How Taylor Swift’s British ex Joe Alwyn kept dignified silence during six-year relationship – as singer hints he was a cheat in her new album The Tortured Poets Department

Joe Alwyn won’t be drawn into a war of words with Taylor Swift despite her savage new album suggesting he cheated, shattering her dream of marriage and children with him.

In fact the British star, 33, has adopted the mantra of the country’s late matriarch Queen Elizabeth II – to never complain and never explain – having spent six years refusing to discuss his relationship with the world’s most famous woman.

The Tunbridge Wells-born actor admitted he understood the interest in their relationship – but always made it clear that the only person he would ever discuss it with was Taylor herself.

‘People on the street wouldn’t tell strangers about their personal lives, so why should I’, the star of The Favourite and Boy Erased said before they split up last year.

But it appears Ms Swift hasn’t held back herself with her new record The Tortured Poets Department, which fans believe is the story of their break-up, her brief rebound dalliance with rockstar Matt Healy and meeting new love Travis Kelce.

It contains stinging lyrics fans believe suggest Joe was unfaithful when she believed they would marry and have children together.

And even its title is being viewed as an attack on her ex-boyfriend and muse, because it is so similar to the name of a WhatsApp group Joe famously shares with close friends and fellow actors Paul Mescal and Andrew Scott called The Tortured Man Club.

But while the musical attack on him may increase pressure on Joe to have his say, he has always been clear that their six-year relationship was always going to be off limits.

Joe Alwyn has never discussed his relationship with Taylor, whose album appears to be a full frontal attack on him

Joe Alwyn has never discussed his relationship with Taylor, whose new album appears to be a full frontal attack on him and contains hints that he cheated

Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn at the 77th Annual Golden Globe Awards held at the Beverly Hilton Hotel on January 5, 2020, a time when fans were convinced they were engaged

Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn at the 77th Annual Golden Globe Awards held at the Beverly Hilton Hotel on January 5, 2020, a time when fans were convinced they were engaged 

Their breakup appears to be at the heart of her new album The Tortured Poets Department

It is the Bad Blood singer's 11th studio album since she burst onto the music scene in 2006. Its title The Tortured Poets Department even appears to be a slight on Joe

It is the Bad Blood singer’s 11th studio album since she burst onto the music scene in 2006. Its title The Tortured Poets Department even appears to be a slight on Joe

He told Harper’s Bazaar in 2022: ‘I completely expect people to ask those questions [about their relationship], if I’m putting work into the world, of course people are going to ask about that’.

But he added definitively: ‘I can understand that those questions would be asked, but I don’t see why these questions should always be answered’.

Swifties became convinced they were planning to get married or had already secretly walked down the aisle, especially after they spent the pandemic together and he even co-wrote songs with her award winning albums Folklore and Evermore.

But Joe was again absolute in his silence.

‘If I had a pound for every time I think I’ve been told I’ve been engaged, then I’d have a lot of pound coins,’ he said. 

‘I mean, the truth is, if the answer was yes, I wouldn’t say, and if the answer was no, I wouldn’t say.’  

The Tortured Poets Department, released with great excitement last night, is being viewed as their break up album with a number of songs apparently about the split.

In Loml, short for love of my life, Taylor sings: ‘You s**t talked me under the table. Talking rings and talking cradles. The coward. He was a lion. I’m combing through the braids of lies’.

Her new song The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived is equally scathing.

The lyrics include: ‘And you’ll confess why you did it . . . And I’ll say good riddance. ’Cos it wasn’t sexy once it wasn’t forbidden. 

‘You didn’t measure up in any measure of a man. I would have died for your sins but instead I just died inside’.

The album’s third track ‘My Boy Only Breaks His Favorite Toys’ includes a lyric that could be about Joe, as Swifties have long accused him of shying away from the spotlight and forcing the star to be ‘secretive.’

‘Put me back on my shelf. But first, pull the string and I’ll tell you that he runs because he loves me,’ she sings.

In the fourth track, ‘Down Bad’, Swift admits to breaking down ‘crying at the gym’ and how the end of hers and Joe’s six-year relationship left her feeling ‘hollow.’

She sings: ‘Did you take all my old clothes just to leave me here naked and alone/ In a field in my same old town that somehow seems so hollow now.

‘You deserve prison, but you won’t get time. You will slide into inboxes and slip through the bars. In plain sight you hid but you are what you did. And I’ll forget you, but I’ll never forgive the smallest man who ever lived’.

Taylor and Joe publicly announced their split in April 2023, after six years together. The pair pictured in April in 2019

Taylor and Joe publicly announced their split in April 2023, after six years together. The pair pictured in April in 2019

Perhaps the most transparent riposte to her time with Alywn comes via ‘So long, London’. 

The raw track details Swift’s heartache as she realised that her relationship with the British actor is over.

She sings: ‘I stopped trying to make him laugh/ Stopped trying to drill the safe,’ she sings. She then talks of bidding farewell to ‘the house in the Heath.’

Taylor and Joe reportedly met when they crossed paths at the 2016 Met Gala.

After years of her relationships being obsessively scrutinized in the media, the couple went to great lengths to keep their relationship out of the public eye.

It wasn’t until more than a year after their meeting that they were photographed together in 2017 in Nashville, Tennessee.

But it was a huge shock when they suddenly parted in 2023. 

Taylor and Joe were together for six years but split up last year when many believed that they were destined to marry after her disastrous love life and dating some of the world’s most famous men. 

DailyMail.com exclusively revealed that Taylor’s unparalleled starpower played a role in the end of her relationship with Joe amid claims by fans that he was unfaithful.

A source close to the singer said at the time: ‘The bottom line for the difficulties in their relationship was that Taylor’s career took priority over Joe’s – which can be awkward for a couple when it’s not balanced.

‘This drove them apart and ultimately, they both realized they were not on the same page anymore.’

The insider explained that ‘it’s been hard for Joe trying to make it in Hollywood and not quite becoming leading man material while dating one of the most famous women in the world over the last six years.

‘It was easier during the pandemic when it was just the two of them, but once things returned to normal, Taylor Swift the superstar emerged, and their differences were even more apparent.

‘They really made a go of it and tried everything they could but ultimately were unable to save the relationship,’ the source concluded.

Taylor wowed in the album artwork for the eagerly-anticipated record

Taylor wowed in the album artwork for the eagerly-anticipated record 

She gave the black and white shots her all after releasing the album

She gave the black and white shots her all after releasing the album

She showed off her figure while reclining on a bed

She showed off her figure while reclining on a bed 

News of the pair’s split broke suddenly but a source told ET that Joe and Taylor amicably parted ways ‘a few weeks ago.’

‘The relationship had just run its course,’ the insider added. ‘It’s why [Alwyn] hasn’t been spotted at any shows.’

During their early years together they would sometimes don disguises to visit each other or make outings together undetected, according to US Weekly. 

She made frequent under the radar trips to his home in London.

In October 2018, Joe told British Vogue that the secrecy around their relationship was intentional.

‘I’m aware people want to know about that side of things. I think we have been successfully private,’ he said.

Rumours about the couple’s long-term plans together were frequent, with sources telling outlets Taylor thought she’d found her soulmate and that she was hoping they would get engaged.

That speculation soared in January 2020 with the release of Netflix’s documentary ‘Miss. Americana,’ in which she could be seen wearing a large diamond on her ring finger during an interview.

Many thought it was a sure-sign the engagement had finally come to pass, with some even suggesting they had secretly gotten married.

Months later in April, 2020, Joe addressed the rumors in an interview with WSJ Magazine, saying he wouldn’t confirm them even if they were true.

‘If I had a pound for every time I think I’ve been told I’ve been engaged, then I’d have a lot of pound coins,’ he said. ‘I mean, the truth is, if the answer was yes, I wouldn’t say, and if the answer was no, I wouldn’t say.’

When the pandemic sent the world into quarantine in 2020, social media posts made by the couple indicated they were living together, and even had even started co-writing songs together.

Then when Folklore was released, a mysterious man named William Bowery was given numerous songwriting credits, despite no trace of him existing anywhere else.

After the requisite speculation as to Bowery’s identity, Taylor later confirmed the mystery man was her boyfriend. Joe is the great grandson of William Alwyn, a famed composer.

‘There’s been a lot of discussion about William Bowery and his identity because it’s not a real person. So, William Bowery is Joe, as we know,’ Taylor said on the Disney + concert special, Folklore: The Long Pond Studio Sessions.

In addition to the speculation that the Folklore ‘Invisible String’ was about Taylor’s relationship with Joe, fans have long suspected that the title track and numerous songs off her 2019 album ‘Lover’ were also about him.

In 2020, Taylor confided in an interview with Paul McCartney that she was drawn to Joe because of a sense of much needed normalcy and steadiness he brought to her life.

‘I, oftentimes, in my anxieties, can control how I am as a person and how normal I act and rationalize things, but I cannot control if there are 20 photographers outside in the bushes and what they do and if they follow our car and if they interrupt our lives,’ she said. ‘I can’t control if there’s going to be a fake weird headline about us in the news tomorrow.’

‘I think that in knowing him and being in the relationship I am in now, I have definitely made decisions that have made my life feel more like a real life and less like just a storyline to be commented on in tabloids.

‘Whether that’s deciding where to live, who to hang out with, when to not take a picture — the idea of privacy feels so strange to try to explain, but it’s really just trying to find bits of normalcy,’ she added.

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