A happily married dominatrix has revealed how she charges clients £200 an hour to fulfill their most off the wall fantasies – from being treated like a dog to being used as a human ashtray.
Bliss Theodora, 31, who operates professionally under the name Mistress Bliss, works from dungeons she rents out across London, where she caters to clients seeking BDSM, erotic domination, and ‘toilet games’.
Former fetish model Bliss, who moved to the UK from Melbourne in Australia two years ago, explained that she does not provide a ‘sexual service’, and that she draws the line at anything illegal.
Aside from that, she’s ‘happy to discuss anything’ with her clients, many of whom will pay up to £1,500 for an overnight session.
Former fetish model Bliss Theodora, who moved to London from the UK two years ago, is a professional dominatrix operating under the name Mistress Bliss
Bliss, who is happily married, says she is ‘happy to discuss anything’ with her clients
She said: ‘I don’t provide a sexual service, or intimate body worship and I won’t do anything illegal – for obvious reasons.
‘I do not switch or provide a space which will harm a client mentally or physically. I’m happy to hurt but not to harm, because at the end of the day, the industry is all about consensually reliving a fantasy, that both my client and I can entertain.
‘I get many requests for erotic domination and toilet games but I do a range of things and I’m happy to discuss anything with my clients.’
Charging anything from £200 for one hour to £1,500 for an overnight session, Bliss says she is constantly busy working with clients, either in person or online.
She continued: ‘Every day is different. In the domme industry it all depends on whether you have clients, personal errands, personal projects or are simply taking self-care days to rest – which in this industry, is incredibly important. I can spend a full day in a dungeon or a full day in bed.
‘Nothing is ever the same.
No two days are ever the same in the ‘domme’ industry, says the married 31-year-old
Bliss, who charges from £200 an hour, says she will continue in her line of work for another decade
‘I intend on enjoying a career as a professional dominatrix for probably the next 10 years.
‘But, since settling in London, I now have the time to dedicate to working on projects such as vastly improving sex education in schools, creating safer and realistic environments and rights for sex workers and ensuring a safer reproductive freedom-based system for women. Hopefully, this will in-turn create an example for countries which are suffering in this area.’
With a dramatic appearance and a tiny 24-inch waist, Bliss first launched her career as a lingerie model in her 20s, in time, becoming increasingly involved in the sex industry – stripping, escorting, web-camming and doing porn work.
While her dominatrix work interested her most, she says it was working in a restaurant where the servers wore lingerie that first exposed her to a world of ‘hustler’ men.
She explained: ‘It exposed me to wealthy men and the hustler mentality.
‘I began non-sexual escorting with a patron and, shortly after that, ended I attended my first topless bartending/waitressing event with a girl I worked with from the restaurant. That was where it all began and I stayed in the topless bartending/waitressing industry for about 5 years thereafter, working across Victoria, Australia.
While Bliss says she enjoyed exploring different kinds of work, she found her calling in BDSM – or erotic practices involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism.
Bliss works from her domestic space in London’s East End, or at dungeons she rents out across the capital
Mistress Bliss, 31, is seen preparing for one of her sessions with clients at a dungeon
The former fetish model went from non-sexual escorting to discovering her true passion lay in BDSM
She said: ‘I discovered that BDSM was where my true passion lay.
‘My time in the kink scene spanned over 10 years before I began holding professional Dominatrix sessions – which began half a year into my life in London. My business has been soaring ever since.’
Away from work, Bliss – who lives with her husband, who she does not want to name – enjoys travelling and modelling.
It is very different to her work agenda, where she offers to fulfil a range of fetishes, from enforced exercise to treating the client like a dog during ‘puppy play,’ financial domination, where clients fantasise about spending money on her, to treating them as a human ashtray. But she is very clear about she will not do – including having sex with clients.
‘I enjoy taking my clients on a journey beyond the realms of day-to-day reality, diving into and exploring their fantasies and desires,’ she said.
‘I allow people to let go of their “normal” selves and indulge in their “true” selves – playing with aspects of what would be considered “dirty, perverse, naughty,” which is hard to do in our ‘vanilla’ world.
‘BDSM is founded on principles of communication, consent and care, which people rarely get to experience and this is profoundly positive and mentally nourishing.’
Bliss issues clients with a list of gifts they can buy her, and sells her own items – from her shoes to her used stockings
Bliss is an advocate of better conditions and more relaxed laws to help protect sex workers
Many women in her field work from home, which heightens risk, Mistress Bliss says
As well as frequent sessions with clients, Bliss also has a wish list of gifts that clients can buy her and sells intimate items like used shoes, heels, socks, stockings and sex toys, to help fulfil her clients’ fantasies.
But for Bliss, life in the sex industry isn’t always easy.
She explained: ‘Running your own business, of any kind, is at times difficult, time consuming and stressful. There are no guarantees, paid sick days, insurance policies, or set work hours. It takes a specific type of person to manage all these aspects, not to mention that it is within the sex industry.
‘Safety should always be somewhere in your mind – safety for yourself and your client.
‘Whether it’s security, safety during a session, nurturing personal relationships, managing mental health, or even giving a helping hand.
‘I have methods for vetting and screening clients in place but – like in any job – if someone is to act out, you just have to be prepared, as you can never control what everyone is going to do regardless of the context, situation or state of mind.’
Even with her strict approach to business and safety at work, Bliss admits she has had some hairy moments.
Bliss is adamant that there should be better conditions and more relaxed laws for sex workers, in order to afford them greater protection.
She continued: ‘Current prostitution laws state that owning and operating a brothel is a criminal act.
‘This leaves sex workers vulnerable, due to the lack of security and continued isolation caused by the lack of community protection.
‘Because of the legalities, I cannot own or operate a dungeon in which various women can work at once, whereas in Switzerland, for example, this is perfectly legal – dramatically reducing the risk of assault, rape and murder.
‘Women in my field are known to work from their homes, which also heightens risk.
‘This is the reality and the unglamorous side of the job. Creating laws to protect sex workers, instead of isolating them, is the way forward. While prostitution is in itself legal, a string of laws criminalise activities around it.’
Despite the restrictions, Bliss loves her work and remains an outspoken and positive voice in favour of greater tolerance.
She added: ‘I like to challenge people’s perceptions that society has spoon-fed them in hopes of invoking even a little bit of change in people’s thought processes. And when this is met with anger and aggression, it only pushes me further.’