MAFS Mel Schilling reveals why people are ‘overdating’

Finding love in the digital age is no feat.

And with the rise of popular matchmaking apps such as Tinder and Bumble, arranging a date has become so much easier.

And if you have been on the dating scene for a while, Married At First Sight relationship expert Mel Schilling suggested asking yourself two simple questions.

‘Why am I doing this and what am I getting out of it?’

Here, the Australian dating expert revealed the reason behind why people go on back-to-back dates.

Married At First Sight relationship expert Mel Schilling reveals why people are ‘overdating’

‘I find that sometimes people who are ‘overdating’ are trying to hide from something… it can be a great distraction from everyday life,’ she told 9Honey.

‘So maybe if you notice yourself doing this, take a little time out, reflect, and really think about what it is you want.’

She explained the dating process was the perfect opportunity to get to explore what it is you are looking for in a person.

By treating the dating apps as a ‘social experiment’, Mel said you can get an idea of what you really want in a relationship.

By treating the dating apps as a ‘social experiment’, Mel said you can get an idea of what you really want in a relationship (stock image)

But for those trying to find a life partner via these apps, she said there were potential downfalls of dating a lot of different people at the same time. 

‘Disposable dating can be very confusing, and in fact, can close you off to opportunities for longer-term relationships,’ she said.

Mel suggested avoiding investing your energy into multiple short-term flings – and ensure it’s ‘about making the space for a new relationship’.