A transgender woman has revealed that she doesn’t tell men the truth about her gender identity before meeting them because people are ‘too judgmental’, saying she likes to wait until she’s sure she wants to take things further.
Adea Danielle, 22, from Canada, always felt like there was something ‘missing’ when she was growing up and at 16, after coming across a YouTube video, realized she was transgender.
Relating to the video’s discussion of being in the ‘wrong body’, Adea told her mother and was soon placed on the waiting list for hormones. She eventually had gender-affirming surgery in 2021, where the penis is removed and turned into a vagina.
However, despite now being comfortable in her own skin, Adea says she often chooses not to disclose the fact she’s transgender to men before meeting them, which is often met with backlash.
She explained: ‘[People tell me] I’m lying to them or that I’m deceiving them.
Adea Danielle believes people are too judgmental to know that she is a trans woman before she meets them so often keeps it from them
When Adea was still a boy she says she would dress up in her mother’s clothes and wanted to play with her sister’s toys. She believes her family knew she was ‘different’
The artist and influencer previously hit the headlines to talk about her Brazilian Butt Lift, which she said made her feel like she was burning inside
‘There’s so much judgement around the trans label and if a guy were to learn that I’m trans before, he would make up a whole idea of how I am and how I must act.
‘It’s my past and you’re not going to meet someone and tell them everything that happened in your past.
‘I want him to get to know me and also, I’m not going to get rejected by a guy that I could reject. So I just tell them when I’m interested and when I want to take things further.
‘[Online] guys often comment “Oh you’re lying to men”, but then how can they say I’m lying if I present myself as a woman?
‘They’re basically saying I’m a man.’
The influencer and aspiring artist, who has over 138,000 followers on Instagram, is now using social media to share her journey and help others who are going through a similar situation.
Growing up, Adea recalls dressing in her mother’s clothes and wanting to play with her sister’s toys and believes her family knew she was ‘different.’
While her mother was very accepting, her dad wasn’t on board at first – but now, he’s her biggest supporter.
She believes not much is known about transgender people outside of the community, saying there’s a perception that people ‘wake up’ and decide their gender – when in fact, it’s not a choice.
Adea also claims that studies have shown her brain doesn’t identify with being male and looks similar to that of a woman’s, with the hormone treatment proven to provide a feeling of ‘true happiness.’
She said: ‘As soon as you start the transition process, it’s been proven that the brain lights up and that’s when you feel true joy.
‘You can’t really be proud or feel content with how people view you [before], as you know that when people look, it’s not really who you are.
‘It feels like no one really loves you.’
Adea was 16 when she realised she was in the wrong body and told her mom who helped get her treatment so she could begin transitioning
Ms Danielle finally feels comfortable in her own body and has been sharing her journey to help others who are going through the same thing
In addition to cosmetic operations, Adea has also undergone gender-affirming surgery, where the penis is removed and turned into a vagina
Adea has had several operations during her journey to womanhood including a BBL that left her feeling like she was on fire
Previously, Adea hit the headlines after revealing the complications she suffered after undergoing Brazilian butt lift (BBL) surgery.
She claims that the pain left her feeling like she was being ‘burned alive’.
Adea has also undergone gender-affirming surgery, where the penis is removed and turned into a vagina.
While she’s glad the procedure was a success, there was a long road to recovery, which wasn’t easy.
Speaking about the painful surgery, Adea said: ‘It was so intense and I was screaming, before I fainted.
‘On the first night, they had to put gauzes in between my stitches and the next day, they couldn’t take them out as I had bled out.
‘I had blood clots where I couldn’t pee anymore and so they had to leave it in.
‘A year ago, I had to go back because the function of it [wasn’t right] and it looked very bad.
‘It was a really difficult time for me, because I went from having something in between my legs that I hated, to this.
‘I would never touch it and disconnected with that area [of my body].’
Adea feels it is important to share her story and has gained immense support online.
She said: ‘I do get a lot of comments saying that I have saved [people’s] lives because I’ve given them the courage to transition and that alone is all I need.
‘When I started transitioning, one of my biggest fears was the judgement that I would get walking into the community.
Adea, pictured in her younger years, says that when she first told her family she was in the wrong body her dad struggled to deal with it but is now her biggest supporter
Adea wants to own an art gallery when she’s older and make a living selling her work. She said that being able to draw helped her express emotions when she was first dealing with being trans
The 22-year-old loves to share her journey on social media to help other people going through the same thing as her
Adea often talks about things that aren’t usually discussed on social media about gender-affirming surgeries, including how painful they are and what happens afterwards
Adea is finally comfortable in her own skin but she says there’s still a long way to go before people outside of the community are educated
‘I don’t know why there’s such a big stigma that when you transition, you have to do this or get that.’
Adea claims that after coming out as transgender, she lost over 50,000 followers on social media – and while this hurt at first, she’s now focusing on her future and happiness.
She added: ‘When I saw that video and learned I was trans, it pretty much saved my life, because I was in a horrible space.
‘You can’t care about what anyone else has to say and just shut everyone out.
‘Concentrate on yourself and focus on where you were in the past [compared to now] and not where others are.
‘As I got older, before my transition, I expressed myself through art and would draw a lot of feminine energy and faces.
‘I really want to make a living with my art when I’m older and have a gallery – I want my name to be known.’
Adea says she often gets backlash from men for not revealing to them before meeting that she was born a male but says it’s because of this judgement that she doesn’t
The social media influencer wants to raise awareness for other young people who are struggling with their identities
Earlier this year, Oli London, from Hertford, revealed he was ‘de-transitioning’ from a trans woman back to a man has hit out at ‘woke’ culture – which he claims encourages often vulnerable teens to question their identity unnecessarily.
The social media personality, who had previously had surgery to look like male Korean pop idols, has hit out at celebs like Harry Styles and Timothee Chalamet, and shows like Ru Paul’s drag race, that, he claims, promote gender fluidity – saying they are dangerous for teens who are encouraged to question their identity.
Oli, who spent six months living as a woman, underwent feminising facial surgery to soften his features before realising, he now says, that he was actually happier living as a man.
He said: ‘There are now so many teenagers transitioning. It’s something that’s seen as trendy and cool to Gen Z and it feeds into woke people.
‘I think that celebrities like Harry Styles and Timothée Chalamet, probably due to their PR, are queer baiting as they are made to look gay or feminine in order to be cool and trendy. It’s a slippery slope.
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