Mum ruined 9-year-old’s birthday party by trying to get her daughter invited

A mum has been accused of ‘ruining’ a child’s birthday by ‘accidentally’ causing drama within her daughter’s friendship group – but she doesn’t think she’s in the wrong.

Julie was confused when her nine-year-old daughter was excluded from her friend Addy’s birthday party, despite attending a tight-knit school with only 11 girls in her grade.

The child discovered the news when her friend Sarah asked if she was excited about the pool party – only to realise she had no idea Addy was celebrating her birthday at all.

Sarah’s mum suggested Julie contact the other girl’s parents – because it had to be an honest mistake – but Julie was shocked when she found out her daughter wasn’t invited on purpose.

Julie’s simple message soon spiralled out of control and resulted in four other girls refusing to attend Addy’s party, with Addy’s mum infuriated by the ‘drama’ Julie caused.

‘I was hesitant at first because I do have strong feelings about inviting yourself to things,’ Julie said. ‘But I couldn’t see a real reason why she wasn’t invited since it was an at-home party and every other girl was, so I texted Addy’s mum.’

The problem arose when Addy’s mum revealed she’d hired a spa service for the party that only included 10 girls, so they decided not to invite Julie’s child.

Julie eventually tried to pass the situation off as a life lesson, and told her daughter she can’t expect to be invited everywhere.

Julie then sent Sarah’s mum a screenshot of the conversation when she asked for an update.

‘She told me she had decided Sarah wouldn’t attend. She felt it was wrong to not include just one child, and she could see if the kids didn’t get along or had drama, but that wasn’t the case. They hired someone knowing one girl would be left out.’

Julie received a message a week later from Addy’s mum, who told her four girls weren’t attending the party.

‘She felt I had ruined her daughter’s party and was creating drama. I explained I had no ill intentions and had only spoken to one other mum about it.’

Julie wondered if she was in the wrong for reaching out about the party in the first place, and whether she should have just let it be.

Julie was confused when her nine-year-old daughter was excluded from her friend Addy’s birthday party, despite attending a tight-knit school with only 11 girls in her grade

However, many sided with Julie – with several commenting on how ‘cruel’ it was to exclude only one girl from the friend group.

‘Addy’s mum knows there are 11 girls in the class and decided to go for an activity that was limited to 10. That’s where the drama started,’ a woman said.

‘Excluding a single child in a group is skeevy – and thankfully four other parents can see that,’ another wrote.

But some thought the mum was being presumptuous and shouldn’t have asked in the first place.

‘If I’m not told about a party there is no way I’m going to ask! I can take a hint,’ a commenter said.

‘It’s tacky to ask why your child wasn’t invited,’ another wrote. ‘Maybe the other girl’s mum simply doesn’t like your child, that’s perfectly fair, they’re allowed to invite whomever they want to their events.’