Social media users are furiously calling out a man who is upset that he doesn’t have more sex with his wife since she gave birth — particularly because he insisted there’s ‘really no physical issue with her body’ since she had a C-section.
The man shared his complaint with New York Magazine’s The Cut, telling the outlet that he’d like to have sex more often but his wife has been too tired to do it more than once or twice a month since they had a baby.
Since a quote from the piece was shared on Twitter, women — and a few men — have heaped on the criticism, lecturing the man for not being a more supportive partner.
Parenthood: A new dad complained about his lackluster sex life, saying it hasn’t ‘bounced back’ to where it was before he and his wife had kids (stock image)
Yikes… He said there’s ‘no physical issue with her body’ because she had a C-section
The quote came from a piece called ‘3 Dads on Sex With New Moms,’ in which three new fathers share their experiences.
The first one is dissatisfied with his sex life, and a line from his interview was tweeted with a link on Saturday.
‘My wife had a C-section, so there’s really no physical issue with her body. She’s just tired all the time. I’m tired too but never too tired to have sex,’ the quote read.
Comments came pouring in, with Twitter users telling the dad off.
First, many took issue with the claim that there was ‘no physical issue’ because she had a C-section rather than a vaginal birth, pointing out that a C-section is major surgery.
‘They literally cut her open, took out a baby, and sewed her back together. I’d call that pretty physical. Oh wait…maybe you were just considering her “body” one specific area…’ wrote one.
Seriously? Twitter users slammed him, pointing out that a C-section is major surgery
‘No physical issue other than having had surgery after carrying a child inside of said body for 9 months. Nbd,’ wrote another.
‘Carrying precious little one 9 months and… Cutting through skin, muscle and uterus… no physical issue,’ tweeted a third, while a fourth chimed in: ‘Saying there’s no issue with her body may be one of the reasons she hates you.’
Others were just bowled over by the insensitivity.
‘That’s a weird way to phrase “I don’t actually care about my wife,”‘ wrote one man.
‘I hope one day she finds the strength to leave this pathetic excuse for a man,’ a woman replied.
Some people clicked through to read the rest of the man’s quote, learning that the wife didn’t just have a C-section recently, but rather three years ago — and has likely healed.
But they didn’t let him off the hook, either, pointing to another major problem: If she’s tired and he is not, they wrote, then he must not be pulling his weight.
Help more! Their child was born three years ago, and his wife is too ‘tired’ to do it more often. Commenters said that if he isn’t tired and she is, he isn’t pulling his weight
‘If you’re not too tired to have sex, you’re not doing enough to help your wife/partner,’ wrote one.
‘The first story is not even about sex with a new mom. It’s about a man not being able to adjust to the realities of fatherhood three years out,’ said another.
‘I can see why she’d be extra tired, I mean if she’s married to a whiny narcissist like you,’ said a third. ‘There’s the real problem.’
The man, meanwhile, seems resigned to his fate, though it doesn’t seem to have occurred to him that his wife might be less tired if he helped more.
‘Our sex life has not bounced back to where it was, but I’m trying to be patient. We have sex once a month now, maybe twice a month sometimes,’ he wrote.
‘When we have sex, it’s not great sex. It’s low-energy sex, but I’ll take it. I won’t complain about that.
‘The downward spiral of our sex life does make me frustrated with the marriage and pretty angry — not at her, but at the situation.’
He went on: ‘I’d really like to have more sex. My wife had a C-section, so there’s really no physical issue with her body. She’s just tired all the time. I’m tired too but never too tired to have sex.’