meltdown’ when his brother said he wouldn’t attend without her.
According to Reddit user @Wedding309657, his younger brother Sean is gearing up to walk down the aisle to his fiancée, whose name is unknown.
But the Reddit user was not happy when he was told the couple had a ‘no plus one unless engaged or married’ rule for their upcoming nuptials, which meant his girlfriend of almost a decade wasn’t allowed to come.
He said was ‘counting on having’ her by his side at the wedding — so he asked his brother to reconsider.
A groom told his brother he can’t bring his girlfriend of seven years to his wedding because they aren’t engaged or married (stock photo)
Reddit user @Wedding309657 was not happy when he was told his brother had a ‘no plus one unless engaged or married’ rule for his upcoming nuptials
He said the groom claimed they weren’t ‘official’ and that he didn’t consider her as family since he hadn’t put a ring on it yet
The Reddit user decided he was not going to go without his other half, and said the groom then ‘freaked out’ and got the rest of the family involved
However, he said the groom had a ‘too bad, so sad,’ reaction and claimed they weren’t ‘official’ and that he didn’t consider her as family since he hadn’t put a ring on it yet.
The Reddit user said his brother accused him of ‘trying to alter the wedding and disrespecting their beliefs.’ And he even said he was worried his brother might propose to his girlfriend at the event and ‘steal’ the big day.
The Reddit user decided he was not going to go without his other half, and he said the groom then ‘freaked out’ and got the rest of the family involved.
The man posted about the ordeal in the ‘Am I An A**hole?’ thread on Reddit, and asked people if he was wrong for not wanting to attend the wedding without his significant other.
‘My younger brother Sean is getting married soon, he sent out invitations that included everyone in the family,’ he wrote.
‘I found out that he was going by the “no plus one unless engaged or married” rule, I felt confused since I’ve been in a long term (seven years now) relationship with my girlfriend and I was counting on having her to come with me to the wedding.
Many people flooded the comment section with their thoughts on the sticky situation, and most were on the Reddit user’s side
‘I asked Sean and fiancée about it and asked if they were aware they were excluding my partner with this rule and they gave a “too bad, so sad” type of reaction.
‘I told him alright, then he shouldn’t expect me to come either. He freaked out and called mom who said since I’m the oldest in the family [and] my presence at the wedding is a must.
‘I told them I will attend the wedding under one condition and that is to have my girlfriend attend with me.
‘Sean tried to pull the “she’s not official” and “she’s not family” crap on me but I told him enough.’
The Reddit user didn’t give in, however, and said he ‘remained calm, yet strict with his condition.’
He continued: ‘[My] mom said my girlfriend can miss one event, no big deal, and said I shouldn’t be putting conditions on my brother’s wedding to force his hand like that.
‘I said that is all I have and left after a huge meltdown from mom and Sean, accusing me of trying to “alter” the wedding, disrespecting their beliefs and pushing my own on them.
‘Oh and [he] went as far as accusing me of planning to steal the event so I could “propose” to my girlfriend. SMH.’
Some pointed out that the ring should not validate a relationship. ‘Some people’s non-marital commitment is far more significant than another’s marriage,’ one person wrote
According to the Reddit user, the rest of the family took his brother’s side, but he still hasn’t backed down.
‘The rest of the family got into it, yelling at me for disrupting the wedding and trying to control and bully my brother into letting me do what I want on his God damn wedding, and said it wasn’t up to me to put conditions,’ he added.
‘[They] went on about how I should support him as his only sibling and a father figure since [my] dad is deceased.
‘But I think I’m trying to stand by my girlfriend and our relationship [which] means so much to me, but they see it as me choosing her over my brother.’
He concluded the post by asking, ‘Am I the a**hole?’
Many people flooded the comment section with their thoughts on the sticky situation, and most were on the Reddit user’s side.
‘There are so many of these threads lately of people getting married and expecting the world to bend to their whims,’ one person wrote.
‘It’s the couples’ day, for sure. But if they actually want people to be there, acting like an a** isn’t the way to make that happen.’
Another added: ‘By not allowing [the poster] to invite his girlfriend they are making it seem as if she isn’t family. Good on you for sticking by your girlfriend’s side!’
‘He is invalidating your relationship and it’s an insult to you and your girlfriend,’ someone else said.
One commenter said they were sick of people getting married and ‘expected the world to bend to their whims’
‘This whole culture of “it’s my wedding I can be a d**k if I want” needs to get in the bin.’
A fourth comment read, ‘I’m a big fan of a “no ring no bring” rule to avoid randos, but once a couple reaches the five year mark, I think the “spirit of the ring” is implied, and it’s rude not to invite them as a named plus one.
‘Some people’s non-marital commitment [is] far more significant than another’s marriage,’ a different user agreed.
‘It’s about the ground and foundation that the relationship is built on and no one except those people in the relationship can actually judge it.
‘They are absolutely invalidating you and if I were you, I would stick to my guns.’
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