Man is blasted for secretly turning off his wife’s work email notifications on vacation – but he argues it’s OK because she’s ‘not paid a high enough wage’ to check her emails after hours
- Reddit user u/gavelpounder91 took to the ‘Am I the A**hole’ forum last week to confess that he went behind his wife’s back and muted her emails
- He explained that she is an hourly employee and is ‘not paid a high enough wage to warrant her needing to check emails after hours’
- The man admitted that he has a problem with his wife checking her emails and worrying about them when she isn’t being paid to work
- A majority of the commenters slammed him over his actions, saying he was ‘disrespectful,’ ‘condescending,’ and possibly putting his wife’s job at risk
A man is facing backlash for being ‘disrespectful’ and ‘condescending’ after he revealed that he secretly turned off his wife’s work email notifications while they were on vacation.
Reddit user u/gavelpounder91 took to the ‘Am I the A**hole’ forum last week to confess that he went behind his wife’s back and muted her emails, claiming it was in her best interest.
‘She is hourly, and not paid a high enough wage to warrant her needing to check emails after hours,’ he argued, before comparing his spouse’s job to his own.
Say what? Reddit user u/gavelpounder91 revealed that he went behind his wife’s back and muted her email notifications while they were on vacation, claiming it was in her best interest
‘I’m paid a high salary in a 24/7 production type job. I check my email once a day to make sure I didn’t seriously screw the pooch on something before I left, but that’s it.’
The man admitted that he takes issue with his wife working after hours and deduced that she would just catch up with the emails after their trip.
‘I do have a problem with her reading emails and starting to worry about work when she isn’t paid to, every time she gets copied on a work email,’ he wrote.
‘I get that she doesn’t want to walk in blind next week. But she’ll have plenty of time to read missed emails on the plane ride home.’
He concluded the post by asking if he was in the wrong for ‘getting her phone and blocking her work email notifications behind her back.’
How could you? A majority of the commenters slammed him over his actions, saying he was ‘disrespectful,’ ‘condescending,’ and possibly putting his wife’s job at risk
For a majority of the commenters, the answer was a resounding ‘yes.’
‘You could like… you know… talk to your wife. I get that it comes from a good place, but this is not the right solution,’ one person wrote, trying to give him the benefit of the doubt.
However, others weren’t so generous in their criticisms.
‘It doesn’t come from a good place. He made that decision for her and his justification is that he doesn’t respect her career or her commitment to it because he doesn’t like what she’s being paid,’ someone else pointed out. ‘That’s garbage.’
‘He is directly disrespecting his wife’s career and undermining her contributions and the importance of her job,’ another agreed. ‘Who the hell is OP to decide if her wife’s job is important or not?’
Others argued that he could be putting her job at risk if she is expected to keep up with her work emails while away.
‘Hourly jobs are often significantly more precarious than highly-paid salaried jobs, and supervisors are far less respectful,’ one Reddit user explained.
‘Even though your wife isn’t paid enough to justify her checking emails after hours, it may be a real expectation, and there may be significant consequences if she doesn’t.’