Male escort, 41, sells sex as a gigolo to wealthy women clients… and keeps his wife happy at home

Alex the gigolo has experienced a lot, from passionate sex on a houseboat to having food smeared over his naked body.

The 41-year-old male escort from the north of England has been in the business of selling his body to wealthy women for almost 20 years — and he loves it. 

‘It’s sex! It’s fun,’ he told MailOnline in an exclusive interview.

What may surprise many people is that the self-confessed ‘silver fox’ has been happily coupled with his university sweetheart for 12 years.

Since he started escorting at university when he was 25 to make extra cash he has bedded hundreds of women and made tens of thousands of pounds.

Alex the gigolo, 41, (pictured) is a self-confessed ‘silver fox’ who has been a male escort for almost 20 years

In an exclusive interview with MailOnline, Alex revealed he started escorting at university when he was 25 years old

In an exclusive interview with MailOnline, Alex revealed he started escorting at university when he was 25 years old

He’s come across a few interesting kinks in his time.

Some of his clients enjoy Shibari, an ancient Japanese style of rope bondage.

Others have eccentric kinks and fetishes.

Alex said:  ‘Some people like playing with food. 

‘They like the texture of it. They like to smear it all over the body.’

Owing to his side hustle as an escort Alex has learned the importance of pre-injury workouts to avoid any nasty sprains or strains.

He has picked up a few bumps on the head during his work because he is fairly tall, which he revealed was especially a problem on a client’s houseboat.

Other injuries have included straining his arm during sex with a client because of foreplay and more adventurous acrobatic moves during Shibari.

He has also suffered from some shoulder issues from a lack of stretching. 

He said: ‘I’m a bit of a silver fox nowadays. 

‘The first time I had a session for nine hours my jaw locked out. 

‘She loved it. 

‘It was a bit difficult to explain at work.’

Offering MailOnline readers a top sex tip, he said: ‘Foreplay is there for a reason. Treat it as a warmup and remember to stretch properly after.

‘Sustainable sex requires sustainable health routines.’ 

Despite selling his body for sex as an extra job on the side, he has managed to keep his wife happy at home and pursue a career in civil engineering

Despite selling his body for sex as an extra job on the side, he has managed to keep his wife happy at home and pursue a career in civil engineering

The 41-year-old gigolo said he enjoyed his job and his wife saw his escorting as just 'another part' of his life

The 41-year-old gigolo said he enjoyed his job and his wife saw his escorting as just ‘another part’ of his life

His clientele usually comprises of women in their thirties to fifties, although sometimes he sleeps with 20-year-olds. 

On Valentine’s this year he received seven requests and ended up spending the romantic day with a 25-year-old woman.

For some, spending Valentine’s day in bed with another woman might spell the end of your relationship.

Yet for Alex’s wife, a 40-year-old theatre lover who has known about his side hustle since he started at university, the gigolo said she just ‘sees it as another part of my life’.

The pair met at university before getting together after they graduated and eventually getting married four years ago.

Alex told MailOnline: ‘My wife is fine with it. We are both monogamous. 

‘We’ve known each other for so many years now. 

‘She’s my best friend.

‘She jokes about me helping other marriages, satisfying wives and stopping men from burning out.’

He added: ‘We’re romantic enough throughout the year that we don’t really need to consider Valentine’s as a dedicated day to our relationship.

‘It’s the smaller moments for us.’ 

Alex said he was ‘generally a private person’ but his close friends know about his sexual antics.

He said:  ‘Everyone needs relief at some point. 

‘I don’t think it’s something that anyone should look down on.

He has made tens of thousands of pounds from sleeping with hundreds of wealthy women and revealed the money has helped him pay off the bulk of his mortgage

He has made tens of thousands of pounds from sleeping with hundreds of wealthy women and revealed the money has helped him pay off the bulk of his mortgage

He said the job wasn't without its dangers though. He has suffered numerous injuries, from straining his arm during foreplay to getting lockjaw after a nine-hour session with a woman

He said the job wasn’t without its dangers though. He has suffered numerous injuries, from straining his arm during foreplay to getting lockjaw after a nine-hour session with a woman

‘It’s mostly company [people want]. It’s mostly dinner dates. 

‘I guess just to feel less lonely. 

‘Occasionally [there’s] someone who’s extra kinky. It’s another way to have fun.’

Alex, who is also a civil engineer, started escorting when he was at university and around 25 years old. 

Almost two decades later he’s still going strong.

Alex said he wouldn’t stop being an escort ‘unless there was a major problem’.

Although Alex and his wife don’t have children at the moment, he said he would probably stop selling himself for sex if they did.

He said it wouldn’t be because of the children as such, more that he would want to make sure he was there to help his wife out with the childcare.

As a straight man, Alex doesn’t see male clients alone, although he has had some ‘intimate’ MMF threesomes with couples.

‘Those felt more like a learning experience for the men,’ he said.

He has a number of regulars and meets up with a client around once every two weeks. 

He charges £200 an hour and £1,500 for an overnight stay and usually rakes in thousands each month.

Alex has logged each job in his files so he can keep track of his earnings.

He said: ‘January was a bit cold, I made around £1,200. 

‘Christmas was better. That was pushing around £3,000.’

He added: ‘I was definitely earning a lot more in the beginning.

In 2009, I was pushing close to £55,000.

‘It’s tapered off nowadays and especially during the pandemic but overall it’s been enough to pay off the bulk of my mortgage.

‘[It was] an undertaking I assure you, though my main career holds a more significant part of my finances.’ 

He said the key to pleasing someone in the bedroom was being open and talking about what you both enjoy and feel comfortable with

He said the key to pleasing someone in the bedroom was being open and talking about what you both enjoy and feel comfortable with

Alex added that stretching to avoid injuries was also very helpful because 'sustainable sex requires sustainable health routines'

Alex added that stretching to avoid injuries was also very helpful because ‘sustainable sex requires sustainable health routines’

The male escort said the added benefit of sleeping with hundreds of women is that once in a while he comes across a new technique that he can bring home to his wife.

He said: ‘My wife quite enjoys it sometimes when I learn something new. 

‘We don’t talk about work. She’s completely fine with it.’

He only does ‘outcalls’, meaning he travels to hotels or clients’ homes rather than bringing them to his family house.

For the right price he even travels further afield and once even went all the way to Scotland just to meet a client. 

Alex said he would ‘never’ take them back to his own house though because of his wife.

He hopes to ‘shine more of a light into escort work,’ an industry he believes needs a shake up.

While he used to rely on word of mouth he now uses sites such as ChiccaChicca to advertise his escorting service.

However, the gigolo admitted: ‘The female escorts have it much harder than I do.’ 

He explained that escorting is ‘for the most part completely legal’ but could become illegal if someone is ‘pimped out’.

Paying for sex is legal in the UK, except in Northern Ireland, unless the prostitute has been forced or threatened into the job.

He said the industry needed to be ‘more accessible to everyone’ and carry less of a stigma.

He said: ‘For those who are sex-positive, having access to no strings attached sex shouldn’t have to be a five-hour swiping session on a dating app.’

He said escorts should be able to offer same day sex while not being exploited by some sites that charge escorts dearly for advertising online.

Alex, a polite and unassuming man who was happy to offer an insight into his secret life as a married gigolo, also offered his sex tips to MailOnline readers.

He said the key to pleasing people in the bedroom was to discuss what you both enjoy.

He added that unlike himself people are probably not getting paid so there’s no point doing something you’re not comfortable with. 

Alex said: ‘Talk to them and see what they like. Have fun.’

Names have been changed.

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