A matchmaker and dating guru has revealed the signs to look out for to tell if you’re in love or lust.
Samantha Jayne, from Sydney – who has used her love expertise to help The Bachelor Australia – has shared the indicators of when you’re head over heels.
‘Love feels good it’s easy, and pure, this is versus lust where you feel scared of losing the other person so you’re constantly trying to dress up and impress them,’ she told FEMAIL.
A matchmaker and dating guru has revealed the tell-tale signs to look out for to tell if you’re in love or lust
Figuring out the difference between the two can be confusing, especially because they often both start out with sparks and sexual attraction.
Samantha explained that love is an intense feeling of emotional attachment and affection.
‘It feels safe, warm, fuzzy, like an old friendship, it’s reliable and comforting.
‘You want to spend time together, you want to bring out the best in each other, you want to plan a future together.’
Where loves’ roots are formed in deep emotional attachment, lust is a strong sexual desire based on physical attraction
Samantha Jayne, from Sydney shares the indicators of when you’re head over heels
‘Love is keeping it real, you know what’s important to them and you can talk about things that matter,’ Samantha continued.
While love’s roots are formed in deep emotional attachment, lust is a strong sexual desire based on physical attraction.
When your heart is racing and you are filled with nervous energy and excitement it is relatively normal that your common sense will be nowhere to be seen.
‘Lust is all about superficial things and you don’t talk about the important things that could be emotional.
‘Here is when you avoid vulnerability but when you are in love you feel safe enough to be vulnerable with your partner.’
Samantha explained that a lot of the time lust is purely physical.
‘Lust is generally the phase of infatuation where you can’t really see the whole person for who they are are it’s fantasy land.
‘MRI’s have show that the same part of the brain lights up when someone is lusting over a person or an addict get’s a hit of cocaine.
‘Lust is like an altered state of consciousness hence the clouded vision.’
She continued to say that sex and love don’t necessarily correlate.
Figuring out the difference between the two can be confusing, especially because they often both start out with sparks and sexual attraction
‘Sex is an important part of a loving romantic relationship but pure sex without the emotional attachment is playing with fire.
‘The fundamental difference between love and lust is love feels comfortable, natural and you want to know everything about the person, it is so much more than physical.
‘Lust on the other hand is all about the sex, you can’t wait to rip each others clothes off, you get that giddy feeling inside that is a mix of excitement and anxiety.’
Ensure you are not looking at your partner with rose coloured lenses and take time to figure out what you want from the relationship
She believes that over time with the help of your bodies natural release of Oxycontin you can develop an attachment with the person you are sleeping with.
Although it could lead to love Samantha says it is important to remember to be kind to yourself.
‘It takes time to love someone and having sex with multiple people to fill the emptiness only leads to further disappointment.
‘Never sacrifice your values or your true self worth.’
Ensure you are not looking at your partner with rose coloured lenses and take time to figure out what you want from the relationship.