A mother who got pregnant by her rapist at age 17 has detailed the ‘deep betrayal’ she felt when her husband of 17 years – who was raising her child as his own – revealed he was bisexual and that he had been cheating on her with men for 14 years.
Sara Schulting Kranz, 48, from Hermosa Beach, California, said she was filled with ‘anger, pain, loss, shame, and regret’ after she found out that her husband of nearly two decades had been unfaithful and was living a secret double life.
She said that uncovering her spouse’s shocking infidelity, 23 years after giving birth to her rapist’s son, left her ‘questioning everything,’ and brought up the severe trauma that she had faced when she was raped as a teenager.
Sara – who is now a life coach and certified wilderness guide – explained during a recent interview with The Doctors that her life was ‘pretty normal’ until she met a man, whose identity has not been revealed, at the age of 17.
‘We had fun together, I trusted him,’ she recalled. ‘Until one night, he ended up raping me.’
A mom who got pregnant by her rapist at 17 detailed the ‘deep betrayal’ she felt when her husband of 17 years revealed he was bisexual and cheated on her with men for 14 years
Sara Schulting Kranz (seen on her wedding day with her son) was filled with ‘anger, pain, loss, shame, and regret’ after learning her husband of 17 years was living a secret double life
Sara (pictured as a teen) said uncovering his infidelity left her ‘questioning everything,’ and brought up the severe trauma she had faced when she was raped as a teenager
Sara – who is now a life coach and wilderness guide – met a man, whose identity has not been revealed, at the age of 17, who raped her and got her pregnant. Her sonogram is seen
Sara said she tried to ‘pretend it didn’t happen’ until she discovered that she was pregnant.
She then went to the police, who concluded that there was ‘insufficient evidence’ and didn’t pursue her case any further.
Sara decided to keep the baby and later gave birth to her first son, Carson.
About a year and a half later, she met her future husband, David Kranz, on a local bus while she was attending college at the University of Wisconsin-Madison.
She shared: ‘He instantly became my best friend. For the next 14 years, everything was great.
‘Our careers were taking off, we had two more beautiful sons [named Jacob and Christian]. I would have never have guessed that what was going to happen was going to happen.’
But Sara’s life suddenly changed when David came home one night and admitted that he was bisexual and that he had been ‘betraying’ her with men for 14 of their 17 years together.
‘I felt so much anger, and pain and loss and shame and regret. I questioned how I was going to do anything in my life after that. I questioned everything,’ she told the outlet.
‘The level of betrayal was very deep. There were so many layers to it.’
Sara decided to keep the baby and later gave birth to her first son, Carson. She is pictured right after she welcomed Carson
About a year later, she met her future husband, David Kranz, on a bus while she was attending college at the University of Wisconsin-Madison – who ‘instantly became her best friend’
But Sara’s life suddenly changed when David came home one night and admitted that he was bisexual and that he had been ‘betraying’ her with men for 14 of their 17 years together
They got married three years later and welcomed two more baby boys together, and Sara said ‘everything was great’ for a long time (pictured with her three sons)
Sara, pictured with her ex-husband after their split, said the pain she felt reignited the damage from her past. But thankfully, she was able to work through it and they are now on good terms
The pain she felt also reignited the damage from the traumatic incident in her past.
‘I didn’t realize how much it had brought up my trauma from age 17 until I had one therapist who told me that,’ Sara admitted.
‘[The therapist] said, “When you go through relationship betrayal and trauma, it can actually reignite all of your trauma from your past that has not been healed yet.”‘
Thankfully, because of her personal strength and family’s support, she was able to work through it.
‘Thank God for my 17 year old self who understood how to work through the relational and betrayal trauma and found her power at such a young age,’ she continued.
‘My family is amazing and supported me so deeply back then that I knew, at the age of 40, what to do because I had already lived through so much at the age of 17.’
After her husband’s admission, the couple decided to get a divorce, but they worried most about how it was going to affect their three kids.
‘When we talked to the kids we decided that the words needed to come from [David]. So he was the one that actually told them what was going on,’ she remembered.
‘And because it came from him and he could finally speak his truth, they did a remarkable job of handling it.
‘The one thing that they were most concerned about was, “Are you going to get divorced and how is this going to impact our family?”
After her husband’s admission, the couple decided to get a divorce, but they worried most about how it was going to affect their three kids. The family is pictured together in 2021
However, the mom-of-three reminded her boys (pictured with their dad) that ‘they’d always be there to support them,’ and said they did a ‘remarkable job of handling it’
Despite the initial pain and anger, Sara has since come to forgive her ex-husband and said they are ‘on really good terms now’
Sara went on to use her past traumas to write a book about forgiveness, titled Walk Through This. She has also connected with other people who have gone through something similar
‘We were very good about being very clear with them that we were going to come to a place of co-parenting and that we’d always be there to support them in their best interests.’
Despite the initial pain and anger, Sara has since come to forgive her ex-husband.
‘We are on really good terms and I’m really proud of that. It doesn’t mean I forget, condone, or pardon anything he went through,’ she said.
‘I need to make that very clear because if we forget that everything happened, we’re not honoring the experience that we went through.
‘It’s a choice though, every day, and we work on it. I’m really proud, we do such a good job as a family.’
And she has now been able to turn it into a positive thing. Sara went on to use her past traumas to write a book about forgiveness, titled Walk Through This.
She is also a public speaker and often shares her story with others – leading her to connect with many other men and women who have gone through something similar.
‘What was interesting was, now that I’ve gone public with my story, I’ve discovered how many people are leading double lives in this world – how many partners don’t know about it and how many families are effected by it,’ she explained.
As for how she was able to heal, she said it started with self-forgiveness.
She revealed, ‘Everything needs, when you’re healing, to come in alignment with your mind, body, spirit, and heart.
‘When I went through the forgiveness process, I realized that it needed to start with self forgiveness – where can I learn more deeply about myself in my own self forgiveness?
‘Then it went into forgiveness for others. Don’t give away your power to someone else before first finding and having that empowerment with self.
As for how she was able to heal, she said it started with self forgiveness, and that it always came back to ‘love’
The only thing the mom-of-three (pictured with her kids) would do differently if she had the chance was the way she told her son Carson (left) about his biological father
She didn’t share the truth about his conception with him until he was 13, and she said she wished she was honest with him earlier
She said: ‘As parents we need to be honest, authentic, vulnerable, and be able to say I’m sorry. Being able to say I’m sorry to my children has allowed them to see me as imperfectly perfect’
‘Self forgiveness, then forgiveness for others, and then forgiveness for the world. There were a lot of people in society, who, let’s just face it, let me down during this. And let my husband down during this.
‘Forgiveness does not have to be that difficult. You can have fun with it. Healing is not linear … forgiveness always comes back to love.’
The only thing the mom-of-three would do differently if she had the chance was the way she told her son Carson about his biological father.
She didn’t share the truth about his conception with him until he was 13, and she now said she wished she was honest with him earlier on.
‘I realized while my former husband was going through this space of betrayal, we were also betraying our son by not giving him his truth about what happened to me at 17,’ she added.
‘We didn’t tell him until he was about 13 years old. I would completely do it differently today, I would have told him … younger than I did.
‘Guess what? As parents, we’re not perfect. We do need to stand with our truth and respect our kids and their truth.
‘We need to be honest, authentic, vulnerable, and be able to say I’m sorry. Being able to say I’m sorry to my children has in many ways allowed them to see me as an imperfectly perfect human being.’