I’m a tradwife and it’s hard to make friends because other mothers judge me    

A woman who dresses like a 50s housewife and says being a traditional stay-at-home mother is the best job she’s ever had, but she’s still a feminist.

Lisa Pontius, 35, from Charleston, South Carolina, loves being a stay-at-home mother for her three young children and is heavily influenced by the 50s and 60s style.

Lisa and her husband Matthew, 40, a business owner have their traditional gender roles in the home, and Lisa loves her full-time job as a home-maker.

But she will proudly voice her feminist views on the world and insists that people should stop belittling domestic work in the house.

Being criticised for looking like a ‘grandma’ with her vintage look, and being told that she dresses ‘too old’, Lisa ignores the comments and regularly posts outfit videos for her followers.

Lisa dressed in her vintage fashion doing chores at home. She insists that being a full-time mother is just as valuable as  job that you collect a pay check for 

Lisa explained: ‘I think the way I dress sets me apart from other mothers my age which is sometimes good but can also be bad. There is always a way in which mothers tend to dress, and I don’t dress that way.

‘I guess it makes it harder for people to approach me and make other mom friends. I have made a lot of friends through social media. 

‘I have found people who know me for me and I go through this route rather than off the street and on the playground.

‘I like to consider myself a modern feminist home maker, I love what I do now. I also loved being entrepreneur before having my children, so it took me a while to settle into this role. It’s harder than what people think, it knocks your identity.

‘I do believe women shouldn’t be made to be at home, but it is a job which has certain requirements and not everyone can do that. However it’s my favorite job I’ve ever had.

Lisa, who loves to dress in vintage fashions, said that other mothers find it hard to relate to her and that she finds it easier to make friends online 

After having her son Levi, and her two other children, Lisa gave up her career as an entrepreneur  

Lisa dressed in her vintage fashion. She describes herself as an ‘old soul’ who has always been attracted to antiques and old clothing 

Lisa during her morning routine. She said that being a stay-at-home mother is a full-time job

Lisa relaxing after chores are done. She said that she believes in traditional gender roles, and says her household is a success because her husband goes out to work and she runs the home 

‘I believe that traditional gender roles and dividing it up helps for a successful household. There is the need for domestic labor such as raising kids, and managing the household is work that is needed to be done and it is a full-time job. 

‘The reason me and my husband work so well is because of how we treat each other.

‘I chose to be a traditional female housewife and home-maker and I believe I made the right choices for me – and I also understand this isn’t for everyone and women can make that decision for themselves and that’s what modern feminism is.

‘It is important to be able to go out and get a pay check and financially support your family, but so are all of the other things that need to be done in a home. If a woman is also a financial contributor, the labor in the home should be 50/50. The job you’re doing at home is just as important as going out and getting a pay check.

Lisa dressed in her vintage fashion. She said that people complain she looks like a grandma, but is not bothered because she knows she can’t please everyone 

Lisa said she’s been told she’d look better if she wore less makeup, but she’s determined to keep doing things her way 

‘Since becoming a parent, it has changed my perspective on everything.

Lisa has had some comments online telling her she dresses too old and that she looks like a grandma, but she likes being described as ‘vintage’.

She added: ‘I’m told I look like a grandma but women no matter what they wear are criticised for how they dress. I’m told I dress too old and I’m too young, criticised for how I do hair and makeup because it ages me, and I’m told I would look better with less makeup.

‘I just think wear whatever you want and be comfortable in. I tend to be more covered up compared to the current Gen Z trend’s and so people will say I look old but I don’t mind being described as vintage and elegant.

‘Social media pressures women to dress and look a certain way – people always felt they are entitled to comment on women’s bodies and styles and how to exist, it’s the internet version of cat calling.

‘I have have had a fair bit of hate, which can be overwhelming, so reading the messages is rough mentally but I also know that the hate comments will be forgotten about after a few days.

‘I’ve always been an old soul inside, I’ve always loved antiques, old houses and vintage jewellery. My grandma would be my inspiration.’