A young mum has bravely spoken out about how being branded ‘too posh to push’ by trolls for having a C section traumatised her so much they triggered her post-natal depression.
Abbie Lever, 21, from Bolton, in Greater Manchester, says that the birth of her three-month-old daughter Daisy was a ‘traumatic experience’ that were the ‘worst moments of her life’ after having to get an emergency caesarean due to complications.
However, the mother-of-three says she felt like her body had failed Daisy and after cruel online trolls told her the C-section was a ‘cop out’ – which Abbie claims sparked her post-natal depression.
Abbie Lever has bravely spoken out about her the traumatising birth of her daughter Daisy after trolls branded her ‘too posh to push’ following an emergency C section
However, the health care assistant bravely chose to speak out in an emotional Facebook post on November 20 about the realities of caesareans to comfort other mums.
Abbie said: ‘I felt like my body had failed my little girl. I felt like I was a failure. I couldn’t bond with her at first.
‘[The comments] really got to me because I had such a traumatic time with my little girl. It pulled on my heartstrings.
Abbie shared photos of her recovery in the hope to demonstrate the brutal reality of her recovery
The mother-of-three shared a heart felt Facebook post in the hope to defy her trolls who described her caesarean as a ‘cop out’
‘The comments were a trigger for the post-natal depression. I had no self-esteem and no confidence.
‘Some people have said that it’s a cop out and that I’m too posh to push but it is still labour at the end of the day.’
Abbie was sent for an emergency C-section on August 18th when it was discovered that the umbilical cord was wrapped around Daisy’s neck and that she had turned all the way around in the womb.
Abbie was forced to have an emergency C section after it was discovered that the umbilical cord had wrapped around Daisy’s neck. Pictured: Abbie’s scarring
The mother expected the worst when she couldn’t hear her daughter crying when she was born during the ‘longest five minutes of her life’.
However, after being resuscitated, little Daisy was completely fine but it wasn’t until the mum’s ‘guts had been chucked back in’ that she was able to hold her daughter.
Abbie waited three weeks after the labour before sharing any photos of Daisy, so that she had enough time to recover from the birth, which was when she received the comments.
Abbie said: ‘It was quite hurtful to receive the comments especially with it being so soon after the birth.
‘I developed post-natal depression through it all. Now I’m getting back to myself I feel like I can help people who are going through the same thing.’
Abbie, who has two other children [Poppy, five, and Violet, three], decided to make an emotional post about how these comments made her feel to help other women who are going through the same thing.
Her post said: ‘Sick of seeing comments on status’ from pregnant women and also mothers, some saying a C section is the easy way out, or a cop out of you will?? That to me shows how shallow and so rude some people are just give over will you! [SIC]
‘Imagine waiting 9 months for the moment you hold your baby first before anyone else in this world, but instead 5 maybe 6 other people hold your princess first.
‘Not being able to have skin to skin straight away, till all your guts have been chucked back in and your stomach muscles that have been ripped from bottom to top stitched back up.
‘Imagine being the only one in that freezing cold theatre room behind that blue screen not knowing what’s going on when you can’t hear your baby crying and you can only imagine the worst.
‘I for one had the most traumatic time from start to finishing and having an emergency c section.
Abbie (picturd with her newborn daughter and partner Adam Haigh) says that the shocking comments she received triggered her post-natal depression
Adam and Abbie say that their daughter, who was born in August, is doing well following her traumatic birth
‘My princess was a monkey from the start and spun round and came out bum first and because she was the biggest diva in the world.
‘To come into the world, she needed a lot of resuscitation because she was very sleepy and the cord was around the neck.
‘I remember thinking and saying why isn’t she crying what’s wrong with her. Those were the worst moments and longest 5 minutes of my entire life.
‘A c section is not a cop out, it’s to save a babies life, YOUR baby. It certainly saved my princess and I’ll be grateful to the midwifes and doctors that helped me through the day, if it wasn’t for the midwife I had I wouldn’t of kept it together.
‘And no this post is not for attention as I don’t need any attention, this is to show you mummies that have had a c section, emergency or not, you still did it.
‘You brought your special little prince or princess into this world because I was personally devastated I had to have one after I’ve had 2 vaginal births in the past but as soon as they said it was to save her life I’d do it all over again to save any of my little girls and I’d do it again!’ [SIC]
Abbie said: ‘I have had a good response from the post I even got a message from one lady who said she felt the same way and that the post helped her.
‘However, some people have said that I was just attention seeking. I just hope that this post helps other mums.
‘I spoke to my family and friends about it and they told me how proud they are of how I have come through it. I do feel like the post has helped me. I get now that it isn’t just me that feels this way.
‘My partner [Adam Haigh, 27] was amazing during the birth. I couldn’t have done anything without him there. I was petrified, and he was so supportive and kept me calm.
‘Our little girl is beautiful. She’s doing so well.’