After getting slammed on social media for posting a photo of a Kama Sutra book on her anniversary, Jill Duggar is now calling the ancient tome ‘unbiblical’ and claiming that she doesn’t recommend it.
Jill, 28, of ’19 Kids and Counting’ and ‘Counting On’ fame — who waited until her wedding day for her first kiss — celebrated her fifth wedding anniversary with her husband Derick Dillard with a trip to nearby Branson, Missouri.
The mom of two then posted photos from the mini vacation on June 25, shocking fans who saw that one of the snaps included a sex game and a copy of the erotic book the Kama Sutra, which they had neatly placed on the same table as an open Bible.
Hot, steamy Duggar sex! Jill Duggar shared this photo from a recent wedding anniversary weekend, showing her copy of the Kama Sutra (top right) and a sexy bedroom game (left)
Sweet fellowship: The 28-year-old, pictured with 30-year-old Derick Dillard, first showed no embarrassment about making such an explicit and public statement about her sex life
Hundreds of people left comments, most calling out the Kama Sutra in particular. While some cheered her on, many found the picture problematic and more conservative religious fans found the post distasteful.
In the wake of the social media firestorm, Jill has now amended the photo caption, calling the book ‘unbiblical’ and claiming that neither she nor her husband were trying to recommend that other use the Kama Sutra.
In the lengthy ‘Note’ added to the bottom of the batch of anniversary photos’ caption, Jill wrote: ‘We are not recommending the Kama Sutra. We believe marriage is ordained by God and husbands and wives should filter everything they read and hear together through the lense of the Bible and not practice anything unbiblical.’
She went on to add that ‘The little book pictured is a modern, smaller, cleaner, edited version that doesn’t focus on spiritual aspects, homosexual, or other extramarital relationships, and again, we don’t take everything in there either as the truth. It is always good to be aware and careful of what we allow into our minds, hearts and marriages. We’ve not read the actual Kama Sutra and only promote biblical marriage (i.e. between a man and woman who are married).’
The reason for the lengthy caption update, she wrote was that ‘We just wanted to clarify since there has been a lot of discussion after this post.’
Awkward! Jill shared a caption positively packed with emojis — and also tagged her mother-in-law, @cldilla, to thank her for watching her sons
Oops! Day after being slammed for letting the world know the Kama Sutra was part of her anniversary weekend, Jill amended her Instagram post with this note
Because R-rated movies are bad: They also went to see Toy Story 4 this weekend
Did you show her the book too, Jill? Jill’s post included several pictures from their trip to Branson, Missouri, including this selfie with their waitress
NBD: The sexy book was thrown in among snaps of a bluegrass band and the restaurant they ate dinner at
A look at Amazon reviews of The Little Black Book of Kama Sutra: The Essential Guide to Getting it On, by L. L. Long, seems to back up Jill’s claims that the version of the Kama Sutra she shared with fans is a sanitized version of the ancient Indian Sanskrit text, which is considered one of the most famous books about erotic love.
While the original includes passages on topics including foreplay, group sex, homosexual sex acts, adultery, prostitution, and ways to please a lover, Duggar’s chosen version is much tamer, according to reviews.
‘This would be a great book for a virgin or someone who has only done missionary,’ wrote one Amazon reviewer.
‘Absolutely useless book..the presentation is very nice, but the information provided could only be interested to early teenagers,’ another reviewer wrote.
Working up an appetite, are we? Jill also shared a few snaps of the food she ate over the weekend
The devil did it: Fellow Christians expressed disappointment in her — with a few chastising her for reading a book ‘grounded in Hinduism’ and ‘inviting Satan into [her] marriage’
When Jill initially shared the G-rated pictures of her anniversary, she left out any mention of the Kama Sutra, choosing instead to let the title of the book speak for itself.
Most prominent in the black and white photo is the Kama Sutra book, which was positioned upright to show the title. Next to the book on the table was also a ‘Bedroom Edition’ of an intimacy game, with a visible card reading ‘Sweet Seduction.’
‘We had a wonderful 5yr. anniversary weekend in Branson, MO! We stayed at a bed and breakfast, then hung out at Silver Dollar City part of the time and saw our friends @southernraisedbandmusic perform,’ she wrote in the original caption.
‘Derick surprised me with an amazing dinner (& lovely view!),’ she went on.
‘Thanks @datingdivas for the fun games and ideas! If you don’t know about them, check them out!! They’ve got lots of fun, clean, date/marriage tips and ideas!
‘We ended our trip with a fun afternoon at the movies watching #toystory4,’ she added, before tagging Derick’s mother and thanking her for watching the couple’s two songs.
If Jill was hoping to get attention for the post, she succeeded.
‘No offense to y’all but I don’t want to know what goes on in between the sheets! Please keep it PG remember you were raised a Christian,’ wrote one.
‘Really shocked Jill. You’ve always been a massive role model for me. Right from when I was first converted. This has really bummed me out,’ wrote another.
A few commenters even chastised Jill for straying from Christianity, pointing to the Kama Sutra’s Hindu roots.
‘Am surprised you would read the Kama Sutra, it is Hindu. You are inviting Satan into your marriage,’ wrote one.
But it wasn’t just pearl-clutching fundamentalists who saw an issue: Commenters who identified themselves as more liberal didn’t like it, either.
‘Some things should be private and that’s it,’ wrote a woman who identified as a ‘liberal atheist bisexual woman’.
‘Especially while preaching modesty by Bible standards at the same time that you’re telling the world what you do inside your bedroom … to thousands and thousands of people.’
Some things stay private! Other commenters who identified as non-conservative also found the whole thing to be an overshare
‘Why oh why do you feel the need to post this?’ asked another. ‘You wear modest clothing to keep your body covered, yet you share intimate details about your sex life with the world? This is very odd to me.’
‘Whoa. I don’t consider myself to be a prude, but I also don’t think we need to know about your bedroom games. Waaaaaay TMI, Jill,’ said one more.
At least some members of her family didn’t mind the post, though. It was liked by Jill’s sisters Jana and Jessa, plus her sisters-in-law Lauren (who is married to Josiah) and Kendra (who is married to Joe).
But it was conspicuously not liked by Jinger or her husband Jeremy Vuolo, Jessa’s husband Ben Seewald, or the official Duggar Fam account.
Jill had been shockingly outspoken about her sex life lately, and left jaws on the floor earlier this month when she shared a blog post with a list of her most helpful marriage advice.
The suggestions included encouraging couples to have frequent sex, to save sex only for each other (in other words, no masturbating), and to do sexy things like have the wife rub lotion on while her husband watches.
The post started off innocently enough, with Jill quoting bible verses like: ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself.’
Later! Although Jill didn’t immediately respond to critics and didn’t seem concerned that people were saying her posts include TMI, she eventually clarified about the book
Do it, ladies! The mother-of-two similarly shocked followers earlier this month with a blog post detailing her marriage advice
Gettin’ frisky! Jill said wives should have sex with their husbands often, three to four times a week to start
But as soon as she delved into practical advice for ‘ways we can love our husbands,’ sex talk was on the table.
First point of advice: Have lots and lots of sex with your husband.
‘Have sex often!’ she wrote. ‘You both need this time together regularly (3-4 times a week is a good start. lol).’
Sometimes, she admitted, it’s not possible to have sex at least every other day, and referenced possible health issues. Though she didn’t name any specifics, Jill did go undergo C-sections with both of her sons.
‘And when you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and be intimate,’ she said. ‘Let your spouse know that you’re a;ways available.’
Referencing masturbation, she added: ‘Guard against fulfilling sexual desires alone.’
‘Be open with your spouse about your desires and change things up to keep it exciting! (Philippians 2:3-4; 1 Corinthians 7:5),’ she went on.
‘If you’re struggling with sex with your spouse, GET HELP! See a doctor and/or licensed counselor and don’t be afraid to get second opinions!’
Jill also advised that wives ‘get new lingerie (online is an easy way to buy!) as a surprise gift for birthdays, holidays, vacations or whenever!’ and go to bed ‘fresh’.
Family planning: The couple has two children, a four-year-old named Israel and a one-year-old named Samuel
The devil’s doing! She also said not to fulfill one’s sexual needs alone — meaning, don’t masturbate
‘Showering in the evening (and sometimes before he gets home if you arrive home before him!), and even putting on fragrant lotion in front of him can be another way to say “I care” and “you’re important to me,” and lets him know you’re up for fun whenever he is,’ she wrote.
Jill is clearly ‘up for fun’ the moment her husband walks through the door — and suggested that wives ‘run’ to their husbands when they get home ‘like you may have done when you were first dating.’
‘And if the kids are gone, have fun with it! Be crazy with your hubby!’ she added.
Finally on the sex front, she said to ‘give at least a 6 second kiss when coming and going’ and ‘be confident about your body’ even if you’re feeling insecure.
‘Chances are, he is less concerned about the things you’re worried about him not liking than you are,’ she wrote.
‘He will be happier when you are confident about yourself. And if there are things you can change or do to be more confident about yourself, then maybe it’s worth doing, or setting a goal to eventually get there!’
Jill’s frank sex talk came as quite as a surprise for those familiar with the Duggars. Following the rules set by her parents Michelle and Jim Bob, Jill and her siblings have all followed incredibly strict standards when it comes to dating and contact with the opposite sex.
Rather than date traditionally, the Duggars prefer ‘courtship,’ which they say is ‘dating with a purpose.’
Not holding back: Jill’s tips were uncharacteristically candid about sex
Typically, this involves the young man asking for the permission of the young woman’s parents, and the couple gets to know each other on supervised dates on which they are always accompanied by chaperones.
During that time, physical contact is limited to side-hugs, which prevent the scandalous full-frontal contact of the two bodies. The Duggars’ parents have also been included on text message chains.
Chaperons continue supervising a couple through their engagement, during which time they can add hand-holding to their side hugs.
However, kissing — and everything that comes after it — is saved for the wedding day.
When Jill married Derick in 2014, they shared their first kiss at the altar in front of their friends and family.
The Duggars also adhere to conservative modesty standards in terms of dress and were taught not to use birth control. Jim Bob and Michelle left family planning up to God, welcoming as many babies as divine intervention would allow — and it seems so far that most of their children are following in their footsteps.
But Jill’s recent explicit sex talk is a break from family tradition. Her siblings have mostly not referred to sex at all — except in the case of older brother Josh’s dating profiles on sites like Ashley Madison, as well as his apology for porn addiction and adultery.
Taking abstinence to a new level: Jill and Derick married in 2014 and didn’t share their first kiss until their wedding day
All about those virgins: Jill and her siblings have followed very strict dating rules set by their parents
Her mother Michelle has only said that wives should be ‘joyfully available’ to their husbands, since only they can meet their physical needs.
Jill’s advice did move beyond just sex, though, as she told wives to ‘encourage your hubby, serve him and meet his needs’ and to ‘look nice for him’ even when they’d prefer to wear PJs and go without makeup.
‘Make sure that a few times a week you enjoy time together looking like you would hanging out when you were dating!’ she wrote. ‘Plus, even if you work from home, just getting fixed up in the morning can give you a boost to your day!’
She said not to name-call, even as a joke, and to always be ‘grateful’ and look for ways to ‘praise him’ in front of others.
‘While security for wives is usually of utmost importance, respect is probably most important for most husbands! Ask your hubby what you do that makes him feel respected, and ask him in what other ways that he thinks you could show him more respect,’ she wrote.
To that end, nagging is a no-no, according to Jill: ‘Never allow your husband to think you’re his mother! Whether it’s making demands, delegating, or licking your finger and wiping something off his face…
‘If he says “I feel like you’re my mother when you…” then pay attention to that and ask him what you can to do change/how to handle the situation the next time!’
By that same token, she said to remember that ‘your husband is not your dad.’
Mom and dad are watching! Jim Bob and Michelle advised their kids not to have more contact than ‘side hugs’ before getting engaged, and then they can hold hands
Army for God: The couple has 19 kids of their own and don’t believe in birth control
‘You are teammates and he is your God-given protector. Keep this in mind and let it shape the way you relate,’ she wrote.
Interestingly, Jill also advocated for counseling when something goes wrong in a marriage, and encouraged women to leave abusive husbands.
‘If you are in an abusive relationship, do NOT stay!’ she wrote. ‘Report immediately to the authorities, get help and find a safe place to stay and get counseling from a licensed christian counselor!’
That particular advice stands out in light of her family’s own public scandals.
In the summer of 2015, InTouch magazine unearthed reports that Josh, now 31, had molested four of his younger sisters and a fifth child back when he was a teenager.
Josh had admitted to his parents in 2002 that he touched the breast area and genitals of the other children, including sisters Jill and Jessa, several times. Josh went to Christian counseling for several months as a result.
After the news came to light, TLC cancelled the Duggars’ show, 19 Kids and Counting — which has since been resurrected under a new name, Counting On.
But it was only the first of the scandals. That same summer — just a month after Josh and Anna welcomed their fourth child — when a hacker released user information for the adultery website Ashley Madison and Josh was found among those who had used the services.
That’s new: Duggars haven’t historically spoken openly about sex — except when it came to oldest sibling Josh’s sex scandals
Stuck forever: Josh and Anna are now expecting six kids, and it seems Anna has forgiven him for cheating on her and using websites like Ashley Madison
His profile included interests like ‘one-night stands and ‘experimenting with sex toys.’
Josh admitted publicly to infidelity and having a porn addiction, calling himself ‘the biggest hypocrite ever’ in a statement.
‘While espousing faith and family values, I have secretly over the last several years been viewing pornography on the internet and this became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife,’ he wrote.
‘I am so ashamed of the double life that I have been living and am grieved for the hurt, pain and disgrace my sin has caused my wife and family, and most of all Jesus and all those who profess faith in Him.’
Anna famously stuck by him, moving into his parents’ house with their children while Josh sought out more Christian counseling treatment.
Together, they have five children: nine-year-old Mackynzie, seven-year-old Michael, six-year-old Marcus, three-year-old Meredith, and one-year-old Mason.
They recently announced that they are expecting their sixth in November, another little girl.
Josiah, 22, and his wife Lauren, 20, are also expecting a daughter after Lauren suffered a miscarriage last year.
Joe, 24, and his wife Kendra, 20, are expecting a daughter as well, while Joy Anna, 21, and her husband Austin Forsyth have not announced the sex of their baby.