A woman has baffled people online after revealing that her partner is furious with her for ruining their family holiday – by getting ill.
The anonymous woman took to the British parenting forum Mumsnet to ask for people’s opinions on her situation.
In her post, she revealed that she’s been left feeling like ‘the worst mum’ after falling ill on her second ever family holiday to a theme park resort with her husband and children, aged one and three.
She explained she was incapacitated with vomiting and a fever, but far from being sympathetic, her partner was furious and claimed she’d ‘let them down’.
Writing on the forum, she asked if she should feel bad for ruining the expensive holiday, prompting people to point out how unreasonably her partner has behaved.
A woman has revealed that her partner is furious with her – because she has been ill with a virus while on a family holiday (stock image)
The post said: ‘So family of four on holiday, famous theme park holiday, daytwo and I’ve come down with a virus, vomiting fever, weakness, the runs.
‘Husband is livid with me. Our kids are one and three, so pretty much in need of a pushchair. I pushed through today but now I physically can’t move and it’s dinner time.
‘Whilst the kids were napping, I’ve had the biggest telling off, told how much I let them down, how we’re not allowed to go on any more family holidays because I’ve ruined this one and I always ruin things.’
She continued: ‘We’ve only been on one before and he had a temper tantrum after the boot got stuck, he blamed me but he’d actually caught my scarf in the lock.
‘I already feel awful times two for potentially having ruined an expensive holiday and then physically feeling awful.’
She continued to explain that after her partner gave her painkillers with caffeine in them before bed, she’d been unable to sleep, and so felt even worse because she was so tired.
The post concluded: ‘I literally feel like the worst mum, am I? He’s had to take the kids to a restaurant alone. I’m hoping if I rest I’ll feel better tomorrow.’
Many respondents simply pointed out how unreasonable the partner was being in suggesting that the poster had purposefully become unwell.
In her post on Mumsnet, the anonymous woman asked if she was the ‘worst mum’ for leaving her children with their father while she was ill
One wrote: ‘Unless there’s a massive drip feed that you’ve been eating out of the bin, or deliberately got sick, you are not being unreasonable. At all. The only unreasonable one is your husband.’
Another agreed, writing: ‘Have you explained to him that nobody gets unwell intentionally?
‘We once went away on a much anticipated family break and my husband got poorly and had to take himself to bed. Was I disappointed? Yes. Did I give him a telling off? No. What good would it have done?
‘I wouldn’t go on any holidays again with your husband because I don’t think I’d be staying in a marriage with him after such an outburst. Not what you need when you’re already unwell.’
Many respondents reassured the poster that she had not done anything wrong by getting ill – and that it was unreasonable of her partner to suggest she had
A third added: ‘I can’t even conceive of a decent human being behaving like him. This would be the end of the relationship for me.’
A further respondent said: ‘You are being unreasonable for marrying a person like him! Hope you feel better. Hydration salts might help?’
Meanwhile, a fifth wrote: ‘Chances are he’ll catch it and have the same in the next couple of days. Just be sure to NOT offer any sympathy whatsoever. This isn’t how normal couples behave towards each other, I hope that starting this thread makes you realise that.’
Many other respondents shared stronger opinions, with some suggesting that the partner’s behaviour was suggestive of abuse.
A number of forum users suggested that the partner sounds abusive and that the poster should consider terminating the relationship
One wrote: ‘He’s not showing you any love, care or attention. None of this is your fault. He should be looking after you, not blaming you. Frankly he sounds horrible.’
Another, more forthright forum user added: ‘He’s abusive pure and simple. People get sick, it’s just annoying for you all that it happened on your holidays. You might face a whole lifetime of being blamed for every setback.’
And a third wrote: ‘I get it’s a disappointment but he’s being abusive – tell him to do one.’
In a similar vein, a fourth noted: ‘Jeez – when you’re home get your ducks in a row and away from this horrible man.’
And a fifth said: ‘I hope you feel better soon. When you get home, you know what you need to do.’
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