A woman’s French husband has shared 12 behaviours all women on first dates should look out for if they want to be with ‘elegant’ men – and when to draw the line and move on.
The man is happily married and regularly shares advice about the ‘proper’ way to treat women.
Several of his tactics included ensuring the man is decisive and chooses the restaurant, is punctual, and asks you lots of questions about yourself.
‘If he asks you, “Where should we go? What restaurant should I pick?” without handling the reservation himself, move on,’ the French man said.
‘If there is any hesitation to pick up the check or suggestion to split it – jump to the next.’
A French husband has shared 12 behaviours all women on first dates should look out for if they want to be with ‘elegant’ men – and when to draw the line and move on
The French man listed more traits to keep your eye on.
‘He shouldn’t be late, shouldn’t only talk about himself and not ask about you, and should always offer you the best seat at the table with the nicest view if he’s a true gentleman.
‘A night out without complimenting you is like champagne without bubbles.’
The husband also listed out several etiquette points, and explained the man should never order before their date and always refill their date’s glass of wine and water.
‘He shouldn’t flirt with the waitress or even look at her with charming eyes.
‘He also needs to offer you the first slice of bread and butter it for you,’ the Frenchman said.
Lastly, he added: ‘A man of elegance should always have a suggestion for the next rendezvous.’
What are 12 things all elegant men do on first dates
Pick a restaurant and handle the reservation
Pick up the check
Be on time for the date
Ask lots of questions
Don’t order before your date
Don’t flirt with the waitress
Offer the nicest seat at the table with the better view to your date
Don’t even look at other women
Refill your date’s water and wine glass
Give your date lots of compliments
Offer your date the first slice of bread
Plan ahead for the post-dinner venue
Several women agreed with the French husband’s list.
‘Yes, butter my bread! Refill my wine glass! Compliment me! A true gentleman. Chivalry needs a resuscitation ’cause it’s on life support!’ one wrote.
‘This is legit the bare minimum and my boyfriend can’t do it,’ a woman said
‘Amen! I found my husband at 42 with all those criteria. They’re out there!’ another wrote.
While others claimed the standards were too high.
‘There’s a lot of toxic monogamy in this,’ a woman said.
‘If you’re secure in who you are, you don’t have to try so hard to impress a lady,’ another wrote. ‘Embarrassing.’