Mother having an affair admits she’s ‘angry’ that her lover wants to get back with his ex while waiting for her to leave the father of her children – and is branded an ‘idiot’ by fellow parents
- Mother-of-two asked parents on Mumsnet for their advice on her affair
- She started cheating on the father of her children a ‘few months ago’
- Her lover told her he was ‘lonely’ and wanted to get back with his ex girlfriend
- The woman asked whether it was unfair that she wanted him to wait for her
A mother who is having an affair has been branded an ‘idiot’ by other parents after she admitted she is annoyed her lover wants to get back with his ex-girlfriend.
The anonymous woman explained she struck up the affair with her lover – an old friend – after he contacted her out of the blue but now expects him to wait for her while she decides whether she wants to leave the father of her two young children.
Taking to parenting site Mumsnet, the woman, believed to be from the UK, said she knows the situation is a ‘mess’ but wanted advice as she doesn’t know what to do.
She asked: ‘Is my expectation that he is faithful while he waits for me unfair?’
An anonymous woman took to British parenting site mumsnet to ask for advice after she started an affair with ‘an old friend from 10 years ago’ (stock image)
She admitted she had two ‘small kids’ with her partner, and their relationship was ‘not terrible but not happy’ before she was ‘seduced’ by her lover over email
The post was met with a string of critical comments from fellow parents, who branded the mother ‘pathetic’.
One wrote: ‘He’s an idiot, so are you I’m afraid. Sort your current relationship out, either end it or work on it (tell your husband…), but don’t go anywhere near this other man.
‘That’s it in a nutshell. It’s hard, but that’s the mess you’ve got into. I dare say you won’t do any of this though and will carry on as you are.’
Another was more reasonable. They said: ‘Yes it is unfair. However I understand why you feel like you do. It sounds like you both want to have your cake and eat it though. I will never agree with affairs so my advice is to end it with one of them and move on.’
Other Mumsnet users were quick to criticise the poster, with one blasting her for being ‘utterly pathetic’ and another calling her ‘an idiot’
Others urged the woman to look at her lover’s behaviour and consider what sort of man he actually is.
One penned: ‘I don’t usually post on these types of threads because I strongly disagree with affairs but I think you need to realise that he is not a nice man.
‘He either doesn’t have the same thoughts for you and wants to be with his partner and you on the side or he wants to be with you but is unpleasant enough he wants to use another woman for company, sex, cooking and housework.
‘Honestly, dump him and look at what you can do to sort out your own relationship or end both relationships and move on.’
Another echoed a stronger sentiment. They wrote: ‘Any adult who cannot be on their own is utterly pathetic’
Another added: ‘He just can’t be on his own while he waits for me. What a complete and utter b*****d. What made you fall for this pathetic excuse of a man? Give him the boot. ps: I am a man myself.’
A third wrote: ‘So you’re the ONE, but is he sleeping with other women? He has undying love for YOU, but is considered living with someone else.
‘Can you spot the difference between what he’s saying and what he’s actually telling you?’