Mum-of-two who sparked fury by saying relatives need toddler’s consent to hug or kiss reveals the one thing she can’t stand friends and strangers doing
- A mum revealed she can’t stand friends and strangers ‘parentifying’ her toddler
- Melbourne woman Brittany Baxter said people need to ‘let kids be kids’
- Said people often ask her three-year-old if she is ‘helping with her baby sister’
- Said she is ‘constantly trying to protect my kid’s innocence as she is three’
- Previously went viral saying family need toddler’s consent to hug or kiss her
A mother-of-two who sparked debate after saying even close relatives need to get her toddler’s permission before hugging or kissing the child has revealed why she can’t stand people ‘parentifying’ her daughter.
Brittany Baxter, from Melbourne, said she hates it when friends and relatives ask her three-year-old daughter whether she is ‘helping mummy with the baby’ and ‘taking care of your baby sister’.
‘I don’t understand it,’ Brittany said in a TikTok video.
A mother-of-two who sparked debate after saying even close relatives need to get her toddler’s permission before hugging or kissing the child has revealed why she can’t stand people ‘parentifying’ her daughter (Brittany Baxter pictured)
Brittany (pictured) said she ‘didn’t bring my kids into this world to take care of me or to take care of each other’ and people need to ‘let kids be kids’
The Melbourne mum said it happens ‘so much’ now that she has two kids that friends, relatives and pure strangers come up to her daughter and say ‘are you helping mummy with the baby because being a mummy is a really hard job?’
‘The amount of times I have to be like “no darling, it’s not your responsibility to take care of me or your baby sister because I’m the adult and I’m the mummy and it’s my responsibility to take care of you and your baby sister”,’ Brittany said.
‘Like, I don’t understand. I didn’t bring my kids into this world to take care of me or to take care of each other.’
She added: ‘I mean, way to foster resentment, right? If I’m struggling as the adult, which I have been, it’s still my responsibility to reach out to all the other adults and all the other resources that are available to me to get the help I need, not seek that from my children’.
Brittany concluded: ‘I feel like I’m constantly out here trying to protect my kid’s innocence and she is three. We have the weirdest expectations of kids’.
The video struck a chord with the mum’s followers, who quickly chimed in with their own thoughts on the ‘parentifying’ of toddlers.
‘Why can’t more parents be like that?’ one woman posted. ‘I was made to look after my brother because I was the oldest. Let kids be kids.’
Another added: ‘Yes, yes. I cringe at this too. People say it to my three-year-old son everywhere’.
But not everyone was on board with Brittany’s sentiments, with one parent writing: ‘They are just trying to be nice. Kids like to feel valued and useful’.
Another said: ‘It’s just a comment people say in conversation. They don’t mean it literally’.
Previously, Brittany (pictured) sparked furious debate after saying even close relatives need to get her toddler’s permission before hugging or kissing the child
Previously, Brittany sparked furious debate after saying even close relatives need to get her toddler’s permission before hugging or kissing the child.
She wants people to ask her toddler if they can have a hug and to respect her answer even if it means ‘no hug today’.
Her daughter is allowed to hug family members – but family members cannot assume they have the right to embrace her – they must ask as you would ask another adult.
‘It is your responsibility as an adult and a parent to model that for your child, to practice that with your child – and to help them navigate consent with any caregiver they come into contact with,’ Brittany said.
‘It is not my fault that you think everyone else’s feelings are more important than your child’s right to bodily autonomy.’
Brittany said consent must be taught to children to stop them from becoming a victim or a perpetrator of abuse.
‘We teach and practice consent with our children so that when they become adults they know what it looks like to hold boundaries and have those boundaries be respected,’ she said.
Critics of her approach said she risked raising a snowflake or sociopath.
‘Hahaha. What a self-absorbed idiot. A child needs contact, almost constantly otherwise it will grow up socially inept. It’s what separates us from animals,’ one man said.
‘That child is either going to grow up cruel and loveless, like a sociopath, or completely awkward about human contact,’ another said.
Others called her ‘too woke’ and said such ‘new-age’ parenting would lead to a loveless society.