How to master small talk: Life coach shares his five rules for holding an ‘interesting’ conversation that will have you chatting ‘forever’
- Social mentor shares his five rules to talk ‘forever’
- He said to talk about things you find ‘interesting and compelling’
A life coach has revealed his five rules for holding an interesting conversation ‘forever’ and being a pro at small talk.
Sam Matheson, from Sydney, helps men ‘build high-value social circles by levelling up their status and social skills’.
The social mentor said to talk about things you find ‘interesting and compelling’ and to be ‘present’ while having a conversation.
He also said to ‘lower your standard’ of what you think a good conversation is and to put ‘energy’ into what you’re saying.
Sam hoped his tips would help people ‘captivate’ the person they’re talking to.
Social mentor Sam Matheson (pictured) has shared his five small talk rules for holding an ‘interesting’ conversation ‘forever and ever’
He said to talk about things you find ‘interesting and compelling’ and to be ‘present’ while having a conversation and to put ‘energy’ into what you’re saying
In response to a TikTok video of a woman saying being good at small talk is a ‘talent’, Sam shared his five rules to use to ‘talk forever and ever’.
‘Like how do you just come up with something to say when someone is talking to you?’ she asked before Sam shared his answer in a Facebook video.
His first rule is remembering: ‘What you say has value purely because it comes from you’.
The second rule is to keep in mind ‘whatever your have to say is interesting or compelling purely because you find it interesting and compelling’
‘It’s the law of state transference,’ he added referring to the ability to pass on your emotions or energy to the person you’re talking to.
Sam’s third rule is to be in the moment and present in the chat and not to think ahead about what you’re going to say next too much.
‘Rule number four is lower your standards of what you think a good conversation is,’ he said before sharing his final rule: ‘It’s not what you say but it’s the energy you put behind it.’
‘To summarise no one’s ever heard what you’re going to say so that’s why it’s interesting but when you’re compelled when you’re interested in what you’re saying, that’s what transfers over,’ Sam explained.
He again said it’s important to be ‘still’ and ‘present’ during a conversation and not to ‘rush’ ahead.
‘Lowering the bar of what you think a good conversation is because what is a good conversation?’ he said.
‘And a lot of the time, it’s what energy you put behind it, what emphasis that captivates people.’
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