Mum shattered after her husband refuses to have another baby and says it would ‘end their relationship’: ‘He’d rather get a dog’
- A new mum wants another baby but her husband doesn’t
- The pair have one child together but he would rather get a dog instead
- Melbourne writer Laura Mazza offered her advice
A mum-of-one has shared her heartbreak after her husband said she doesn’t want another child.
The pair has been together ‘for years’ and share one child together. But every time she brings up the idea of having more kids, her husband ‘shoots her down’ and ‘becomes angry’.
As an alternative, last year he suggested adopting another dog, leaving her feeling upset.
Seeking advice from Melbourne mum-of-three and writer Laura Mazza, the anonymous woman told Kidspot: ‘He doesn’t truly understand how much another baby would mean to me, and refuses to entertain it.’
To make matters worse, her husband says having another child would ‘end their relationship’.
A mum-of-one who wants to grow her family says her husband doesn’t want any more kids and reached out to Melbourne writer Laura Mazza (pictured) for advice. The woman claims her husband suggested they get a dog instead
After the birth of their child, he suffered from depression which is likely a contributing factor towards his choice to not want any more kids.
Laura offered her advice on the situation and encouraged the woman to understand her husband’s concerns.
‘Practicing empathy and putting your feet in your husband’s shoes will help you get to the deepest concerns he has without him shutting down,’ Laura said.
As a final resort some may consider ending the relationship, which is never an easy decision, and couples need to think about whether this messy option is worth it.
When it comes to talking about having more children with your partner, marriage therapist Amber Trueblood told parents.com couples should creating a safe space to talk and understand each perspective.
‘Parenthood is hard on a marriage, and for some partners, the idea of doing everything all over again isn’t exciting – it’s terrifying,’ Ms Trueblood said.
‘Perhaps one partner feels financial pressure or fears passing on a genetic anomaly, rendering them incapable of imagining the benefits of having another child.
‘Or one partner fears raising their only child without siblings because of their own very special sibling relationships, rendering them incapable of imagining raising an only child in a happy and complete way.’
She recommended to be patient, practice gratitude and consider couple’s therapy.
Struggling new parents with children or couples considering having more babies can find support through PANDA via clicking here.
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