Have YOU been the victim of a ‘Tindstagrammer’?

For Tinder users, telling someone you are not interested is as easy as swiping left on their profile. 

While this should put a stop to any future contact, some disgruntled rejects who are unwilling to take ‘no’ for an answer have taken to tracking down their would-be matches on Instagram and messaging them there instead.

This trend, dubbed ‘Tindstagramming’ in a recent Select All article, has seen dozens of Tinder users, mainly women, being forced to contend with unwanted messages from persistent men who they have already turned down. 

Persistent: Women have shared examples of so-called ‘Tindstagramming’ on Twitter

Abuse: Some singletons use the messages as an opportunity to harass their would-be match

Dater Indigo Rancourt told the publication she receives one of these messages on an almost daily basis. ‘The first time it happened, I was honestly shocked,’ she said.

‘I didn’t think this actually happened — that people honest to god thought DM-sliding from Tinder was gonna be the way to, what, get laid? Fall in love? 

‘I don’t know what they’re looking for, but it’s not coming from me.’

Tinder offers users the option to link their profiles to their Instagram accounts. 

Problem: This user shared two examples of men who had tried again to connect with her online

While this can give singletons a chance to get to know their matches better, it can also open the door to unwanted communication on the photo sharing app. 

Dozens of women have taken to Twitter to report examples of so-called ‘Tindstagramming’. 

One wrote: ‘I connected my instagram to my tinder account n apparently guys in chicago think that means “slide in my DMs if we don’t match”.’

Another tweeted: ‘You know what happens to men that you swipe left on, on tinder? They message you on Instagram instead.’ 

Taking a stand: Women took to Twitter to tell men to stop sending them Instagram messages